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"Hello trouble"

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TheAverageJoanne · 28/03/2024 08:28

A man I vaguely know (friend's stepbrother) said this to me in greeting yesterday at a funeral. I found it trivialising and sexist (he wouldn't have said it to a man). AIBU?

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Mumoftwo1312 · 28/03/2024 08:38

I mean, flirty in this context. Not the pp saying it to the student!

Mumoftwo1312 · 28/03/2024 08:38

I think it's flirty imo

WimpoleHat · 28/03/2024 08:37

I think it’s just a casual sign of affection, without going as far as “darling” or “sweetheart” (which can be problematic themselves and a lot of people understandably don’t like it). I wouldn’t think that much about it - at a funeral, it’s more of a “here’s someone I haven’t seen for a while but it’s good to see” type of remark, I reckon.

vanillawaffle · 28/03/2024 08:34

Its the sort of thing you say to a toddler

BCBird · 28/03/2024 08:32

I jokingly say it to the least troublesome members of my tutor group. They laugh. I would probably not reply as an adult

LovelyLinseed · 28/03/2024 08:32

Yes there is something slightly demeaning and patronising about it. Not the worst greeting of course, but it would not be said to a man.

vanillawaffle · 28/03/2024 08:31

What did you say?

EddieHowesShithousingMags · 28/03/2024 08:30

i have a (male) colleague that says this to me all the time and I HATE it. I feel like asking ‘what do you mean by that?’ But it’s probably gone on too long now. I’m in my 40’s ffs and about as far from ‘trouble’ as I can be! It’s rude and as you say, not something he would say to a man.