To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

@Enigma52 maybe the wife was worried they were going to fall in love over a shared sandwich

You could have gone halves with the man!😂😂

Are you for real?
Does this man NEED to be a vegetarian to purchase a cheese sandwich?? He can buy what he wants! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Because it’s nice to be nice! And sometimes you pick something up because it’s the easiest option (i.e. I don’t like sandwiches but sometimes I’m time poor and it’s a quick fix) The maddest thing about all of these responses is how offended some people are by the OP asking someone if they wouldn’t mind swapping a sandwich. She’s been called all sorts. That’s the ‘maddest thing here’ 👀

Asking was he a vegetarian was unacceptable. His motivation for his choice was none of your business.

Asking "fancy doing a swop?" would have been acceptable.

Balls to that - regardless of chivalry it’s my sandwich! 😅

You wanna share in the picnic park? 🤣

Ah what a happy ending…

the sandwich would have to go three ways to include his wife of course but they could have all supplemented with Pringles and op could have told them all about the philosophy of vegetarianism over their third of a sandwich. 😊

But he got the sandwich first. Anyone would think the man snatched it out of her hands.

Did op ever say how this ended? Did she
get Into a shouting match with his wife or did she just walk away (sans sandwich).

@ChedderGorgeous

There is sexual tension oozing through that dialogue.

No wonder his wife was cross.

I'm not veggie but never eat meat in a pre-made sandwich. And I would have looked at you like you were some weirdo and walked off with my cheese ploughman's sandwich.

Oh, give over. Sweet Jesus!
I hope I never encounter you in the supermarket.

Absolutely. Sometimes a bit of humour in a tense situation can completely diffuse things:
"What if we split it?"
"LOL what?"
"Let's split the last sandwich!".
Then everyone gets a bit of sandwich and also a story to tell later !

Are you actually serious? 😬

I think there could have been some compromise here, as always. Could you have split the remaining sandwich and then supplemented from the rest of the shop to bulk out? Were you eating close enough together e.g campsite / Picnic Park or about to go your separate ways ?

When people say vegetarians/vegans come across as entitled I never realised how right they were. WHO the fuck do you think you are.

Meh op has been pretty denigrating about the “bat shit” wife and other misogynistic comments about the “wife vibe” on this thread. I’m not saying all young women act like this either- no need to take offence on behalf of your daughters or women in general!

Most men are not “more likely” to abuse women than be polite to women in a shop. Not in my experience anyway.

I want to know how old you are now @Medsy (and still waiting for explanation as to the good luck thing!)

Oh come on, this is a daft post. I'm middle aged but my DDs are young attractive women and know well that sadly random lone men are far more likely to abuse young women rather than be "putty in their hands"

They also have more respect for women as they wouldn't make such a post denigrating other women in this stereotyping way.

Op, I really hope this is a made up thread & you’re not really as obnoxious as you come across. Otherwise, I really hope I never get to meet you.

you said it wasn’t applying any pressure, asking the question to someone that had already made their choice was applying pressure for them to change their mind.

You being vegetarian is your philosophy & someone choosing not to eat heavily processed meat is their choice. Get a grip. What part of your philosophy for not eating meat is to encourage others to eat it?

your responses to many of the posts here have done nothing but make you come across as a more & more selfish & entitled person than you did originally.

although the vast majority of people have said they believe you were in the wrong & rude, you have taken no heed of this. Why post on AIBU?! Were you just looking to see how many people you could offend in your hangry state after being unable to purchase the single item in a supermarket you would have been able to consume in line with your philosophy?

To give you the benefit of the doubt, you’re probably young, think you have the world sussed out- the arrogance of youth and all that.

We all know (as women) that if you approach a lone man in a shop with a smile and ask for something sweetly, they’re putty in your hands. Most would hand over their entire meal deal because they love to be chivalrous to young attractive women.

Unfortunately, women have little respect for other women who use this ploy to get something they want and you did it without realising his wife was standing right behind him 😬

Were you hoping for more sympathy if you came back to the thread dressed as a Crying Mushroom?
Worth a try 🤣

What a weird thing to do. What if he just didn’t like the other things on sale? He got there first so tough luck.

Also wondering how its strange when this is literally what happened 🤔

OP and for what it's worth I voted remain

OP whilst you assert you are not rude or entitled, the belligerent manner in which you are dismissing others opinions on a topic you posted, presumably to garner opinions and responses, only serves to show you as indeed rude and entitled.

Why did you post? What were you hoping to achieve? You obviously think you were behaving in a normal manner. If so, why post?
I think it's normal to choose a bath over a shower this morning. Why would I seek comments about this decision? I wouldn't because it's not something I ponder as an opinion piece.

Forget it's worth I think speaking with people is fine. Putting people in position where they feel in any way pressured is not fine. That you doubled down by not just mentioning your desire for the sandwich but putting a qualifier of you beings vegetarian and asking if they were tips you over into pressurising