AIMB to embrace the grey?

I'm not dyeing mine, I'm still mostly blonde but I'm too lazy to dye it!

Mid-50s, love my silver hair! I feel like a platinum blonde 😊

I like my white

@Soontobe60 oh sure, I agree it's usually obvious when hair is coloured. But i still think people look older with grey hair

I’m 57 and definitely not going back to dying it dark brown as it used to be.

@theriseandfallofFranklinSaint does it not occur to you that your whole post is just a display of learned, socialised sexism? All that "men look better grey" and "why would women want to look older" is entirely the product of women being valued only as youthful, pretty sex objects.

I'm 38. Started getting greys in my early thirties. But it's been a slow process so far. I have never dyed my hair, and I don't intend to start.

I take my hat off to you! I have tried to embrace the grey but hate it (on me). My skin colour is awful against it and the actual spread of grey and white in my hair results in a crappy natural colour (not that gorgeous steely white grey so many lucky ladies have).

I could not let it continue during lockdown and went back to dyeing roots every 4-5weeks. It grows like bloody summer hay, so never lasts!!
I honestly wish the wearing of wigs was as normal as getting nails and lashes done. I’d be up in the morning, five minutes for make up, wig plonked on and out the door!

I'm 55 and don't care if anyone thinks I'm older. I like my hair, its a nice colour and is in good condition.
I'm too fat, I have wrinkly eyes and everything is heading south. Tbh my hair is my saving grace 😄

Nothing coarse or uneven in any of the pictures here. Mine certainly isn’t.

Yeah, my random section looks a sort of dark greyish brown now (my hair was originally a mid brown, might have darkened over the years) but it's hard to tell what exactly it is, because i only see the strands mixed in with the proper pale grey when I pull the ends in front. I suspect I'm stuck with it now!

I'm very very hopeful it will all go white! Or at least grey. The sort of browny bits are getting greyer all the time!

@theriseandfallofFranklinSaint · Today 15:18

No, because unfortunately men can get away with grey hair much more than women can. They don't look washed out and older (thinking of the few women I know who have gone grey) they generally just look like men their own age with grey hair.

Not a popular thing to post on here, but I agree. Men do look better with grey hair than women. I mean, women look OK with it grey over 60, but if a man and a woman (aged 40) have greying hair, it will look better on him IMO. As I say, not a popular view, and you will get accusations of misogyny, but I agree with you - men carry off greying hair better than women (under the age of 60 anyway.)

I just can't imagine why any woman would want to let themselves be seen with greying hair/grey while they're only in their 40s - or 30s. (Or even early-mid 50s.) I know some younger women DYE it grey (seems to be in fashion for 5 minutes!) It's different when it's naturally grey, as it often looks coarse and uneven. And yes it does make you look older than you would if it was dyed blonde or brown (whatever your original colour was.)

I’m 50 this year, I have long, natural gingery brown hair which is greying pretty rapidly these days. Still at the stage where it looks like highlights but definitely taking over.

I haven’t dyed my hair in at least 20 years, I’ve no plans to start now.

I hate this narrative that it ages women, it makes us look washed out etc….I am me, I look like me. A fatter, older version of myself from 20 years ago maybe but still me🤷‍♀️ No big surprise that I don’t look the same as when I was younger. Thankfully I don’t feel the same either, I’m so much more confident in who I am that I don’t care to keep up with beauty ideals that used to feel important years ago.

No it doesn’t. Getting old makes you look older. People with grey hair who dye it to disguise the grey are fooling no one. We all know it’s dyed. We all know you’re getting older!

Maybe sometimes but I know a couple of women with long grey hair & both look fantastic.

Osmo purple shampoo - buy it on Amazon. I don't use it every wash but it really brightens my gray up.

I don't think long grey hair looks good.. can be nice on short though

What a ridiculous comment. Women with grey hair don't look more washed out than men with grey hair, as with men, they just look like women of their age with grey hair.
Talk about double standards.

As other posters have said, let's see some photos of all these women criticising other women for having grey hair, let's see if they really do look years younger than their age, better than grey haired women, less washed out, less lazy and more bothered about themselves, let's see the proof.

@SewingIsMySuperPower My sister and I have the weird not-going-grey section at the back too! A horizontal band that's more or less kept its original colour. She's seventy and I'm sixty and we use the purple shampoo too.

I tend to pop up on these threads. Started going grey at 19, stopped dying at 37. Never had as many compliments from randoms on my hair as I have done since giving up the dye. So not just family and friends, but people on the street, stopping me purely to comment on the colour of my hair. I’m 41 now and haven’t looked back. Does it make me look older. Maybe. I dunno. Doesn’t make me look younger. But I can’t afford a dye job every week which is literally the only way I could keep any kind of colour looking good.

My advice is to go for it. What’s the worst that can happen? You hate it and dye it again. In the meantime you get a break from that relentless cycle of of having one week of nice hair, before the greys starting to come through again. That relaxing feeling of not wondering my roots are showing every time I catch myself in a mirror is priceless.

I'm 41 and have been going grey for a long time (at least 18ish years). As I had naturally blonde hair it wasn't very noticeable until my blonde hair started getting a bit darker. I did highlights, the full colour until 6 years ago when I started trying to go lighter without bleach (my hair is very long and my hairdresser wouldn't bleach it). Then just before covid i started toning it grey which I LOVED! I stopped having it dyed completely. My hair grows pretty fast and my 'roots' are almost gone. I'm far too lazy to go back to the maintenance colouring it requires.

The front is almost white and it gets greyer the further back it goes. I'll be much happier when it's all white (I assume it will eventually all go white based on the front) as I don't love the sort of browny/grey that the back is! I use a lot if purple shampoo and conditioner so it has a vaguely lilac tinge.

It's been an adjustment in terms of the make up and clothes I wear though as without make up I do feel like I look about 100 🤣

I get soooo many compliments on it though! I think it's still unusual for someone my age to be grey naturally so it does draw attention.

My mum made a few vague comments originally. But she doesn't anymore.

Yes, and you may have to change the colour anyway if you've had it very dark, or it looks too harsh against your skin. I did that after my long years of dyeing it black, before stopping dyeing it at all.

I missed that bit! That will be why you looked 8-9 years younger then!

As a pp said, all the grey ladies on these pics look fine, but no WAY am I ever doing it. I am staying blonde. Each to their own.