AIMB to embrace the grey?

Depends on your skin tone. I went totally grey after chemo and it didn’t match my warm undertone skin at all. I’ve gone back to dying it gold/caramel and look much better.
Grey can look wonderful on many people though. If you feel good, go for it.

Thought I'd join in the pics...loving them all. Happy Easter you fabulous people !

You are exactly the same colouring as me. Had to change some of the colours I wore with dark hair, but my (now long, because it’s in better condition than it’s ever been) silvery grey hair works very well with my Celtic skin tone.

And yes, I’m another who regularly has strangers comment on my fabulous hair colour.

And I’m pale. I do always wear makeup though, I guess but always have done. I need less with my light hair than when it was dark

Like others the darker grey is at the back.

I’m naturally blonde but for some reason had gone dark a few years ago. I got back to light with lots of highlights over a few sessions and then my natural white grew in. I’m also mid fifties, but been going white for years.

Same here. Cool skin tone with pink undertones and blue eyes. I’m waiting u til my hair is all white. Agree that olive skinned dark eyed types look stunning with grey hair.

I get the patches bleached out to match the rest. And a toner in it. My hairdresser was telling me how much better modern products/bleaches are for not damaging the hair, and it lasts for ages. Liberating after trying to maintain colour, with roots needing doing every three weeks!

@ChopOrNot that looks great and natural at the same time. The ladies with consistent platinum colours also look great but I agree that surely this a really rare outcome - to be completely grey/white all over so young - so not perhaps something available to most.

I am not willing to let go yet, but clearly at some point I will have to as my natural colour is very dark brown (I dye slightly lighter as I don't think it is possible to dye as dark as mine and look plausible). But I do not for the life of me see how I will transition. I have waist length hair (I guess by the time I feel I have to go grey maybe I will also be willing to let that go) and the back of my head is still fairly dark, but parts of the top are probably 80% white.

So how does one transition without locking oneself in the house for 2 years and then getting an urchin cut?

I have lots of friends who are embracing the grey and I think they all look great. My grandma went a silver grey and I wish mine would. Mine is naturally a dark blonde. I have highlights but my daughter tells me I should just leave it to all grow out and embrace the natural look. I'm still waiting for the grey to arrive to do that!

I do agree with this. As the front third of my hair is now white / very pale silver I can't see the dodgy back bit as easily so I can pretend it's not bad 😂

I'm 55 and only five percent grey, my hair is long and thick, good condition but l know l will have my work cut out keeping on top of the colour once the grey does take hold.
I think you need to do what feels best for you. I don't take much notice to be honest of other people's hair colour, and Yasmeena Rossi, famous model, went grey very young and never affected her career, she's late 60s now and still looks good.

Yeah this, I am a bit younger - early 50s - and I have natural light brown hair. Was very blonde til about 13-14 y.o. but then went light brown. I have been dying it blonde since I was 16, and have ZERO intention of 'embracing the grey.'

Also, like you, (as I have said before,) I only have a few greys coming through at the temples, and sort of by the ears (where the hair joins on at the side of your face.) I would say about 10-15% of my hair is grey, if that. It's a bit different if you're already 100% grey. Constantly dying it would be a pain in the arse. The white roots would show through in about a week. I don't have to re-blonde mine for 2 months. Can get away with 3.

I have seen (as I said before,) some younger women with steel grey/light grey hair, and although I don't much care for it, each to their own. Is that what the younger women (under 45) are here are doing who are posting pics of themselves? The grey just looks too smooth and too perfect. Anyone I have ever seen 'going grey' has different shades, and some of their original colour showing. People don't generally just 'go white' at 35-40. I think there may be some cheeky boxes of hair dye at play here. And not just with the younger ones...

I have seen women - usually a little bit younger than me, my age, and older - whose hair is greying, and you can tell it's going naturally. Too many of these greys on the photos that some posters are submitting look too smooth, and like it isn't 100% their natural grey. Some of it yes, but not all. (JMO.)

I also never seen women under 45 with totally grey hair, not natural grey anyway, just that silver colour that some younger women put on. I am not a fan of it, but it's up to them what they do.

As I said, some of us are fortunate to only be 10-15% grey, so I can't exactly embrace the grey. It would look shit (IMO) with streaks growing out of a light brown, Much easier to embrace it when it's all grey. when you have no choice.

Finally, as I said before, I am struggling to fathom why random people are running up to all these white/grey haired women and gushing over their grey/white hair colour. I have literally never known of, or seen that happen. As a pp said, if it's someone you know, maybe they feel awkward, if they used to see you with brown hair and you suddenly got a shock of white hair, and they don't know how to react. Most people are polite, and aren't going to say 'fuck me Julie, I don't like your hair!' are they?! I also never see women under 45 in real life with grey hair. Funny that. And yeah I DO get out plenty thank you. 😆

I wish I could. Natural colour is dark brown. Started finding greys at 30 and I’m totally grey now at 47. But I’m fair skinned, pink undertones, blue eyes and it would really wash me out.
It looks stunning on sallow skinned people with dark eyes.

So much for grey hair being ageing. I hope all those words taste delicious.

It would be easier for people to embrace the grey if it is ALL white. When it's patchy/different shades, it's much harder.

It would be easier for people to embrace the grey if it is ALL white. When it's patchy/different shades, it's much harder.

I get random women not only complimenting me on my hair, but asking what I use in it for the lilac-silver colour. Shock! Horror! Not all women are still in the grey hair = old = unfuckable = worthless mindset!

I'm almost 60, naturally dark blonde. I've a few greys just starting to come through in the last year or so and I'm not having any of it! I'll keep getting highlights done as it blends the greys in. I'm not ready to embrace grey yet, I'm just not.

I decided to embrace the grey just before lockdown, I'd been yellow blonde for ages because my hairdresser wouldn't do the ash blonde I wanted (fair enough it would have wrecked my hair). I love it. The tone is so much better for my skin and no maintenance is great. The condition is better too. My hair is long and naturally wavy but I straighten it mostly. I too get random compliments on the colour.
However, I do have my eyebrows waxed and tinted (and my eyelashes lifted and tinted). I think that's the difference between looking 'deliberate' and 'can't be bothered'. Someone upthread said similar about lipstick.
All of you that have posted photos look fabulous!

I absolutely get rando’s coming up to me to compliment the colour of my hair. Most recently the campest guy in a gay bar who came skipping over to exclaim ‘babes I LOVE the colour of your hair, you’re rocking it!’

But women in shops, the hairdresser, friends of friends etc. At least once a month I’d say, someone I don’t have an existing relationship with will say something positive about my hair colour 🤷🏼‍♀️

And its about time that women were able to embrace going grey like men have forever.

And not be judged for it.

Nonsense misogyny

if you have nearly grown it out, stick with it. Grey can look amazing

I have to say also that I don't understand the people saying they get lots of compliments on their grey hair. Are random people really stopping and saying 'hey, your grey hair looks really nice?!'

In response to this, the answer is yes! Random women in shops, pubs, the gym, the supermarket - it happens everywhere. I think that other women gain confidence by seeing and chatting to women who have already done it, and who feel confident in their own skin. They often say that they have thought about it but are a bit worried about how other people will respond. It's hard when we are battling centuries of socialisation and conditioning which tells us that our role is to be youthful and decorative. And internalised misogyny is definitely a factor! One of my favourite mantras is 'Remember that most of your insecurities were created in a boardroom full of men'. So if you're thinking about it, OP, give it a go - you can always go back if you decide it's not for you. There's no 'right' way to be a woman - we have lots of choices.

I've told quite a few women (strangers) how much I love their grey or white hair. And I've had several do the same to me. I do the same whenever I see particularly gorgeous hair (of any colour). Perhaps the grey stands out to me as it's more unusual though?

Some beautiful examples of grey hair on here!