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To ask if anyone has a great relationship with their SIL

165 replies

Selenaso · 28/03/2024 07:41

My relationship with my SIL has always been tricky. Whenever I see posts about SILs on here it’s always about something negative (though this is AIBU, after all, so probably shouldn’t be a surprise). AIBU to ask if anyone here has a really good relationship with their SIL, and is glad their sibling married them so this excellent person has been brought into their life? It’d be nice to hear some positive stories and think it’s possible…

YABU - my SIL is a demon
YANBU - my SIL is great and a mate

OP posts:
amusedbush · 28/03/2024 13:54

DH is an only child so no BIL/SIL on his side, but I have one brother. I was never close with any of his ex-girlfriends (one in particular was a real horror and we all breathed a sigh of relief when she was out of the picture!)

I really like his wife though; she is great and they're well-suited. We hang out without DB and always have a good laugh.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 28/03/2024 13:41

Mine is lovely. We have a lot in common and she was always very calming and supportive when my kids were little (theirs are a bit older). She is back at work now and doing really well in her career and it’s really lovely to see.

Rosesanddaffs · 28/03/2024 13:39

daffodilandtulip · 28/03/2024 07:54

I had two lovely SiL but when I got divorced, they refused to speak to me or the DC again.

The same happened to me, it’s sad it’s had to be this way

Netball01 · 28/03/2024 13:37

Nope I despise my SIL - she has acted like the jealous ex girlfriend throughout the whole of my relationship with her brother.
Weird.

saraclara · 28/03/2024 11:49

My SIL and I always rubbed along fine. We parented a little differently (kids the same age) which was occasionally frustrating, but only privately. We've never had a disagreement or argument. But since my husbands death over a a decade ago, we've become much closer, and she's a great support to me. I'm glad she's in my life (and her kids turned out great too!)

Coastalcreeksider · 28/03/2024 11:48

My ex sil to ex dh was fine, we got on pretty well, current sil to db, don't like her very much, we are definitely not each other's cup of tea, we have nothing in common and don't socialise at all.

KreedKafer · 28/03/2024 11:45

Of my three SILs, two are lovely (one of them is honestly like a sister to me) and and the other is/was vile. Fortunately I don't have to have anything to do with her any more now that she and my brother are divorced.

CheapThrillsMeanNothing · 28/03/2024 11:41

I get on really well with DH sister. My brother's wife is lovely but I don't see her often as they live 500 miles away.
With DH brothers' wives, one is lovely but the other is not. She a user and not ever very friendly. I've probably only had 2 meaningful conversations with her, having know her for several years. She only pay attention to those who she feels might be useful to her and the rest of us are largely ignored.

TheFlis · 28/03/2024 11:19

I have three SIL. I’m not sure any of them are people I would have been good friends with in different circumstances but I love them all dearly and enjoy spending time with them.

RabbitsRock · 28/03/2024 11:16

My “main” SiL ( DBro’s wife) is absolutely lovely & a really good supportive friend. DH’s DSis lives abroad & sadly he is estranged from her. I keep in touch on Social Media & we always got on well when we were still seeing her. DH’s DBro’s wife is lovely. We only see them once a year if that but have always got on very well.

TheNoodlesIncident · 28/03/2024 11:16

Both my DBs have been married before and those exes are... hmm. Well, I'm glad they're not together any more.

Both remarried and current SILs are really nice, very normal women who are easy to get on with, chatty and friendly. I don't see much of them as they don't live nearby but we always have a good time when we do meet up. I'm very grateful really. When you read of some of the things that people's in-laws say and do..!

RobinsEggBlue · 28/03/2024 11:14

My SİL is one of the best people I know and I love her to pieces!

Hatty65 · 28/03/2024 11:04

I love all three of my SiLs.

I can't stand my own Sister and am NC with her. She's dreadful.

tealandteal · 28/03/2024 11:03

I have a SIL who is my DHs sister but she is lovely and I will be her maid of honour in May!

Mazuslongtoenail · 28/03/2024 11:01

I’m going to visit my SIL over Easter and I can’t wait. She’s amazing and I wish I could see her more than twice a year, I miss her for days after every time we come home.

Darkdiamond · 28/03/2024 11:00

I've 3 sisters in law and we all get along fine. We aren't best friends but we are friendly and cordial. One has annoyed me a few times in the past but it's not worth holding onto as part of the bigger picture of us all bobbling along together. We are all civil and polite.

neverbeenskiing · 28/03/2024 09:27

My SIL is a wannabe "influencer". We manage to get along fine the 2-3 times a year we see each other but we'll never be close, we have nothing in common.

CatamaranViper · 28/03/2024 09:27

I've got 2 SILs and 2 ex-SILs all of whom I'm close with. In fact, I'm going out with one of my ex-SILs tonight

Nevermind31 · 28/03/2024 09:25

My SIL is lovely, she spends a lot of time with my family, and every year we have a family holiday (separate accommodation though). Her relationship with her mum is tricky though, as with her brother, so I think she feels more at home in our family - my parents are supportive, not demanding and very easy to get on with.

user1285359 · 28/03/2024 09:22

My brother’s wife is absolutely lovely, we really get on well.
DH’s brother’s wife…. Well let’s just say I wouldn’t be sorry if she got hit by a bus.

Crispyturtle · 28/03/2024 09:21

I’ve got three, they’re all fabulous in their own way & great for my brothers, but I have to admit one of them is extra great, she is huge fun and really lights up every family occasion (we’re naturally quite a reserved bunch and she’s just full of silly fun), we’d be a bit lost without her tbh!

Anothnamechang · 28/03/2024 09:19

I left my ex husband and I’m closer than ever with my sil. She is absolutely fantastic and even though my baby isn’t her brothers she’s always including her in everything. We didn’t always have a great relationship when I was with her brother though.

EasterBunnny · 28/03/2024 09:14

I have five and two I consider friends. One I hate and the other two are ok, I only see them about every 18 months.

Sanch1 · 28/03/2024 09:13

I have a great relationship with both my sils. Feel really lucky that they are both so awesome! Sometimes I'd rather spend time with them than my own family 😂

JustlikeEllie · 28/03/2024 09:05

I got on great with my brothers ex wife. They had a bad break up and now don't speak therefore I don't. Awkward circumstances. But when they were together sil and I would meet up without brother.

I'm fine with dhs sister. We aren't close and don't see each other regularly, but she is a good person and we've never had a crossed word.

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