"Hello trouble"

All the it's totally ok, chill out, every Tom, Dick, Harry, Sandra and Susan under the son greets everyone, man, woman, child with 'hello trouble' in every situation posts, seem to be missing the point that that mustn't be the case for the OP.

If OP was living in an area where "hello trouble" was a generic greeting used between men and women of all ages and in all situations, it's unlikely that she'd have left the interaction feeling a little uncomfortable and it's unlikely the interaction would have stood out to her.

We all say it in my family. More often 'Here comes trouble'! It said to anyone or any age and male or female and even to pets.

Really offensive?

I hope you are joking.

Yes, someone I worked with said this to me years ago and I found it really offensive. Patronising and demeaning.

Absolutely nothing remotely sexist, offensive or patronising about it!

It’s what you say to a child. I’d find it very patronising if someone said it to me as an adult.

It's very commonly used in my area up North!!
Men say it to other men, it's just a term of endearment and usually used for people that cause very little trouble.

I get "hello trouble" from an oldish man who's a customer where I work. Then when I look over at him he says "oh you know your name don't you"

As in I must be trouble because I responded by looking at him I really don't think he's flirting though, he usually there with his wife.
But I don't like it much, it's pretty strange of your friends step brother to say that to you especially at a funeral

I say it to older male patients and friends alike it's friendly,jokey non harmful

Common term used for both sexes around our way.

Not offensive or patronising in the slightest - usually a bit of a tease at the person, at most.

I think it's actually complimentary

Yeah that one has a slightly more (over) familiar connotation. I can see that might be uncomfortable from someone you don't know.

I love people saying it to me.

I think it's just a lighthearted greeting to someone he knows well and likes. I wouldn't be offended by it and I'd be quite likely to say it back 😂 I quite like the idea that I'm trouble 🤣 I got called treacle the other day by a tradesman, that's one I hadn't heard in a while!

Yes yabu!! It's just an affectionate term, like 'love' or 'pet'. It's a friendly term of endearment. Dear lord, find something worth actually being offended by 🤣 there are much bigger issues then the word 'trouble' 🤣

@crumbledog 😁

Now I'm wondering if my colleague is flirting with me or not when he greets me.

No, but that's generally because we greet each other with stuff like "Hey knobhead" It's a way of showing affection to a friend without actually showing them any affection, because well that simply wouldn't be masculine.

Stuff like "Hey Trouble" comes from the same place, but said to people you can't get away with a "Alright, ya bastard" to. Namely women and children.

Is it sexist? Of course it is, but I reckon the complaints would be worse if we greeted women like we do men

Not in the slightest bit offensive. Used for and by men and women of all ages
Can't see any hint of misogyny or sexism in the remark
YABVU

Seriously what is wrong with this generation! Does it honestly matter?

I appreciate at a funeral it may not have gone down so well but people are so easily offended these days.

If he was greeting a man, he might have called him buddy or dude. In the grand scheme of things, does it honestly matter?

I had a boss who used to say "Hello, you" to me - and it gave me the shivers.

It’s a playful greeting, not an attempt to assert the patriarchy.
Both men and women have said it to me and I’ve heard it used on men.
Can’t understand why anyone would be offended by that, unless they are indeed trouble and are feeling defensive about it.

Slightly odd thing to say at a funeral perhaps, but beyond that agree with pp that it's basically just a greeting. I live in the south west, where you'd be more likely to get 'hello lovely' .

maybe but I find it infantilising and patronising. He doesn’t say it to the males in the team, they get ‘oh alright Paul’ or ‘morning Jim’ whereas I get a creepy ‘hello trouble’. Some situations/people saying it, I don’t mind it but some i do think it’s inappropriate and this is one of them (in my view). Don’t expect everyone to agree but I’m genuinely not a person who looks for offence round every corner.

So you're admitting there is no intrinsic problem with the term , then? You just don't like the way he uses it? Which is fair enough. You could very well be right about him and his intent.

🤷🏼‍♀️ maybe but I find it infantilising and patronising. He doesn’t say it to the males in the team, they get ‘oh alright Paul’ or ‘morning Jim’ whereas I get a creepy ‘hello trouble’. Some situations/people saying it, I don’t mind it but some i do think it’s inappropriate and this is one of them (in my view). Don’t expect everyone to agree but I’m genuinely not a person who looks for offence round every corner.