"Hello trouble"

I hear it said between males as 'banter' all the time

What do people mean 'it wouldnt be said to a man'!!!!

I don’t think it’s misogyny. I think I’ve only ever heard it said to male children. What an odd thing to say to an adult.

Totally depends on the context. I have had it used on me in a flirty way, at work. It creeps me out now when anyone does it and I tell them so and why, and found that it made them stop so they got the message

I must live on another planet because I don't find it even mildly offensive. My ds friend always calls me trouble possibly because I've known him since he was about 12 he's now 31 and maybe doesn't find it comfortable to use my name. I've had 2 bosses, male and female use it.
Could possibly be because I am actually a stroppy mare.

I've said it and had it said to me many times. It's just an affectionate greeting without being 'too' inappropriately affectionate.

Can't see how it's patronising or sexist.

My friend’s mother used to say this to me - she’s the only person I’ve ever heard this from and I thought it was quite sweet and friendly. Seems not quite the right tone for a funeral, though.

I agree, it’s not a greeting that would bother me at all.

My uncle still calls me and my brother "trouble" whenever he sees us. We're in our 30s. I say it to DS, his friends, my nieces and nephews etc.
It's definitely something an older person (usually one who saw you grow up) says to a younger person

Do people really think nothing lighthearted should ever be said at a funeral? I doubt OP means during the ceremony.

It’s something adults used to say to kids when I was growing up so I don’t see it as flirty, maybe patronising. A bit weird to say at a funeral though.

I think it's a bit flirty.

I don't like some greetings like love etc but this one doesn't bother me. It might depend who says it.

Some people just say it. My lovely dad used to say it to the kids when they were toddlers. It was accurate.

Sometimes the atmosphere at funerals can be a bit strained and a light hearted comment can break the tension. Funerals don't automatically make these things inappropriate. in fact humour can be vital at funerals.
Personally I think strict rules about what people are or aren't allowed to say in any given situation are unhelpful because there's always a mis-step somewhere.
I think it is more helpful to judge the intention of the person.
So if he is a sexist git who likes to belittle women and he's going to make a bunch of assumptions about you blah blah blah I'd be more inclined to view it poorly, if he's a jovial sort and there was social awkwardness in those moments you get at funerals sometimes I'd likely just appreciate his attempt to keep things light... assuming it was over the vol au vents and not when the coffin was being carried by. 😁

It's something I say to my brother 😁

It's a jokey/affectionate term from someone who probably uses it to everyone. The broadband bloke who's in my house at the moment keeps calling me 'love'. I couldn't even be bothered to be offended by this, honestly. Move on, stop assuming every man is being sexist and stop looking for reasons to be offended. 🥱

I think it depends. On your dynamic generally, if he's one of those people who are always jokey etc etc.
If I thought it was inappropriate I'd just correct him on my name in a calm 'I'm not having that' way.
Which makes me think, maybe he's bad with names and used it as a way to no-name you without being obvious, like how theatricals call everyone luvvy. 🤔

I think it means "fun" and he meant it as a flirtatious complement. It's not soemthjg he'd say to a man, but he wouldnt be flirting with them.

I'm a passionate feminist and often call out casual sexism, but I do worry we're creating a very bland life life we don't allow/enjoy any flirting.

My DH uses this as a greeting to almost everyone he meets, his granddaughter, my Mum, our neighbour (60 year old man). It's meant in a friendly, affectionate way.
Why don't you tell him how patronising and sexist he is being and if he has any sense he will avoid you like the bloody plague.
Stop being so bloody offended.

Honestly it's the sort of greeting I've only used/had used to me where there was a slightly flirty dynamic.

Even it it wasn't flirting, it's inappropriate for the situation and even in another situation it's unlikely a greeting he'd use man-to-man.

I'm surprised so many people in the vote think you're unreasonable.

In this context? They were at a funeral

YANBU to find it inappropriate, OP.

YANBU.
Not necessarily flirty, he might have forgotten your name and it was the first thing that came into his daft head.

Totally.

Yes, it's sexist in this context - I highly doubt he'd say it to a grown man.

It's more what someone would say to a small child.

This.
I thought the thread was going to be the mother of a toddler complaining about a nursery teacher.

As an adult, I'd take it as affectionate tbh.

I guess it depends on your relationship with the person.

I don't think you can shoehorn sexism in though.