Page 13 | To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

Medsy · 2024-03-30T13:04:48+00:00

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude. It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich. WIBU?

ZoeCM · 30/03/2024 21:38

Genuinely surprised this isn't at least 95% YABU!

Deathbyfluffy · 30/03/2024 21:37

Lougle · 30/03/2024 21:26

You were confident, I'll give you that. I was standing in front of some reduced sandwiches, so phoned my daughters to ask what they wanted. As I was doing so, a man grinned and reached around me to swipe all the good ones.

So you hadn’t selected any and they were all up for grabs - fair game.
Totally different and perfectly acceptable IMO

mirax · 30/03/2024 21:35

SmokedPaprikaPuffs · 30/03/2024 21:10

I'm vegetarian and way too socially awkward to ever ask this of a stranger. I maybe would have asked a friend I was with but not just a random man who happened to take a sandwich first.
The wife having a go is funny, bet she's still going on about it now.

We have incontrovertible evidence on this thread that it is Op who is still having a hissy fit over the incident. I suspect the batshit one isnt the wife.

TakeOnFlea · 30/03/2024 21:33

The fucking cheek of you 🤣🤣

Pmsl, the state of this world.

GlitterBall91 · 30/03/2024 21:32

Firstly yabu for comparing vegetarianism to gluten intolerance/coeliac disease.. i say that as a vegan with a coeliac child.

But anyway that’s not the point- yabu also in relation to your question

minipie · 30/03/2024 21:32

Your philosophy is a preference.

HTH

mirax · 30/03/2024 21:31

Medsy · 30/03/2024 16:52

Well clearly I live on another planet (duly accepted!) because I actually feel the complete opposite to you. I find it concerning and sad to live in a society where someone can't politely, in a friendly way and applying no pressure, ask if there's any chance someone would be okay with swapping sandwiches. It's hardly "Hey do you mind if I take a dump un your basket?" is it?
He could have said "actually I'm veggie too" or "actually I've been really craving a cheese sandwich, sorry!" and I would have said no problem! Or he might have said "sure, I was torn between that and the chicken coronation anyway so knock yourself out".

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Except you werent all that airy when given actual feedback were you? You ignored the woman who spoke up too, using her voice and felt angry. You left the couple with a passive aggressive dig. You are not a monster of course, not a single pp said that, so this is another deflection of yours.

FasterthanaButteredOtter · 30/03/2024 21:31

So the wife didn't go "batshit" - she just pointed out that you were rude. Which you were.
Ps vegetarianism isn't a philosophy.

Justpontificating · 30/03/2024 21:26

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

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I’m a veggie and I go on self catering holidays with my own frying pan.
It’s best to just be prepared….dibdib😁

tkwal · 30/03/2024 21:26

He was there first
You could have bought a loaf/pack of rolls and filling for very little more than the cost of a pre made sandwich

Lougle · 30/03/2024 21:26

You were confident, I'll give you that. I was standing in front of some reduced sandwiches, so phoned my daughters to ask what they wanted. As I was doing so, a man grinned and reached around me to swipe all the good ones.

Mrbumpssmile · 30/03/2024 21:23

LubyLooTwo · 30/03/2024 21:17

You come over as being a pretty entitled person insisting someone gives up their sandwich preference for you.

Asking nicely is not "insisting" by any stretch.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 21:22

TopperfTroon · 30/03/2024 21:08

I can’t see the issue. I don’t think it’s entitled to ask. Heaven help us if we’re all so snippy when someone asks us a favour. The comments on this thread have saddened me.

It's also quite sad that people feel they are more entitled to a sandwich than the person who already selected it, especially as there will undoubtedly be other options.

Justpontificating · 30/03/2024 21:22

ToRecordOnlyWater · 30/03/2024 13:12

@Whatevershallidowithmylife What is in them that would make them not vegetarian? I’m veggie and always used to have them. They’re not vegan obviously but are vegetarian unless I’m missing something?

Lots of cheese is not vegetarian.
Well hard cheeses anyway not the soft ones.

Some hard cheeses have calf’s stomach in them to make them hard.
Veggie ones have artificial rennet instead.

bakewellbride · 30/03/2024 21:21

I just really want a sandwich now!

LubyLooTwo · 30/03/2024 21:17

You come over as being a pretty entitled person insisting someone gives up their sandwich preference for you.

hot2trotter · 30/03/2024 21:11

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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😂😂😂😂😂 fucking hell this has got to be a wind up

BigBoysDontCry · 30/03/2024 21:11

But it wasn't the last thing that the Op could eat. She could have eaten a non vegetarian sandwich or picked something else entirely. The bloke had already removed it from the shelf. Up to what point do you think its okay to ask someone for something they've already selected? At the till? What if you see something in someone's trolly that you really want, is it okay to ask them then, or just when they are standing nearby with it in their hand?

Of course it's rude and entitled.

I don't think having this behaviour pointed out to this CF was going "batshit" in the slightest.

SmokedPaprikaPuffs · 30/03/2024 21:10

I'm vegetarian and way too socially awkward to ever ask this of a stranger. I maybe would have asked a friend I was with but not just a random man who happened to take a sandwich first.
The wife having a go is funny, bet she's still going on about it now.

TopperfTroon · 30/03/2024 21:08

I can’t see the issue. I don’t think it’s entitled to ask. Heaven help us if we’re all so snippy when someone asks us a favour. The comments on this thread have saddened me.

Vergingontheridiculous · 30/03/2024 21:03

This thread is hilarious.

FWIW I also would have been ok with you asking for a cheese sandwich if it's the last one you could actually eat. Assuming you didn't grab it from the poor man who cannot possibly use his big boy voice and ran away with it screaming "death to the carnivores!"

To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

Roryhon · 30/03/2024 21:02

I actually think it was ok to politely ask him. He could say no. I’d have given you the cheese. Perhaps it’s more normal for me, I was cabin crew and always had to nicely ask people to swap their meal choices!

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 21:01

Longdarkcloud · 30/03/2024 20:55

I just can’t understand the general response here. Why should it be rude or offensive to politely ask someone if they really need something or whether another would suit because of your requirements. He just has to say, no I want this one. No need for his wife to comment.
Most places I’ve lived in outside the UK, this would be totally ok and would be an opportunity to exchange pleasantries. On MN almost all behaviour can be seen as cause to be on the defensive. Lighten up and be pleasant

He selected it because he wanted it.
It's no longer an option available to OP the minute someone else selects it. She needs to select something else.

StarlightLime · 30/03/2024 21:00

Longdarkcloud · 30/03/2024 20:55

I just can’t understand the general response here. Why should it be rude or offensive to politely ask someone if they really need something or whether another would suit because of your requirements. He just has to say, no I want this one. No need for his wife to comment.
Most places I’ve lived in outside the UK, this would be totally ok and would be an opportunity to exchange pleasantries. On MN almost all behaviour can be seen as cause to be on the defensive. Lighten up and be pleasant

He didn't have to "really need" it.
He had chosen it and picked it up, most normal people would have accepted it was off limits to them at that point.
Op's requirements weren't such that they could only be met by that guy's sandwich!

Boomboxio · 30/03/2024 20:58

VisitationRights · 30/03/2024 20:40

I would not have
minded at all if you asked me. I would have accommodated if I could or politely declined if I could not.

Exactly the same

I wouldn't do it myself but I wouldn't mind someone else asking me.