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To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

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Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:04

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

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CharlotteBog · 30/03/2024 22:35

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

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You could probably have got either a single or small pack of rolls or some crackers, and then some cream cheese and a pot of ready made salad.
Supermarket sandwiches are pretty rank IMO.

DodoTired · 30/03/2024 22:31

I can’t believe the indignation here. She just ASKED. Don’t ask - don’t get. He could have said no. Is the issue that people just can’t imagine saying no??

MummaMummaJumma · 30/03/2024 22:31

God, all this talk of cheese sandwiches really makes me fancy one… or some bat shit 🤔

Eastre · 30/03/2024 22:28

Rude. Your wants don’t trump anyone else’s.

I eat meat, but I would have chosen the cheese sandwhich too

iwafs · 30/03/2024 22:27

I think it’s not really the done thing.

the etiquette in a shop like that is if you’ve picked it up, nobody else has any right to it

Mindovermatter247 · 30/03/2024 22:26

I mean I wouldn’t have gone bat shit, but I’m defo not giving it up either. It’s not his problem you’re vegetarian, what happens if he can only eat certain ingredients. Screams entitlement on your end OP.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 22:24

Eyeroll2024 · 30/03/2024 22:22

Nothing whatsoever wrong with asking, bit batshit to claim otherwise. So long as you were polite he could politely say no. People are SO weird, imagine thinking this was anything unacceptable. Sorry about his horrible wife too

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Eyeroll2024 · 30/03/2024 22:22

Nothing whatsoever wrong with asking, bit batshit to claim otherwise. So long as you were polite he could politely say no. People are SO weird, imagine thinking this was anything unacceptable. Sorry about his horrible wife too

Lougle · 30/03/2024 22:22

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 22:16

Perhaps, to him, you were trolley blocking.

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Maybe...I wasn't really that invested. I was just checking if my girls wanted sandwiches and if so, which ones. If he felt that his need was greater, fair enough.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 30/03/2024 22:16

Lougle · 30/03/2024 22:03

Perhaps, but it was a small trolley, and I was standing directly in front of it, so he practically had to hug me to reach around me, so I did feel he could have at least said 'Excuse me.'

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Perhaps, to him, you were trolley blocking.

Alargeoneplease89 · 30/03/2024 22:15

84% of people are batshit crazy, honestly can't believe people think you are unreasonable just asking?

Crayfishforyou · 30/03/2024 22:15

It’s OK for you to ask. It’s OK for him to say no.
End of.

Livelovebehappy · 30/03/2024 22:13

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:04

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

I guess it depends how you approached him, and the tone. For his wife to kick off like that, I suspect your query came over more aggressively than you’re suggesting here.

Longma · 30/03/2024 22:12

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Alargeoneplease89 · 30/03/2024 22:06

Poppasocks · 30/03/2024 15:22

My husband has multiple food allergies and if you'd have done this to him i'd have given you a mouthful of abuse as well!

YABU

Op isn't a mind reader and asked - she didn't demand... People are so odd and aggressive.

Lougle · 30/03/2024 22:03

Deathbyfluffy · 30/03/2024 21:37

So you hadn’t selected any and they were all up for grabs - fair game.
Totally different and perfectly acceptable IMO

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Perhaps, but it was a small trolley, and I was standing directly in front of it, so he practically had to hug me to reach around me, so I did feel he could have at least said 'Excuse me.'

Moro93 · 30/03/2024 21:58

Talk about entitlement…

It was incredibly rude to ask. I’m presuming the woman knew the man (like you said, maybe his wife or something) if she called you out on it. He could be shy or something for all you know and she was worried he’d feel pressured.

I would have just rolled my eyes if I overheard but if you’d asked me I’d have probably been quite rude and told you not to be so entitled.

I also eat meat but only get cheese or cheese and onion sandwiches if I’m buying one.

I can’t believe you’d actually say ‘good luck’ to the man as well and still think you aren’t rude 🙄

MaryFuckingFerguson · 30/03/2024 21:55

Did this really happen? If so, you’re utterly ridiculous. I wouldn’t have had a go, as I’m classier than that. But I would possibly have politely laughed.

easilydistracted1 · 30/03/2024 21:54

I think you were super rude. You have zero idea if he had any food restrictions himself. I'm vegan, my wife is very not vegan but has a really restricted plain diet linked to being autistic. She probably would have given you the sandwich and not eaten if alone. I would have told you where to get off and pointed you to the rolls and homous if you were there

StarlightLime · 30/03/2024 21:52

Offredsrevenge · 30/03/2024 21:47

I wouldn’t have minded you asking, but I’d have felt a bit awkward if there was only cold meat sandwiches left as I don’t like them!

I wouldn’t ask though, but did loudly exclaim to my then fussy toddler DS, “oh no they haven’t got the only sandwich you’ll eat today, they’ve run out of plain ham sandwiches” as I saw somebody take the last one. They looked over but didn’t offer it up! No way would I have asked them to swap! 🤣

Why would they offer it up? Make him one at home if he's that fussy?

Headinthesand21 · 30/03/2024 21:50

Sorry but you were rude and it’s a strange thing to do. I say that as a vegan

ZiriForGood · 30/03/2024 21:47

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

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Wtf? Why does your philosophy of vegetarianism trump a philosophy of reducing ultra processed food?

I'm not vegetarian, but I don't like eating majority of meaty sandwiches, and I don't want to explain my preference to random entitled vegetarian.

boychucker · 30/03/2024 21:47

SherrieElmer · 30/03/2024 17:46

Jesuschrist, the fucking cheek of you to ask for that. It you have opted to be a vegetarian that is you and your problem. Do not make it somebody else's.
Shameful.

Shameful. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Offredsrevenge · 30/03/2024 21:47

I wouldn’t have minded you asking, but I’d have felt a bit awkward if there was only cold meat sandwiches left as I don’t like them!

I wouldn’t ask though, but did loudly exclaim to my then fussy toddler DS, “oh no they haven’t got the only sandwich you’ll eat today, they’ve run out of plain ham sandwiches” as I saw somebody take the last one. They looked over but didn’t offer it up! No way would I have asked them to swap! 🤣

xyz111 · 30/03/2024 21:44

Classic Aibu?
Everyone : yes
Op: no I'm not.