To expect DH to shut the fuck up now?

I honestly couldn’t be with someone who behaved this way.

Oh he is being a complete dick.
I'd tell him - firmly - not to bring it up again. You've sorted it. If that didn't help, I don't know what I'd do. I think I'd actually get the ick and it may not come back tbh.

How did it happen? If you were juggling stuff while looking after kids and water splashed out of the sink that's one thing, but if you were drunk and let the bath overflow, that would be another (worse) thing.

Also, are you minimising it? If DH did that (and failed to apologise) I'd be annoyed and likely to mention it more to show that it really was a problem.

Has he every damaged something major before ?Sink his battleship with yours everytime he mentions it. He will soon angry .. then you can say ..my point proved. So stop mentioning it.

Ah the alexa is a good idea! Clever!

It's time for him to stfu, and I would tell him that too. I would leave the room and completely ignore him every time he does it stop

Write a list of every fuck-up he's made and trot out more examples every time he mentions this.

Not a good idea after water damage, until it’s been checked by an electrician. Water conducts electricity and even if the lights work, if there are still live connections which are wet or even still damp, it could start a fire. Safer to leave the power off until they’re sure.

The OP very clearly said that this happened ‘the other day’ and that she has been in touch with an electrician. If it’s a big job, she’ll likely have to wait until he can fit it in. She doesn’t need to be reminded of what she’s done every day in the meantime. If he’s that annoyed he could offer to help out instead of acting like a twat. Accidents happen.

I think this is one thing that's actually way more likely to be a woman thing than a man thing.

Pretty much ALL other awful behaviour is way more likely to be a 'man thing'. I don't care if people call me a misandrist for that 😂

But when it comes to thinking it's ok to berate a partner for making mistakes or breaking stuff that seems to be mostly a woman thing.

Daily? How many days has it been? Multiple days and you still haven't got an electrician to fix it? That would annoy me too.

No, to see if it’s just a matter of flicking a switch on the fuse box and shutting that idiot up!

Is that because you also behave the same way if your partner makes a mistake? and you think it's acceptable to keep going on and on about it making them feel like they're a fuck up who deserves to be berated?

It’s a dick head thing more like.

Congratulations for being one of the few adults in the room.

Why? To help decide how deserving she is of being berated on repeat?

OP I would absolutely lose my shit if my husband made a situation like that more stressful for me. And especially if he laboured or even mentioned anything about me paying on my own.

wtf is your problem? Are you a bloke by any chance? So because there literally is
abusive men more than you’d like to realise and accept and so many women come on here to highlight this you think it’s ah it’s all made up? Not another one? Fuck off. He is 100 % berating her…, did you not read the OP? He is 100 % demonstrating punishing behaviour here. If you want to downplay that just because you’re tired of reading about abuse perhaps you’re on the wrong forum ….go read incel weekly or something instead perhaps you’d be more comfortable

I think I would be repeating 'bo-ring!, bo-ring' in a sing song voice every time he mentioned it until he stopped. What a dickhead.

Read the OP only...

This would piss me right off. To the point where I would lose it and say "What the fuck do you want? I have said it is my fault. I have said I am sorry. I have said I will pay. How much more do you want to drag out of this?!"

ETA I would say "On the day you can say that you have NEVER fucked up, you can slag me off"

No it’s not nice at all, but could you explain what happened a bit more if possible?

Well, no. It’s a fair question. OP is saying that she’s accepted responsibility for it, has organised and is paying for an electrician. For him to refuse to help sort - both practically and financially - and to still be going on and on about it when it was a genuine mistake and the repair is in hand, is unreasonable. And he’s telling anyone who’ll listen what happened. His behaviour may not be abusive or gaslighting, but he’s not very supportive, to say the least, and seems to be enjoying berating OP repeatedly, so l think it’s certainly indicative of a wider problem.

I did the same thing a few months ago and it was due to a slow draining issue! Fortunately, I don’t have a partner to berate me about it. How tiring that he’s telling every person and their dog.

Sorry - I hit yabu with my fat fingers but didn’t mean to. He’s being an arse.

I'd be really cross with him going on about it repeatedly, you've apologised, your getting it fixed and paying for it, what else does he want? Why does he need to keep saying it, I'm sure you heard him the first time!

In the last year or so my DC have accidently broken my shower door, my window, a plug socket and a TV. All genuine accidents. Both very very sorry. Oh and my DS sat on the drain whilst in the shower and flooded the bathroom and kitchen 🤦‍♀️. I've never once berated them for it, despite being annoyed about the damage

Accidents happen,

Is he like this with other things cause it's a red flag isnt it

Not much of a team player, is he? DH would never financially put an honest mistake solely on me and then keep rubbing my face in it.

Couldn't be with this type of man personally, but he's probably not the worst of them sadly.