To ask if anyone has a great relationship with their SIL

My sister in law is fantastic. A hardworking single mother who has a very serious and demanding job. She is loyal and kind and so caring. Her children I adore (DNeice and DNephew) and a credit to her. She is a friend I'd choose and would sell her house if we needed the money. We love her. We're lucky for our children to have her in their lives, she's aspirational.

My step sister in law is amazing I adore her

I have 3 SIL. One is fab, one is ok and one is rather subtly manipulative.

Unfortunately I do have a double SIL problem. 😐
One SIL is without doubt pretty awful. Completely selfish. Never talks to me. Or anyone in the immediate family at all. She HATEs other SIL with avengence!

The other SIL, I thought I got on great for years! And now… I’ve realised that she ‘passively’ has been the biggest contributor to me and my brother losing any kind of relationship. She never comes to visit, so my brother has to come alone. Which he did for ages but now I realise they are ‘so busy’ (SIL fills up every single weekend for him) that he ‘doesn’t have the time’. He hasn’t visited now for 5 YEARS!

I visit them regularly, well I try, but out of the last 5 visits - 2 were cancelled last minute by SIL - 2 others she said I should ‘stay with my mum’ instead and only got to see them for 1 hour instead of a whole weekend - and the others I just couldn’t get hold of SIL who ‘holds the diary’.

I tried regular calls to my brother… but the last few times he was apparently ‘not able’ to take the call as her family were around and the other times he was at work really late.

And now I hear she’s been saying I’m selfish because I don’t live near my mother, (she lives near them), even though I do just about everything for her and she never visits her ever either.

Of course it’s up to my brother to be aware of this, but he’s super defensive. He goes to her brothers on holiday every year, even though he’s not super keen on him, and visits her family every month at least.

It’s really sad. I’ve been booted so far into the sidelines I’ve lost my brother!

They’re nice people yes.

My DD and her SIL are thick as thieves! She’s lovely!

I get on well with my sil. She's really lovely

Hmmm this is a difficult one to answer. I love my SIL like a sister and we are very close. She has been a solid support to me when I went through some tough times and she has many excellent qualities. We hang out together and message quite a lot. However she is a difficult person. She alienates people without realising and seems genuinely unaware that she is doing so. She falls out with colleagues, friends, family members regularly but doesn’t put two and two together. I am conflict avoidant. So even when she is borderline offensive I say nothing because ironically if she were told she had offended or upset me/someone else she would take it very badly and get defensive and upset. It’s a topical subject we all tiptoe around so as not to rock the boat because whenever the subject starts to rear its head, she gets very upset. I mean VERY upset. But she is a lovely kind person in so many ways. So generous with her time. So thoughtful. Funny. Honestly we laugh all the time. I love her to bits. But yeah, there is this elephant in the room we all ignore. It’s difficult because I am so close to my brother and we would do more stuff together like holidays etc, but my DP and my DC have said they would not enjoy a holiday with her whenever I’ve suggested we go away with my DB. Really sad about that as I can suck up the things that are difficult but it seems my DP and DC cannot and so it would be unfair of me to force it on them. Shame. We would all love a holiday with my DB as he is the best DB a person could ask for!

I have 3 SILS.

BILs wives I don't have a lot in common with and wouldn't necessarily choose as "friends" but we do all get along just fine and we often have family get together just me, MIL and 3 SILs.

DH sister is one of my best friends, we were each others MoH and I see her and spend more time with her than DH 😂

I get on great with 3 of mine…..not so. Much the other 2

I wish but my sil is a militant vegan who scares my poor mil and tbh dh, me and made my then 5 year old dc cry as dc dared to eat sausages at a special meal (massive backstory here as I frankly was glad dc was eating anything at that time and sil arriving and saying in loud voice to the whole of the restaurant no one in her family would sit next to anyone eating meat, dc aged 5 burst into tears as wanted to sit next to cousin). Dc now calls sil evil since despite us trying to play it down. Sil is married to bil who db to dh. Saying that since her breast cancer a year ago she's become more relaxed and at Christmas didn't lecture us or poor pil for first time in 20 years. Tbh she seemed more human and mil said things are getting better (only taken 20 years). For some reason they want to see us (dh, me and dc) at Easter....I have amazing pil by the way. My dsis lucky with amazing sil.

I'm really envious reading this thread...I want a lovely SIL who I adore with all my heart and enjoy spending time with as opposed-- to a trashy, backstabbing cow.-- (Stamps foot).

I've got two. Both are DH's sisters. I'm not close to either of them. But one is nice enough, and DH gets on with her. The other is a bit of a bitch.

My SIL is lovey and but I don't get to see her very often as we've both very busy lives;we get on really well.

I'm also good friends with my nieces mum despite her and my brother separating over a decade ago;her two other children (nieces younger half siblings) call me auntie Duckingnella.

I like both my SIL's and admire them for different reasons but while we get on well we don't all hang out or socialise as a group of girls, they do but I don't drink and we're into pretty different things.

I have 4 SIL and genuinely love them all. One of them I don't know as well as she lives abroad and we have only met a couple of times, but the other 3 are genuinely amongst my favourite people in the world.

My only SIL is my DH's sister. We are, as my grandmother would have said, not one another's cup of tea.

I have 5 sister in laws
1 - husbands sister - love her to pieces and would do anything for her.
2 - husbands brothers gf - meh, get on ok. Never be best friends but can manage to talk to her
3 - husbands other brothers wife - full on bitch. For some reason she has a real issue with me and my family. We’ve never had an argument but she is just a bitch
4 - my brothers wife - another bitch. We had a massive argument a long time ago and there was a lot said and neither have forgiven the other.
5 - my other brothers wife - we get on well. Not besties, but would do anything for her.

Nearly the same boat than you. My SIL was my best friend friend {ex husband sister), when my husband left me she was there for me, she did not like his new partner at all however he has now a new one who she seems to like and she has taken her distance with me. I know her over 25 years and like ex husband she is more or less dumping me.

My brother’s partner (not married but long term, own a house together) is great, we don’t live close but I love visiting them, we all go on holidays together.

My other SIL (my DH and her DH are brothers) is one of my favourite people. Genuinely think we’d keep each other if either of our marriages ended.

My husband’s sister lives locally and is one of my best friends. My brother’s wife I rarely speak to (lives abroad, we see them once a year) but she’s nice enough.

I have 3 SILs, my DH three sisters and I get on great with them, especially one of them, we socialise together a lot and I class her as one of my closest friends

I get on well with both my SIL's, I'm a very different person to my brothers wife, in fact my brother and I are completely different si that makes sense. My DH's sister is great, she does stuff I don't understand and makes off choices, but on the whole I wish they lived closer to us as I'd like to spend more time with her and BIL

I have two fantastic sisters in law and my brothers are lucky to have them! I really enjoy their company and spending time with them

Have four de facto sisters in law. Adore DP's two sisters and his brother's partner, and count one in particular as a close friend. Love my bro's wife. She's very quiet, but interesting and clever and good for him.

Didn't realise how lucky that makes me!