MIL scheduled access

I would say you don't want to leave him at the moment and don't want to commit to a regular time as have lots of things on. Invite her over when it suits you, once in a while. Make sure your husband is there if you feel better that way.

When your child is older you may feel differently so don't burn any bridges, she may turn out to be a good grandmother.

Honestly, I'd compromise on once a month while you were there and not on a set schedule. Once a week with someone who doesn't respect you would be ridiculous.

I wouldn’t agree to a set time but I would encourage your husband to facilitate them having time together

That doesn't mean she gets scheduled weekly "access" to a newborn.

When the OP wants to see her OR when OP and MIL agree a mutually convenient and acceptable time for MIL to look after the baby for a short time, she can see her grandchild. Expecting a weekly timeslot while the OP is home with her newborn is ridiculous.

Absolutely not ok to expect to separate a newborn from his mother regularly.

If MIL wants a close bond with grandchildren first and foremost she must be respectful and supportive of their mother. End of story.

Otherwise it is not a given that she must be part of their lives at all.

Why is everyone piling on the MIL. She wants to form a strong bond with her newborn grandchild. This is separate to her relationship with the OP.

Limiting her access because other people can’t visit as often is just irrational. Are you scared the baby will develop a better relationship with her than with your family?

No. Honestly OP why would you be unreasonable in this situation? Your newborn needs you and doesn’t need weekly appointed visits with anyone. I wouldn’t even let me own mum think she could do this and I’m close to her!

Just say you can’t commit to a specific time every week, and that you’re not ready to be apart from baby so you will be there. It’s nice she wants to build a relationship with her grandchild, so I’d facilitate it to a degree. But she doesn’t get to dictate the terms of that to you.

I wouldn’t agree to this. My MIL is the same, I don’t actively dislike her and she’s never done anything particularly to annoy me, however we just don’t really have a relationship with her, or my FIL to be fair. My husband has never had a close relationship with them and once we were moved out on our own that really showed and we probably saw them I’d say 3/4 times a year max. When we fell pregnant with our baby girl and told them the first thing they said was that they wanted to come see us at the hospital after the birth and wanted to come every week. We very politely declined! In my opinion your relationship with your grandkids is an extension of your relationship with your children, and they made no effort to have a relationship with my husband or me, didn’t text once to check in throughout the pregnancy until about 3 weeks before the due date… no thanks🤣

'Sorry it's not a prison, we'll let you know when we're free'

Not unreasonable for you MIL to want to visit her dgc, but if the pair of you don't get on it is up to your dh to manage when she visits that suits you both.

ofc you don’t have to but you may feel like you need this break in the not to distant future.

’Thanks MIL, we’ll think about it in a couple of months time’.

Just say you can't commit to a weekly visit. No explanation.

If she is a terrible person then just keep putting her off any time she asks to visit. Otherwise, agree to one once in a while.

You don't have to provide visitation times to see your child to, effectively, a stranger. This is not a zoo.