AIMB to embrace the grey?

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@KnitFastDieWarm my elderly aunt had this amazing silver hair in her 80s. It was almost fairie-like.

But I do think some older women do look nice with blonde hair, especially if it’s short and suits their (warmer) skin tone say?

Just doesn’t suit me.

^it may be a generational thing?

My mother also does not approve! Says it’s ageing. But I have had compliments:) and have liked it myself. It can look striking sometimes. Too many blonde highlights can look a bit bland.

I man 62 and have played around with adding a few blonde highlights. But from now on I am leaving it alone and going natural. Should be a new look by 2025.

First off some very lovely ladies in this thread!

I’ve been having this conversation with my stylist for awhile now (I’m 47) I’m not ready to embrace it yet, I’m too young. I’m getting close though… right now I’m red and my stylist is magic with the color. I will get a compliment from a random stranger on average once a month on the color. (To which I always give full credit to her and a business card if they want it).

It’s just not time yet for me.

I am planning on moving to a more rural area in a couple of years making a career change, and generally starting the next phase of my life… I may do it then. But I’ve also asked my stylist if she would be willing to meet with my hypothetical new stylist (paid for both of course) to share her rotation of formulas. She enthusiastically agreed. She also agreed that if the time came and I was still with her and I was getting into the territory that dying it makes me look stupid or pathetic she’d tell me!

@KnitFastDieWarm Thanks! I love that you're getting Debbie vibes - I've got darker bits underneath at the back which make me feel a bit like Debbie too! First album I ever bought with my own money at the age of 10 was Parallel Lines ❤️.

Haven't read the full thread because this argument pops up over and over on here!

Grey/silver looks amazing on lots of women, but not so good on others, depending on their skin tone. So there's nothing wrong with either embracing the silver or continuing to dye (as I will do to my dying day)

This! My grandma had natural white waist length hair when she died, my friend’s grandma had a beautiful head of bright auburn dyed permed curls like lucille ball. They both looked amazing. We need to lose ideas about hair colours being ‘inappropriate’ for certain ages, it’s patriarchal sexist bullshit. If you want to go silver at 30 or dye your hair black till you’re 95, go for it and rock the hell out of it.

Ok, you’re my style icon when my hair finally goes grey enough to embrace it (currently 36 and still only have a few random silver strands, but my hair is a similar length and texture to yours). Debbie Harry vibes ✊

Your hair looks in really good condition - good for you in embracing the grey!

You have lovely thick hair and nice curl in it, too! It looks good!

My eyebrows are still black but I found a good charcoal grey pencil on Amazon. I'm sorry I can't remember which one it was but it was purple- the pencil not the colour inside. It's a deep cool charcoal with no warmth in it .

@inhibernation (at 8.56 today...) Your hair looks very nice, like a lot of totally grey/totally white haired ladies on here. But as I said, it's OK if you are/have gone totally grey. I am only about 10-15% grey, and am not 'embracing the grey,' because there's too little of it. It's far easier for me to dye the 10-15% of my hair blonde (like the rest of my hair,) than it is to just let the grey grow through. It would look shit. (On me!)

If anyone else wants to let the grey grow, and keep growing even though they are less than a quarter grey, and just have silver streaks in mousy or brown hair, then knock yourself out. It's not for me!

My father - and grandfather - didn't ever go fully grey really. They were both blonde/light mousy haired, and it was a mix of blondes and light greys by about 70-75. Looked mostly blonde weirdly. (like two-thirds...) Happened to my aunt too (Dad's sister.) I can see myself going that way. I will never be grey enough to 'embrace the grey' I don't think.

I have black eyebrows and silver grey hair. I like it😃😃

😂 That’s one of my many reasons to not go grey. My eyebrows and eyelashes are black.

Has anyone who has embraced their grey, found a decent eyebrow pencil / product that isn't really dark? I don't really want to tint mine, but they're still quite dark when the front of my hair is white so I feel like Father Ted some days 😂

I’m happy with my grow out. I used to have to dye it every 3 weeks because my hair grows fast and greys are very white! I also had problems with scalp irritation due to the chemicals in the dye. Even Aveda. I agree with the comments that neither natural or dyed is better - it’s what suits the individual that matters.

I find grey incredibly ageing and I think if you are 'embracing' it you need to have a very good cut otherwise you end up with frizz and looking old.

Jeez, will it never end? My hair has been frizzy my whole life, even when it was black. Should I be embarrassed to go out in public? And as for looking old. Old compared to what or whom? Myself 10, 20 years ago? Other people? People younger than me? The same age as me? Just women or men too? All these strangers I'm supposed to compare myself to. I hate this whole idea where WOMEN have to up their game when they go grey. Just to walk out the front door and mix with other humans.

Gah! My blood pressure does not like this😆

Each to their own

I was naturally very dark so maintaining that became a problem as I had roots after a fortnight.

So now I'm dark blonde and it lasts.

I find grey incredibly ageing and I think if you are 'embracing' it you need to have a very good cut otherwise you end up with frizz and looking old.
Which only matters if it bothers you.

I fully agree - no-one should be judging anyone for the colour of their hair. It’s just a waste of energy and happiness all round - we should all feel confident doing what makes us feel happy with regards to our appearance, whatever that might be. No judgement from me - I dyed my hair for years, until I reached a point where (for me) it looked better not to, so I stopped.

My rant was mainly directed at the posters who continue to insist that it’s impossible for grey hair to look nice - they’re just being unnecessarily rude and contrary in response to people saying they’re perfectly happy with how they look.

It’s fine to have grey hair. It’s fine to have coloured hair. It’s all fine.

I agree it’s a depressing thread - but just as much for the “dyeing your hair is ageing and looks awful “ posts. Loads of women look amazing with grey hair - certainly all the ones who have shared photos on this thread, but equally, lots of us who dye their hair look good too.

57 & this is mine. I stopped highlighting about 4 years ago. I'm happy with this colour combo.

My colouring is the same as yours- I started to grow my hair out in lockdown as I'm about 80% grey and it just didn't suit me. My natural colouring is quite dark brown which doesnt suit me either, so I've found a brondey sort of colour which suits and stick to that.

I'm not bothered about the ageing part - I think grey hair can look fabulous. But I'm also vain enough to want to choose the most flattering colour on me for as long as I can.

My mum sneered at me and said 'you'll look ten years older' when I said I was just going to let the grey happen (currently have two clear stripes developing in my dark blonde hair - am early 40's). I don't know how old she thinks she looks, but she definitely looks at least the age she is. I was told I looked 'about 30' just the other day (def a bit of exaggeration from the person who said this - I look older than 30), so the grey doesn't seem to be making me look older yet!

It's a personal decision, but I do think dyed hair is generally obvious on older women and doesn't make them look any younger.