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To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

684 replies

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:04

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

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EnoughWithTheEggHuntAlready · 30/03/2024 15:45

BUT WHY DID YOU WISH HIM
LUCK?!

We all want to know Grin

ouch321 · 30/03/2024 15:45

This thread is classic.

OP sounds worse and worse every time she posts.

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 30/03/2024 15:44

Poppasocks · 30/03/2024 15:22

My husband has multiple food allergies and if you'd have done this to him i'd have given you a mouthful of abuse as well!

YABU

Classy

Deathbyfluffy · 30/03/2024 15:41

Medsy · 30/03/2024 15:27

I find it weird that you would give me "a mouthful of abuse" and that you would need to step in for your husband

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I would too, to be fair. It’s the only way entitled idiots learn.

Deathbyfluffy · 30/03/2024 15:40

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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That’s your choice and your problem, I’d have pulled you up on your awful behavior too.

Floralnomad · 30/03/2024 15:39

Stop going on about GF , no one would willingly eat a gf sandwich if they were not gf as the bread is invariably awful and they cost twice the price . You were totally wrong to ask him

Accipe · 30/03/2024 15:37

MrsPoliportsGoose · 30/03/2024 13:10

Ywbu and rather entitled I think, fair play for having the neck to ask.

This threads reminds me that about 10 years ago I was in a busy supermarket car park in a parent and child bay, lifting my three year old grandchild out of her car seat. A car stopped and the driver thought that because she had a baby and the granddaughter could walk then she had more right to that parking place than me!!! I simply laughed at her as we walked to the store.

Redpaisley · 30/03/2024 15:36

Op, you didn't deserve any abuse but you put the man in awkward situation. You cannot judge his reasons for going for cheese sandwich.

However, you were not that rude, maybe a bit clueless which happens to all of us from time to time.
Next time get some snacks for train and make a sandwich at home.

betterangels · 30/03/2024 15:36

You're winding everyone up, right? Not like you couldn't have chosen something else in the shop. No one should be this entitled. He was there first. Why did you feel this was OK to do?

Simonjt · 30/03/2024 15:35

Surely you could have just bought a beef based sandwich as you aren’t concerned about the welfare of cattle.

rollonretirementfgs · 30/03/2024 15:34

Everythinggreen · 30/03/2024 15:31

Try being a vegan when the vegetarians come and take the last of our stuff while declaring loudly they need it (has happened a few times to me) and they say it's vegans who announce things 😂

Poor you! Don't be vegan then.

walkerscrispsarethenuts · 30/03/2024 15:34

He obviously wanted the cheese, which is why he didn't pick up one of the others!

What was his response?

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 30/03/2024 15:34

Apolloneuro · 30/03/2024 15:31

The woman wasn’t his bloody mum though! If he had a problem with it, he could use his words. I hate the way some women treat their husbands like children.

He deserved to not have that sandwich for being stunned into silence by a random woman wanting his lunch. OP DOESN'T EVEN LIKE CHEESE.

Quickcutter · 30/03/2024 15:33

I just think it depends on whom you happen to ask. It wouldn’t have bothered me. But then I have some awful allergies so maybe it’s just understanding someone else’s issues.

JudgeJ · 30/03/2024 15:32

RoomOfRequirement · 30/03/2024 13:17

This is the most hilarious, sanctimonious crap I've read on here.

Today, anyway.

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Yep, even by MN standards that's sanctimonious crap!

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 30/03/2024 15:32

Never antagonise anyone in the Co op.

Apolloneuro · 30/03/2024 15:31

The woman wasn’t his bloody mum though! If he had a problem with it, he could use his words. I hate the way some women treat their husbands like children.

BIossomtoes · 30/03/2024 15:31

Crabcakeswin · 30/03/2024 15:12

I think it's fine to politely ask, just as it's fine for him to say no. Not sure why so many people are so aggrieved by this!

I know. If it’s any consolation @Medsy, I’d have let you have the sandwich.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 30/03/2024 15:31

You should've got a Ginsters instead.

Everythinggreen · 30/03/2024 15:31

Try being a vegan when the vegetarians come and take the last of our stuff while declaring loudly they need it (has happened a few times to me) and they say it's vegans who announce things 😂

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SmileyClare · 30/03/2024 15:31

Cheesy Fucker 😂

rollonretirementfgs · 30/03/2024 15:29

@Medsy this thread couldn't make you look any worse. Maybe time to reign it in and accept you are VERY unreasonable!

Apolloneuro · 30/03/2024 15:29

As a fellow veggie, I get why you asked. I wouldn’t have though. It’s just tough luck. I’d have grabbed a protein milkshake, piece of fruit and a packet of crisps.

Spirallingdownwards · 30/03/2024 15:28

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:36

I asked really politely if there was any chance he would change his mind and he seemed to be hesitating when the woman came from behind me and said "excuse me? That is so rude!". I just ignored her and said thanks anyway and good luck to the guy.
If someone was gluten free or could only eat halal or kosher and asked me the way I did, I'd just think sure. Don't see the problem but clearly I'm in the minority.

So she didn't go batshit after all.

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 15:27

Poppasocks · 30/03/2024 15:22

My husband has multiple food allergies and if you'd have done this to him i'd have given you a mouthful of abuse as well!

YABU

I find it weird that you would give me "a mouthful of abuse" and that you would need to step in for your husband

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