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To ask if anyone has a great relationship with their SIL

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Selenaso · 28/03/2024 07:41

My relationship with my SIL has always been tricky. Whenever I see posts about SILs on here it’s always about something negative (though this is AIBU, after all, so probably shouldn’t be a surprise). AIBU to ask if anyone here has a really good relationship with their SIL, and is glad their sibling married them so this excellent person has been brought into their life? It’d be nice to hear some positive stories and think it’s possible…

YABU - my SIL is a demon
YANBU - my SIL is great and a mate

OP posts:
stormywhethers321 · 28/03/2024 19:52

We get along great. She was my friend first, and I introduced her to my brother.

MrFlippersPancake · 28/03/2024 19:47

One of husbands sisters taught our DC, we get on really well thankfully Smile

PurpleChrayn · 28/03/2024 19:43

My sister in law is amazing. One of my best friends.

FortyFacedFuckers · 28/03/2024 19:41

I love my SIL I am so much closer to her than my sister!

NeedToChangeName · 28/03/2024 19:41

I have several SIL. All delightful and enjoy spending time with any or all of them

Createausername1970 · 28/03/2024 19:39

One I couldn't care less about.

The other is brilliant, we have similar interests and we go out just us, for meals, theatre shows, concerts etc.

SnobblyBobbly · 28/03/2024 19:35

I get on fine with mine (DH's Brothers Wife) although we don't live close, MIL can be a bit of a stirrer and I'm really close to my own sister so due. To a combo of those things, I wouldn't go beyond saying she's fine. No major issues.

ShinyBandana · 28/03/2024 19:34

I could not abide my brother’s ex wife, which was fair enough as she didn’t seem to like me much. I quite like his current partner and am hopeful for the future.

My husbands brothers wife I really like and admire. We don’t see each other often, as we live at opposite ends of the country, but we really enjoy each others company when the opportunity arises

shenandoahvalley · 28/03/2024 19:28

I have 4.

One is not a nice woman, but we rarely see her and everyone is happy with that.

The other three are all lovely women in their own right, just difficult (to various degrees) when it comes to making the sorts of compromises that family life often requires.

So, 3/4 of them are lovely people. 4/4 of them can be difficult relatives. We’re all at an age now where we don’t see each other that much and are very embedded in our own lives, so it’s generally all fine.

smilyfairy · 28/03/2024 19:25

I've known my sister in law for more than 30 years since we were teenagers , She is one of the nicest people I have ever met is so good to my brother . Is a kind and reliable friend . I would trust her over almost anyone I know .

Previousreligion · 28/03/2024 19:22

My SIL (and her husband) are both wonderful. We have loads in common, and I love spending time with them. She's quite a bit older than me and almost a cross between a sister and mother figure. I've frequently arranged to spent time with her or her husband without my husband present, and all of us go on holiday together. I am incredibly grateful for them as my last boyfriend's mother was a total witch.

enoughrainnow · 28/03/2024 18:37

I have 6. The one that lives closest I see most frequently and we get on well but don't spend much time together just us, more family get togethers. The others all live 3 hours away so I don't see them often. I would say we get on and they are all lovely but don't see them often enough to be more than relatives.

Dewdilly · 28/03/2024 18:33

I like all my SILs - two are my DH’s sisters and one is his brother’s wife. One of them I’m particularly close to.

Gorgonemilezola · 28/03/2024 18:30

Yes, known each other nearly 30 years. She's the bee's knees. We don't live close to each other now, and don't see enough of each other but I love spending time with her.

Other SIL I hardly know - they live overseas and I've only met her twice, very much a case of 'a son's a son 'til he gets a wife', I think BIL's forgotten he has siblings.

protectthesmallones · 28/03/2024 18:16

I love my SIL, she's been in my life for 45 years. I introduce her as my sister. I've known her as long as my younger sisters anyway.

crostini · 28/03/2024 18:13

Love my brothers long term partner.
Can't stand my husband's brother's wife.

thecatsthecats · 28/03/2024 18:05

My BIL recently went on a break with his girlfriend and I was gutted. I told my husband that his brother was officially demoted down the list to take our son without her.

Tara336 · 28/03/2024 17:44

Love my SIL in fact I like her a lot better then I do my DB, we choose to spend time together and laugh a lot. Ex SIL is bloody horrible character and was nasty to me.from day one (I was warned she would be) was one of the best things about getting divorced no more SIL

cherish123 · 28/03/2024 17:43

I have 2 SIL. One is lovely and one is not. They are sisters and don't get on. I get on well with not nice SIL's daughter.

EverybodyLTB · 28/03/2024 17:41

Oh but I also have a bitch SIL (exh’s sister) as with pp, she acted like a weird jealous ex girlfriend while we were still married. Now doesn’t contact me or the kids. Fucking weirdo.

EverybodyLTB · 28/03/2024 17:40

I have a lovely ex SIL, she was my boyfriend’s sister from about twenty years ago. We’re still really close, we see each other as much as we can. We barely even mention her brother, who I see maybe every few years by chance. Me and her are the lasting couple! 😍

professionalnomad · 28/03/2024 17:29

I have multiple and they are all absolutely wonderful. I consider them my own sisters.

Somethingsnappy · 28/03/2024 14:06

I adore my SIL. Sadly, they are divorcing. I like her better than my BIL, so it's doubly sad.

WhateverMate · 28/03/2024 13:56

Love my SILs and my ex SIL.

ConsistentlyElectrifiedElves · 28/03/2024 13:55

My SIL is fab - we text most days. Even my nephews comment about how much we talk!

SIL is my DH's sister and she has previously admitted to me that if it wasn't for me she wouldn't see or speak to her brother very much - they tend to wind each other up too much!

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