To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

Wtf?! No, choose something else.

I have no difficulty believing Op was rude as her sense of entitlement comes through clearly in this thread. Thus there is no point taking her account of the woman's reactions as unbiased. Someone saying "Excuse me? That was rude" is not going batshit.

Throughout this whole thread I don't see that the man said he is a meat eater - maybe he is vegetarian too 🤔

You should bear the burden of your "ethical" choices and not pass them on to others.

Yabu if the last one is being picked up it’s just bad luck, I have to have the gluten free ones and if I saw someone else picking it up I’d just go buy something else not from the meal deal instead of asking as it’s just going to piss people off or make them feel guilted into giving up the sandwich.

I generally avoid pre-packaged sandwiches as they aren’t great, but I buy one occasionally if I’m in a rush and en route somewhere. Despite being a meat-eater, I always buy a cheese sandwich. As others have said, the meat in packaged sandwiches is usually very low quality and not at all appealing. So if you had asked me to let you buy the sandwich and I had agreed, I would have ended up without a sandwich.

Did they not have any of those pasta pots? Or was there another shop in the vicinity?

I do think you were a bit U to ask. I’d have felt really awkward and guilty if you’d asked me- even though I don’t think people should be made to feel guilty for buying a sandwich that they want to eat.

She was right, you were really rude.

You should just leave other shoppers in peace.

The last time I was in the co-op someone asked me to buy them a bottle of vodka, and on the way out someone else asked if I was ready for judgement day. So you would have hardly crossed my radar OP. I don't think it was that bad really. He may have just been grabbing whatever was nearest and not cared that much, and if he
didn't want to swap, all he had to do was tell you no. No need for all the drama and offence taken.

I'm not vegetarian or vegan. What I am is a bit odd with food. There are very few prepacked sandwiches I can bring myself to eat. Its psychological. I hate the textures of some. I fear illness from others. So for me that cheese sandwhich would be a choice, not a philosophical one but I'd definitely be wanting the sandwhich above all others

No, the diagnosis is. Women still struggle to be recognised or taken seriously, hence it was barely recognised women could even BE autistic, let alone ADD.

Your lack of planning is not someone else's problem, op.

Rtft to see the women only said "excuse me that is so rude". So she didn't give OP a mouthful of abuse at all.

Could you not have just grabbed some fruit and a packet of crackers or a pastry or something. I can't imagine my first thought being to ask someone else to give up their choice.

Sorry but no kind of dietary requirement (and I’m personally familiar with a few) makes you more entitled to have the sandwich in this situation. It would be different at eg an event where people had expressed their requirements in advance and had been specifically catered for. But here you were unreasonable. Every customer in the shop has equal rights to the sandwich and if he got there first then it’s his to take. If he’d been there 10 minutes earlier, he wouldn’t have needed to think “better not take this in case a vegetarian comes along soon”. Honestly, your behaviour was very entitled.

Or maybe he was so flummoxed at the CF OP he was lost for words and trying to think how to politely say no until his partner told her she was rude to ask.

None of your business what or why strangers eat. Choose something else!!!!!

You are not the only vegetarian in the world OP, what if he is too? Or maybe he is allergic to things in the other sandwiches? Setting all that aside he got there first. Even if he just fancied a cheese sandwich then he’s just as entitled to it as you. Was there no salads you could’ve had? Or a Greggs with a vegan sausage roll nearby?

You’re being incredibly sanctimonious and unreasonable 🤣

Asking whether he wouldn’t mind giving you the sandwich was technically fine. Unusual but that shouldn’t have gotten you yelled at. Especially if you asked politely.

But your general behaviour on this thread makes me believe that you probably weren’t particularly polite when you asked…

And you asked him about this diet? And implied that he should give you the sandwich if he didn’t have a particular lifestyle? No way. How rude!

Charming. The OP might have been in the wrong here, but there’d be no excuse to give her a “mouthful of abuse”.

Not everyone can "use their words"

Philosophical reasons

Good luck spending his life with the old nag who stood up for him and his love of mild cheddar. Right, op?

And I hate the way that some women use patronising, ableist language like that when neurodiversity is weighed heavily (4:1) - in respect of ASD - towards males compared to females.

You’re a joker OP

Did you offer to pay the difference between the (certainly cheaper) cheese sandwich you felt had your name on it and the more expensive meat option that you feel he could definitely have been persuaded to.