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Do I call DH’s work?

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clashreyne · 28/03/2024 10:33

My husband is working night shifts the next few nights, and he finishes at 6am. I usually always hear from him if he is gonna be later but he’s just done a 12 hour night shift, it’s 10.30 and still isn’t back… I’ve checked trains and there isn’t a delay or any issues so I know he’s not stuck and if he didn’t get train he could get bus and no crashes on the roads. He would say if he’s staying longer.

He’s not replied to me from his work email and his phone is off.

I’m a bit worried as this is very unlike him. If he was going to be late he would always message. He works in the emergency services, but he still always has access to message me even if there’s an incident to tell if he’s gonna be late or something has happened and he has to stay.

would I look like a weirdo if I phone his work or do I leave it a while longer?

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clashreyne · 28/03/2024 10:39

MILTOBE · 28/03/2024 10:37

If anything had happened to him at work, OP, then you would have been told. Given his shift has ended, you can rest assured on that.

What time would he normally be home?

He’s normally home 7ish, latest 8ish if issues with public transport. Because it’s night shift he rarely stays on after it’s normally if he’s doing a day or evening shift then there is the tendency to stay later because something happens but then he always lets me know

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bossybloss · 28/03/2024 10:39

I would definitely give them a call to see if all is well.

BrothersAndSisters · 28/03/2024 10:39

I would call his work in that situation. He usually keeps in touch and was expected home hours ago. It’s returning from work, not a night out where you can lose track of time with alcohol. It’ll probably be nothing serious, but I’d check.

MILTOBE · 28/03/2024 10:37

If anything had happened to him at work, OP, then you would have been told. Given his shift has ended, you can rest assured on that.

What time would he normally be home?

ThePerfectDog · 28/03/2024 10:36

I’d definitely call and have done in similar circumstances

teatimeplease · 28/03/2024 10:35

Could it be that he's been kept on and it's just that his phone has died?

SpicyMargaritaPlease · 28/03/2024 10:35

Yes, I would. You won't look weird.

MrsSkylerWhite · 28/03/2024 10:34

So would I.

Magnastorm · 28/03/2024 10:34

Why would you look like a weirdo? Perfectly reasonable to phone up and ask if he is still working, if he left on time or whatever if you are worried.

PrimalLass · 28/03/2024 10:33

I would

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