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Asked for help in ASDA and she had a breakdown.

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Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 12:54

Not sure what I'm asking about being unreasonable for, but am I unreasonable to be shocked?

So it was my fault. I had gotten round and started scanning things on the self checkout after having done my whole shop and realised I had take my card out of my pocket and left it on the side at home. I'm a single mum with a condition which affects my memory, so I have to check 100 times for things before I leave the house but this morning DD was taking her time getting ready for school and I was being picked up by a local minibus service as soon as I had dropped her off and was in a rush.

But I had some ASDA vouchers on my phone from free school meals for the holidays and £7 in cash as I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth. (Remembered that but couldn't remember my card!). My phone doesn't let me do that google pay thing, as it isn't a good enough phone.

I explained to the supervisor that I wanted to cancel my order and put some bits back and he took me to the customer services, but the lady was talking to some of her friends for ages. Eventually I explained to her the situation and told her that I wanted to just scan enough for £37 and put the rest back. She didn't help me figure it out, but just cancelled what I scanned so far.

So I went and grabbed one of those scan and go things as I have an account with them, so I could add up the most important parts of my shopping and put back anything over £37.

Anyway, after I had spent about half an hour doing this, I had 15 minutes left until the minibus was leaving and I went over to the bit to pay for scan and go. As I never use cash, I didn't know that you couldn't pay for cash at the scan and go bit, as it doesn't actually say that when you queue up, and I'd never tried to before, so it wasn't something that crossed my mind.

I scanned the vouchers I had on my phone and had £5.53 left to pay. It was only then that I noticed that there was nowhere on the machine to put cash into.

So I called for assistance to explain, thinking they could maybe transfer my payment over to customer services for me to pay the rest in cash, or help me re-scan everything in the self service bit.

When a different girl came over this time, I calmly explained the situation and she looked at the screen and got really stressy, saying she didn't know what to do, as I'd used gift vouchers for some of my shopping. So she asked for help on her headset and I think they told her to find a supervisor and she stomped off (I think they said this, because she walked over to the cash registers and the ladies on the minibus later mentioned in passing, that they had gotten the supervisors to man the cash registers as it was a bit busier than usual).

As she was stomping off, a lady with limited english was trying to get to the self service tills for trolleys and she was getting aggravated at them for walking through the scan and go to get to the self scan for trolleys, next to it. Kept shouting at them to leave the scan and go back around to get into the two person queue, but they didn't understand. She had a huge loud huff about it, threw her arms up and walked off.

But on her way to the cash registers, she let out a huge shout and said "I'm OUT", and kicked her headset angrily across the floor. I don't know if she threw it on the floor or if it fell off her head first, before she kicked it. I wasn't watching I only looked up and saw her because of her shouting and huffing.

Then she walked past me and in the opposite direction to the customer service desk, and never came back. A lady who had witnessed it all (customer) looked and me and said "I'm standing back", as this staff member had been so angry walking past her.

There was no one left in the scan and go area, and I couldn't press the button again for assistance, as she hadn't scanned her pass to reset it. I couldn't just cancel the transaction and go to self scan as I had already scanned my vouchers on my phone and would have lost them.

After about 5 minutes, another worker came into the scan and go and started helping other people. I asked her if the girl was coming back and she said 'no.' I said 'did she just quit?' and she said 'no, she just...' and kinda sighed with exasperation. I asked her for help and she looked at the screen and said 'yeah i know', and scanned her pass to reset the assistance screen and walked off. I had to wait for her to finish with new customers and then asked her for help again and she got really annoyed at me and said 'it's because you can't use cash here'. I calmly said, 'yes I know, but it was a mistake, I didn't realise.' She walked off again. I was about to just leave my £5.53 cash at the customer services desk and walk out, as I'd been standing there for ten minutes now waiting for help, and the minibus was due to leave, when the man next to me (who was also annoyed as he had just been made to re-scan his entire shop for picking up 2 different flavours of hams on an offer, instead of 2 the same) paid for me on his card and I gave him my cash. So the staff were refusing to help me otherwise.

I know I created the situation with my forgetfulness and not realising I couldn't pay cash until too late, but surely there's a better way to handle someone having made a mistake and asking for help to pay. They were all huffing and puffing about having to help customers, and normally they're just standing around chatting, so it seemed like they just didn't like having to engage with people for that busy day.

I was wondering if I should complain, but maybe the girl who shouted and kicked her headset across the shop after my request blew her mind, had been having a bad moment in her life.

OP posts:
Yourhappinessisourhapinessvom · 29/03/2024 21:26

I’m sorry but reading all that hurt my head 🤯

Toenailz · 29/03/2024 21:22

Honestly you sound completely unnecessarily faffy.

I understand you left your card home because of memory problems. That's not really the issue.

Failing the check out process twice is just utter needless. I also don't understand how your phone is out of date enough you can't use your phone to make card payments, but the phone is in date enough to be scanning vouchers at the till - that makes zero sense.

There was several other customers there needing help, and you were taking up too much time. I've a friend like this - seems to really enjoy constantly needing help for basic things in supermarkets, cafes etc despite having all her faculties. It's like she can't do anything without an annoying amount of assistance. Except she can.

It's well known right now that Asda's staff are being hideously treated. They are severely, purposefully, being understaffed, the pay/contracts are atrocious - they're really not paid enough to deal with the constant pain in the arse people that needant be, because they're unorganised, ill prepared and faffy. I have a condition that impacts my memory too. I've forgotten my card when I get to the shops. I walk back home and get it, and go back.

The staff members behaviour was bad, but I think it's clear she's under a severe amount of stress that people whom have never worked retail will just never know. It's not easy. The pay and pressure don't equate. She does sound on the verge of a breakdown. And I wouldn't be surprised, knowing people who work for Asda (coincidentally, made friends with them whilst shopping in store!).

It's possible to not annoy people you come into contact with. But, customer service - buyer is always right, so go complain. Maybe she'll lose her job. Awesome.

OldPerson · 29/03/2024 21:22

You are a nightmare. As much as I respect you tried to re-organise what you can and couldn't do.
You didn't.
You expected enveryone else to swivel on your new demands.
You didn't work out what you could or could not do.
You wanted everyone you encountered to swivel and go out of their way to solve your problems.
You know they are all minimum wage right??
It's not that the staff didn't try to help you, they just couldn't fix the fact that you had forgotten your bank card. Your bad.
Don't forget your bank card next time.

LordFlashearttt · 29/03/2024 20:32

You haven’t left the voting on here OP which is annoying but I think you’d be out of order to complain. That sounds like staff were really stressed and you didn’t check to see if the till was card only. I’m surprised because the Asda's near us both remind you the till is card only before you start scanning, odd that yours hasn’t got the same technology we’ve had for ages.

You’ve no idea what someone else is going through. I lost my shit at a driver the other day, they were a dick but I really lost it. But it wasn’t about the bad driving really, I was grieving and I just couldn’t cope.

Just chalk it up to bad experience. Those ladies are probably still having a shit time with their jobs tonight/tomorrow whereas your experience is over and done with.

Just leave it be.

RockHardCake · 29/03/2024 20:16

You messed around too much OP, the staff are busy and stressed, they don’t have time for people making such a kerfuffle

Make sure you have a bank card next time and enough money to actually pay for the stuff you’re buying

Northernsouloldies · 29/03/2024 20:12

DSD9472 · 29/03/2024 19:36

£7 in cash as I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth

OP had changed the €10 note for £7 in cash. Not that its relevant to the story at all.

I see what you mean,tbh I skipped some of the original op and started reading again mid thread and someone commented about op trying to pay with euros.my mistake for not reading properly.

Northernsouloldies · 29/03/2024 20:05

Cheers I had a quick Google before your reply....I stand corrected.

colouredball · 29/03/2024 20:04

None in existence in Asda Ne scotland

There definitely are

Erdinger · 29/03/2024 19:39

It sounds like you don’t enjoy your shopping experience there so perhaps start grocery shopping elsewhere.

DSD9472 · 29/03/2024 19:36

£7 in cash as I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth

OP had changed the €10 note for £7 in cash. Not that its relevant to the story at all.

Northernsouloldies · 29/03/2024 19:35

SableGrape · 29/03/2024 19:31

Every Asda I've been in has had a bureau de change/Asda travel money kiosk.

None in existence in Asda Ne scotland.so in my experience it's valid you wouldn't be shopping with fistfuls of Euros, besides it's op chosen locus but didn't adhere to the payment conditions.

SableGrape · 29/03/2024 19:31

Northernsouloldies · 29/03/2024 19:29

Seems to be a lot of Asda bashing threads lately,who takes euros to go shopping.

Every Asda I've been in has had a bureau de change/Asda travel money kiosk.

NickyT64 · 29/03/2024 19:29

Itsonlymashadow · 28/03/2024 12:56

What do you want the outcome of a complaint to be?

An apology?

Northernsouloldies · 29/03/2024 19:29

Seems to be a lot of Asda bashing threads lately,who takes euros to go shopping.

Theunamedcat · 29/03/2024 19:21

Sennelier1 · 29/03/2024 19:19

But if this is your regular supermarket how can you nót know you can't pay cash there? What you asked of the people working there was impossible, and as you know everywhere is understaffed. I feel for you but I also feel for the staff.

Can't pay cash at a specific till its not gone entirely cash free

I walked into aldi the other week and they have self checkouts they weren't there a few days prior no advertising no nothing just boom there

Sennelier1 · 29/03/2024 19:19

But if this is your regular supermarket how can you nót know you can't pay cash there? What you asked of the people working there was impossible, and as you know everywhere is understaffed. I feel for you but I also feel for the staff.

BandyMcBandface · 29/03/2024 19:04

Whatever happened to the Be Kind movement?

Hopefully fucked off back from whence it came

Poshladyjane · 29/03/2024 18:53

PooSniffer · 28/03/2024 16:06

God you sound annoying, shopping is stressful enough without faffers getting involved. Vouchers, euros, pounds etc etc … do us all a favour and shop online in future?

(I’ve just had a bad trip to Asda)

Not really sure this level of insults is within the mumsnet guidelines. Your name sums you up.

Poshladyjane · 29/03/2024 18:49

I can understand your post perfectly well and I think it’s appalling the service you’ve experienced in Asda (or didn’t experience). I do feel for the member of staff who was abandoned to deal with the problem but her behaviour was also inexcusable. Also the posters on here that are goading you and picking holes in your post should be ashamed of themselves. Whatever happened to the Be Kind movement?

Jeannie88 · 29/03/2024 18:37

Clearly sounds like she was stressed and had enough and couldn't take any more. We all have days like that, I wouldn't complain about her personally but the general service. That's the problem now with everything being technical, very difficult for staff to change things on a platform. Xx

Cactusmad · 29/03/2024 18:06

Sorry u are having a hard time on here , I’m glad u went into detail or u would have been accused of drip feeding. The way u were treated was dreadful. If the staff can’t cope they should be professional in front of the customer and seek more help. I would complain as we all see advertising saying how they value their customers. No excuse for that behaviour from staff , More training needed.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 29/03/2024 17:53

Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 12:54

Not sure what I'm asking about being unreasonable for, but am I unreasonable to be shocked?

So it was my fault. I had gotten round and started scanning things on the self checkout after having done my whole shop and realised I had take my card out of my pocket and left it on the side at home. I'm a single mum with a condition which affects my memory, so I have to check 100 times for things before I leave the house but this morning DD was taking her time getting ready for school and I was being picked up by a local minibus service as soon as I had dropped her off and was in a rush.

But I had some ASDA vouchers on my phone from free school meals for the holidays and £7 in cash as I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth. (Remembered that but couldn't remember my card!). My phone doesn't let me do that google pay thing, as it isn't a good enough phone.

I explained to the supervisor that I wanted to cancel my order and put some bits back and he took me to the customer services, but the lady was talking to some of her friends for ages. Eventually I explained to her the situation and told her that I wanted to just scan enough for £37 and put the rest back. She didn't help me figure it out, but just cancelled what I scanned so far.

So I went and grabbed one of those scan and go things as I have an account with them, so I could add up the most important parts of my shopping and put back anything over £37.

Anyway, after I had spent about half an hour doing this, I had 15 minutes left until the minibus was leaving and I went over to the bit to pay for scan and go. As I never use cash, I didn't know that you couldn't pay for cash at the scan and go bit, as it doesn't actually say that when you queue up, and I'd never tried to before, so it wasn't something that crossed my mind.

I scanned the vouchers I had on my phone and had £5.53 left to pay. It was only then that I noticed that there was nowhere on the machine to put cash into.

So I called for assistance to explain, thinking they could maybe transfer my payment over to customer services for me to pay the rest in cash, or help me re-scan everything in the self service bit.

When a different girl came over this time, I calmly explained the situation and she looked at the screen and got really stressy, saying she didn't know what to do, as I'd used gift vouchers for some of my shopping. So she asked for help on her headset and I think they told her to find a supervisor and she stomped off (I think they said this, because she walked over to the cash registers and the ladies on the minibus later mentioned in passing, that they had gotten the supervisors to man the cash registers as it was a bit busier than usual).

As she was stomping off, a lady with limited english was trying to get to the self service tills for trolleys and she was getting aggravated at them for walking through the scan and go to get to the self scan for trolleys, next to it. Kept shouting at them to leave the scan and go back around to get into the two person queue, but they didn't understand. She had a huge loud huff about it, threw her arms up and walked off.

But on her way to the cash registers, she let out a huge shout and said "I'm OUT", and kicked her headset angrily across the floor. I don't know if she threw it on the floor or if it fell off her head first, before she kicked it. I wasn't watching I only looked up and saw her because of her shouting and huffing.

Then she walked past me and in the opposite direction to the customer service desk, and never came back. A lady who had witnessed it all (customer) looked and me and said "I'm standing back", as this staff member had been so angry walking past her.

There was no one left in the scan and go area, and I couldn't press the button again for assistance, as she hadn't scanned her pass to reset it. I couldn't just cancel the transaction and go to self scan as I had already scanned my vouchers on my phone and would have lost them.

After about 5 minutes, another worker came into the scan and go and started helping other people. I asked her if the girl was coming back and she said 'no.' I said 'did she just quit?' and she said 'no, she just...' and kinda sighed with exasperation. I asked her for help and she looked at the screen and said 'yeah i know', and scanned her pass to reset the assistance screen and walked off. I had to wait for her to finish with new customers and then asked her for help again and she got really annoyed at me and said 'it's because you can't use cash here'. I calmly said, 'yes I know, but it was a mistake, I didn't realise.' She walked off again. I was about to just leave my £5.53 cash at the customer services desk and walk out, as I'd been standing there for ten minutes now waiting for help, and the minibus was due to leave, when the man next to me (who was also annoyed as he had just been made to re-scan his entire shop for picking up 2 different flavours of hams on an offer, instead of 2 the same) paid for me on his card and I gave him my cash. So the staff were refusing to help me otherwise.

I know I created the situation with my forgetfulness and not realising I couldn't pay cash until too late, but surely there's a better way to handle someone having made a mistake and asking for help to pay. They were all huffing and puffing about having to help customers, and normally they're just standing around chatting, so it seemed like they just didn't like having to engage with people for that busy day.

I was wondering if I should complain, but maybe the girl who shouted and kicked her headset across the shop after my request blew her mind, had been having a bad moment in her life.

In essence:

  • You had ASDA vouchers, £7 in cash, and 10EUR (equivalent to approximately £8.50).
  • Initially, you aimed to cancel the order and return some items.
  • Then, the plan was to scan items worth £37 and return the rest.
  • You rescanned your items and returned anything exceeding £37.
  • You were left with a remaining balance of £5.53, which you couldn't pay because the machine didn't accept cash.
  • Additionally, you had no cash or card, only vouchers.

Honestly, the situation you created was quite complex, making it challenging for anyone to assist you effectively.

The best course of action would have been for the staff to politely request you to cancel the order, return all items for a refund, and start again i.e. you returned with the appropriate payment methods.

StrawberrySquash · 29/03/2024 00:46

It's stressful in retail when you have a complicated query like yours to fix and don't know how to do it. I always used to feel bad when in that sort of situation, but generally I could get hold of a more experienced member of staff to help out. It sounds like the store just isn't staffed properly, TBH.

IronNeonClasp · 29/03/2024 00:33

@Springingintolife I understood your post and sorry you had this experience - sounds really stressful especially with the transport.

Agree with PP about the phone wallet which I have for cards and cash - easily pick one up in a charity shop or cheap online.

Think the complete tantrum - kicking a work device across the floor was totally unprofessional. If I did the same with work equipment and IN work there would be serious consequences. As much as posters are suggesting they may have been having a bad day / something else going on there’s no excuse to behave like that on the shop floor - it should be taken off floor. Yes CS is shit and customers can be absolute testing twunks but you are still the face representing that company and her behaviour was unacceptable.

I couldn’t be arsed to complain though personally. Perhaps it was an off day but if she carries on like that she won’t retain the role or she’ll leave.

ILJ28 · 29/03/2024 00:22

Do complain.. the service you received wasn’t good enough. I would make it more general rather than specific so that it’s not about ‘getting at’ someone and more about the issue of understaffing/poor training.

however, I do think you should get apple\google pay on your phone if your memory is bad… your post is disingenuous that money is tight noting a recent trip to America and probably Europe (Euros laying around..)

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