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To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:04

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

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KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 17:48

MadAntonia · 30/03/2024 17:43

Expecting him to let her have the sandwich would have been entitled.

Asking politely is not entitled.

Perhaps if they reached it at the same time, but asking once he already selected it is definitely entitled.

CheeseSandwichRiskAssessment · 30/03/2024 17:47

I love that you had the balls to ask but shouldn't have phrased it like that, like many PPs I'm not a vegetarian but don't eat supermarket meat sandwiches. If I had been hesitating between two different ones I wouldn't mind giving up the one you asked for.

Btw supermarkets should be taking notes on how many of us non-veggies refuse to eat their cold meats and make some changes 🤔

SherrieElmer · 30/03/2024 17:46

Jesuschrist, the fucking cheek of you to ask for that. It you have opted to be a vegetarian that is you and your problem. Do not make it somebody else's.
Shameful.

chocolategg · 30/03/2024 17:44

CatkinToadflax · 30/03/2024 17:39

It was probably the wife’s sandwich.

Oooh hadn't considered that possibility

MadAntonia · 30/03/2024 17:43

Expecting him to let her have the sandwich would have been entitled.

Asking politely is not entitled.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 17:40

MadAntonia · 30/03/2024 17:37

You only asked. You did so politely.

You are not being unreasonable.

This is irony, right?
The polite thing would have been to not even ask.

AcrossthePond55 · 30/03/2024 17:40

Mrbumpssmile · 30/03/2024 17:34

Figs?!

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I think that's because some little wasp burrows in and lays eggs in figs or something. So I guess technically a veggie would be eating meat if they ate a fig with wasp eggs in it?

I'd think that'd be more of a 'vegan thing' though, since don't some veggies eat eggs?

CatkinToadflax · 30/03/2024 17:39

It was probably the wife’s sandwich.

MadAntonia · 30/03/2024 17:37

You only asked. You did so politely.

You are not being unreasonable.

empee47 · 30/03/2024 17:35

Yes, you were very definitely unreasonable, and so entitled to boot. He got there first - why do you think your needs trump his? Unbelievable!

Mrbumpssmile · 30/03/2024 17:34

potato57 · 30/03/2024 17:28

I think these ones are vegetarian, but there are lots of weird things that aren't actually vegetarian, like figs.

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Figs?!

chocolategg · 30/03/2024 17:30

Whatifthehokeycokey · 30/03/2024 17:17

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

Surely if your philosophy was that important to you, you would be happy that the man was choosing a meat-free sandwich? And keen to encourage it. By encouraging him to take a meat sandwich instead, you're communicating to the shop that they need to order more meat sandwiches, rather than letting them realise they need more vegetarian since they'd run out, and to order more vegetarian and fewer meat in future.

If you really cared about your philosophy, you would forego a sandwich if that prevented someone else from eating a dead animal, no?

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This is a key point. Many are overlooking. You should have sacrificed the cheese sandwhich dor the greater good.

chocolategg · 30/03/2024 17:29

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 17:08

What now?

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Yes I'm not sure I got that either!

ColourMeBlue · 30/03/2024 17:28

I really want to see a post headed 'woman asked my husband for the last cheese sandwich'😂

unsync · 30/03/2024 17:28

Entitled CF.

potato57 · 30/03/2024 17:28

ToRecordOnlyWater · 30/03/2024 13:12

@Whatevershallidowithmylife What is in them that would make them not vegetarian? I’m veggie and always used to have them. They’re not vegan obviously but are vegetarian unless I’m missing something?

I think these ones are vegetarian, but there are lots of weird things that aren't actually vegetarian, like figs.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 17:27

NotTerfNorCis · 30/03/2024 17:25

I don't think you were rude. I suppose you did put him in an awkward position if he's not vegetarian and really wanted the cheese sandwich, but I don't see the harm in asking, because the alternative was for you to go hungry.

Put it another way - I wouldn't have minded if someone had asked me that.

I doubt there was absolutely nothing else OP could have eaten, she just felt entitled to the cheese sandwich.

HoldingTheDoor · 30/03/2024 17:27

but I don't see the harm in asking, because the alternative was for you to go hungry.

I doubt it unless that one sandwich was the only vegetarian item in the entire shop and the store the only one in town.

mitogoshi · 30/03/2024 17:27

That's pretty rude (a) he might be vegetarian (b) he might prefer cheese

NotTerfNorCis · 30/03/2024 17:25

I don't think you were rude. I suppose you did put him in an awkward position if he's not vegetarian and really wanted the cheese sandwich, but I don't see the harm in asking, because the alternative was for you to go hungry.

Put it another way - I wouldn't have minded if someone had asked me that.

Whatifthehokeycokey · 30/03/2024 17:24

Hoppinggreen · 30/03/2024 13:51

You could, the fact that you dont is a preference

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Not a philosophy.

MustBeGinOclock · 30/03/2024 17:19

Omg so entitled of you!

BCBird · 30/03/2024 17:18

Ot would not have bothered me if u had asked me.

ShiteRider · 30/03/2024 17:17

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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What utter horseshit.

Why are your philosophical beliefs any better than someone who chooses not to eat processed meat? Of course it’s a choice - just a different choice.

FFS don’t become vegan, you’d just reinforce every negative stereotype of vegans out there

Whatifthehokeycokey · 30/03/2024 17:17

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

Surely if your philosophy was that important to you, you would be happy that the man was choosing a meat-free sandwich? And keen to encourage it. By encouraging him to take a meat sandwich instead, you're communicating to the shop that they need to order more meat sandwiches, rather than letting them realise they need more vegetarian since they'd run out, and to order more vegetarian and fewer meat in future.

If you really cared about your philosophy, you would forego a sandwich if that prevented someone else from eating a dead animal, no?