Do I call DH’s work?

clashreyne · 2024-03-28T10:33:33+00:00

My husband is working night shifts the next few nights, and he finishes at 6am. I usually always hear from him if he is gonna be later but he’s just done a 12 hour night shift, it’s 10.30 and still isn’t back… I’ve checked trains and there isn’t a delay or any issues so I know he’s not stuck and if he didn’t get train he could get bus and no crashes on the roads. He would say if he’s staying longer. He’s not replied to me from his work email and his phone is off. I’m a bit worried as this is very unlike him. If he was going to be late he would always message. He works in the emergency services, but he still always has access to message me even if there’s an incident to tell if he’s gonna be late or something has happened and he has to stay. would I look like a weirdo if I phone his work or do I leave it a while longer?

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clashreyne · 28/03/2024 20:38

He apologised when he got home. I know, he’s back in on nights this evening. I don’t know how he does it, he only had a few hours sleep. It’s tough as he’s barely here atm and his job is worry enough.

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AdoraBell · 28/03/2024 16:25

Glad he’s okay OP

penjil · 28/03/2024 15:53

clashreyne · 28/03/2024 10:56

I called, he’s still at work! They said he’s staying until lunchtime, I’m a bit surprised as that means he’s worked over 18 hours…
I don’t know how he’ll manage night shift with barely any rest. Thanks everyone.

Working 18 hours straight. Well, that's illegal for a start.

You need to have a minimum break of 11 hours between the end of one shift and the start of the next.

OooScotland · 28/03/2024 14:27

clashreyne · 28/03/2024 10:56

I called, he’s still at work! They said he’s staying until lunchtime, I’m a bit surprised as that means he’s worked over 18 hours…
I don’t know how he’ll manage night shift with barely any rest. Thanks everyone.

I’d give him an earful when he gets home! I know that feeling, its awful.

caringcarer · 28/03/2024 13:56

clashreyne · 28/03/2024 10:56

I called, he’s still at work! They said he’s staying until lunchtime, I’m a bit surprised as that means he’s worked over 18 hours…
I don’t know how he’ll manage night shift with barely any rest. Thanks everyone.

Just seen your update. Glad he's ok.

caringcarer · 28/03/2024 13:55

When my D's lived at home he was always home from work by 9pm. He'd always ring if there was a problem and he'd be late. One night he still wasn't home at 10.15pm. I tried ringing but nothing. I rang his work he'd broken down in a very rural location somewhere in Wales with no phone signal. He's a lorry driver so I always worry about an accident. He finally rang me at 11pm when a person arrived with a recovery vehicle and he moved into area with a signal. His work had phoned me 10 minutes before because they realised I'd be worried and knew no signal. I'd phone to set your mind at rest.

DancingFerret · 28/03/2024 13:25

I'm pleased he's OK, OP, but the question needs to be asked: why didn't he call you because he must have known you'd be worried?

ek20 · 28/03/2024 13:20

clashreyne · 28/03/2024 10:56

I called, he’s still at work! They said he’s staying until lunchtime, I’m a bit surprised as that means he’s worked over 18 hours…
I don’t know how he’ll manage night shift with barely any rest. Thanks everyone.

He wont be back on duty tonight though surely, isn't the legal minimum 11 hrs between shifts? Emergency worker or not!

WorkingFromHomeShite · 28/03/2024 12:33

clashreyne · 28/03/2024 10:56

I called, he’s still at work! They said he’s staying until lunchtime, I’m a bit surprised as that means he’s worked over 18 hours…
I don’t know how he’ll manage night shift with barely any rest. Thanks everyone.

If there’s been a staff crisis and he stayed on maybe they will sort someone else for tonight. Otherwise he’ll be dangerously tired, surely?

Twokittycats · 28/03/2024 11:13

Glad all is okay OP 🙂

VickyEadieofThigh · 28/03/2024 10:59

Thanks for letting us know, OP. He should have called you!

DoYouSmokePaul · 28/03/2024 10:57

Great news, I’m glad he’s ok. Sounds exhausting for him though.

Original poster

clashreyne · 28/03/2024 10:56

I called, he’s still at work! They said he’s staying until lunchtime, I’m a bit surprised as that means he’s worked over 18 hours…
I don’t know how he’ll manage night shift with barely any rest. Thanks everyone.

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Twokittycats · 28/03/2024 10:55

I would probably call his work, I reckon he’s had to stay a bit later as something happened but he hasn’t had chance to call you.

ProcrastinationCentral · 28/03/2024 10:55

Yes call- likely as not you will be able to stop worrying right away then x

Applecrumble24 · 28/03/2024 10:54

Definitely call. I’d be really worried too

MILTOBE · 28/03/2024 10:52

It's more than likely his phone battery has died, he can't remember your number and he's really busy after something that happened just before his shift ended.

Blarn · 28/03/2024 10:51

No definitely call. I was starting to worry about dh after a night shift once. He had got talking to a colleague who had just returned after sickness absence and totally forgot to let me know. With the tiredness after a shift he normally lets me know if he will be later as its so easy to worry.

VickyEadieofThigh · 28/03/2024 10:51

Please let us know when you hear from him, OP. Hope all is well and he's just being a bit inconsiderate.

DoYouSmokePaul · 28/03/2024 10:46

I definitely would have called by now, you must be really worried. I hope you hear from him soon 💐

KreedKafer · 28/03/2024 10:45

I'm sure nobody would think you were a weirdo for calling under these circumstances. The chances are that he's been kept on to deal with something but his phone's out of charge or has got broken or something, but I'm sure his employer would completely understand why you'd want to call just to put your mind at rest. It's not like he's only five minutes late and as you say, you'd usually hear from him if he was delayed.

ThePerfectDog · 28/03/2024 10:44

Have you called?

Notmyname89 · 28/03/2024 10:43

I would too.

OvertiredandConfused · 28/03/2024 10:42

If the situation was reversed, you'd probably get a welfare call so not odd at all.

MaryShelley1818 · 28/03/2024 10:40

I would call...hopefully he's worked later or held up somewhere.