To ask if anyone has a great relationship with their SIL

I have four sister in laws and they are all lovely.
DB’s wife is a wonderful person. Truth be told, I prefer her to my own brother

@Selenaso my sister in law was my friend first and I am how she met my brother! We struggle with how to identify each other.. best friend or sister in law! We have been on holiday together and I see her and my lovely nieces more than my brother even though I work with him 😂 she is honestly like a sister to me and I love her to bits

Cannot stand my SIL. She’s a childish, entitled and selfish

Would happily never see her again

One brother is on his 3rd wife and so I've given up trying to form friendships with them! He's had some truly lovely girlfriends but they ditch him. I think he must be an awful partner.

Other brother is starting a separation from his wife, we've always got on really well but she's blocked the whole family now!

I don't have a sister so it's a big shame

Does it count if your SIL is your husband's sister? Mine is like a second sister to me.

I'm actually much closer to my female cousins who all live some distance away and so only meet occasionally at family events. We love getting together and they are really easy to get on with.

I really wish they lived closer and the SIL lived hundreds of miles away the mardy mare.

Me! I have 3. Brother's wife is one of my best friends who I love dearly (lives 5 mins drive away). DH has a sister who I adore, but don't see often enough (8 hours away). They will come and stay near us for a week and we will spend all our time as a family, never run out of things to talk about. DH's brother has a wife who is lovely, but very much keeps herself to herself. Rarely see her but they are always generous at Christmas and birthdays to our kids. See her at weddings and sadly funerals.

My brother's widow is in the States. She is a lovely person. We're rarely in touch though. There's the odd, 'hope you're well' message. Since my brother's death, our side of the family doesn't really exist for her anymore. Maybe we're the bridge to my brother/her husband that hurts too much for her to cross. I have to allow her room to live how she needs to. I'm patient and I do love her. Though I miss connecting with her.

My ex husband's sister is the devil's work. My ex is in prison for abusing a minor (our daughter) and his sister has stood staunchly by him and won't speak to me or our children. She's an extreme example of a nasty SIL.

We don't see her anymore and haven't for many years (DH sister that is), very glad about it and no intention of ever changing this. Not interested in me or our children having any kind of relationship with her ever. My children don't know her and wouldn't recognise her if she walked down the street.
My SIL (brother's wife) on the other hand is a lovely woman who we all love her, I get along with her like a sister.

Hate my SIL now, however at first I liked her.

She seems to have this false personality of being overly nice and friendly. But she’s actually very insecure and bitchy.

After a bit she seemed to just decide she didn’t like me and started making backhanded comments, speaking over me at family gatherings, speaking directly to my husband rather than to both of us etc. I literally just ignore her completely now, if she wants to be an insecure little bitch she can do it on her own time lmao.

Mine are lovely and we get on well when we see each other, which is extremely rare! I think the secret is living far and keeping them at arms length. We are all very different and one of them is totally batshit but we just do the usual essential family get togethers and stuff and get on with our lives.

I’ve got 3

My brother’s wife - she’s fab, we don’t live nearby so don’t see a great deal of each other, but we get on fine, if not particularly close.

DH has 2 sisters. Again, we don’t live near them so don’t see a lot of them. 1 is lovely, the other a complete nightmare

My siblings wife is a more malicious version of our narcissistic mother. She even looks like our mother.

She is a deluded, gaslighting, drama triangle communicater with a penchant for diminishing others through lies to elevate her sense of self.

We call her the cuckoo as she has made it her life's mission to try and push me out to take my place. Ironically I couldn't give a shit and she is welcome to them....

HTH answer your question.

My husband's sisters are great! We're not best friends but I look forward to seeing them and they make family meet ups more enjoyable.

My brother doesn't have a partner but I'm expecting to like her when he finds someone. Hopefully.

My DH has an older sister who is like a best friend to me, we have weekends away and do alot together. Love her to pieces

I don't see mine that often but when we do she is soooo funny, clever, witty and deserves a medal for putting up with my miserable brother. She also loves my Mum (her MIL) like her own Mum and I love her for that too.

I live in a different country to DB and SIL and she is much younger than me but we get on fine when we see each other, which is maybe once or twice a year. We’re not close but we might be if we saw each other more.

I also like ExH’s sister, she lives in a different country too and I probably won’t ever see her again. I was more sad about that (also exMIL) than leaving ExH!

I love my brother's wife. She's hilarious, smart and kind. And very talented.
And I adore my ex husband's sister. We go on holiday together. She's like a sister.

These responses are all strangely polarised into the extremes. I like my two SIL very much, we see each other without the brothers or with, but probably no more than 10 times per year. Messages are usually about organising something but will include general chat. At some point each of us has annoyed the others, but we're family so we don't argue and just move on. I or they could talk about anything with each other, but usually we wouldn't. I'm happy that I have them in my life, but other friends are my favourite people. My BIL I'm less close to; we get on well enough and like each other, but just don't really chat much. I have two ex-BIL; one was wonderful and the other was evil.

Oh yes, my SIL is awesome! In fact I divorced her brother years ago but am still friends with her. She's one of the sweetest, kindest people I've ever known and I'm so glad she is in my life.

My SIL is a literal angel! DH and SIL are like best friends and she's extremely helpful and kind. Very lucky to have her around. Not so close with the other SILs but they are nice enough.

I live my SILs, especially DH’s sister who is a hoot.

are they still your SIL at another remove ie DH’s brother’s wife?

As much as I would have loved to get on well with my dh sister (and I did at first) she is a lost cause. We haven't spoken to her in about 7 years because she's a nasty, selfish and immature person who even told our 1 year old at the time to f**k off. Then told my inlaws they weren't allowed to talk to me or acknowledge our second childs pregnancy or even meet them so they missed out on the first few years of their life before they understood we aren't bending to her every whim and thankfully our relationship with the inlaws has now improved. Even though she still tries to control everything. Sad but true. I could list a whole list of examples but I don't bother wasting my time on nasty people. I always supported my DH decision regardless what it was. He made the call to cut contact and I was the one who extended the olive branch to his parents and I'm happy I did but he stands firm on never talking to his sister again.

I have three SILs and I have good relationships with all of them. We aren't best friends and I don't see them very often (probably 1-3 times per year), but we get on well and take an interest in one another's lives.

Really love my SIL she was a bridesmaid for me. She is really kind and supportive and has done loads of baby sitting for us! We are the same age and she’s quieter and cleverer than me and I really appreciate we are different but get on so well!