Parent going on holiday without child AGAIN

Yes you’re being unreasonable.
if Parent A didn’t have the opportunity to do this in their previous relationship then why can’t they now?! If the child is looked after with another “active parent” then it’s really a non issue.
Maybe parent B should take her away if they feel bad about it.
14 is a difficult age, and it’s very easy to be judgmental from the outside.
its totally ok for a parent to have and explore their own life and be their own person.

@Lifetooshort23

Cos it’s more fun to travel without the kids
simple

@PyongyangKipperbang

youre the lowest of the low as a grandma it seems !
I don’t wanna be one

Genuinely astounded at your total lack of self awareness, its actually very impressive!

I bet you just say it how you see it, right?

Really? You can’t think of a reason why a parent might want to travel without their children just once? 🙄

She posted asking if she was being unreasonable and the majority voted yes she was therefore when u publicly post ur asking the question. My point is neither parents or grand children appear to have asked her for any input. Therefore my opinion stands stay in your own lane no one has asked for her opinion within her family! Post it as a question on the internet you’re gonna hear some views you don’t like or agree with. Don't like the answers …… don't ask the question. As i said previously most people voted she was unreasonable….. i rest my case! Mind your business folks everyone will be happier

Not self centred at all. i will never live my life to please other irrelevant people or pussy foot about snowflakes who do not understand boundaries and think they have every right to an opinion on something that was not ever asked for. You call it whatever you like. i call it people knowing their place and me and my family live is peace knowing i will always do what suits as all and all of our needs are met, without uninvited irrelevant opinions that people didn’t ask for.

Thats my opinion. Yours isn’t needed

That takes self-centredness to a whole new level.

yanbu! Poor girl

So you can have an opinion but a concerned grandparent can’t? lol

😅

to paraphrase Darth Vader.... "Your lack of self awareness is disturbing"!

Absolutely no where!! Thats my opinion. Yours isn’t needed. Thats the whole point of the post people thinking other peoples views on their lives are relevant…… they are not especially when not asked for. Its irrelevant to me whether you agree with me or not.

Wow.....where to start?!

I’m only at mum level - of young kids - and I’ve never understood parents that want to travel without them.. I agree, what’s the point in having them if you’re gonna just dump them every few months to travel without them! I want to show my kids the world, I could never ever leave them behind while I travelled.. I seem to be in the minority though!

Stay in ur lane grandma its 100% not ur place to judge! No one has asked for your opinion so keep it to yourself. What works for the immediate family is none of your concern. Ur a grandma know ur place or it will end badly for you!

Its really simple.... it's not your decision. You are entitled to 'feel what you choose but ... keep it to yourself.

Agreed. I'm sure there are some awful teens out there but the majority are lovely.

@AGoingConcern OP has said this year Parent A is going on holiday 9 weeks in 13 week period of time. 50:50 is usually one week on, one week off, so how does that fit?

Finding one trip out of all of those that both parent and child have a shared interest in isn't pandering.

I don't buy this idea that all teens are always horrible ogres that bite your head off. I have moments where they drive me batty, but they are also super fun.

Honestly, most people judge others to some degree. I don't understand why people make such strong judgements about those who judge - it's a natural thing. The real issue is what we do with those judgements and how it changes our interactions with that person, in my opinion. I can make a judgement and know that this is just my projection and thinking against my own set of values but it doesn't always mean the other person is wrong or bad. Sometimes you have to speak up though, tactfully, especially in situations where a child is being negatively impacted.

I think that it is poor form to go on several lengthy holidays without your child. It sends a very clear message to that child and will likely cause her to feel a sense of abandonment. I would feel the same regardless of whether this was the mum or the dad.

That may the great thing about teens, the drawback about teens is that they often don't want to do these things and can be pretty nasty about it. I would not pander to that.

GD isn't fine, though. She's pushing back, and her school attendance is affected.

I don't think it's acceptable for parent A to not offer any of these experiences to the child. There's this air of "I'm finally free of this child / obligation" which is extremely hurtful. The great part about teens is that you can do interesting things with them. It's fine for parent A to travel without the kid, but they should also be travelling with her.

Presumably parent A is travelling when the teen is scheduled to be with parent B.
Is it only acceptable for parent A to be sat at home alone during this time?

This. I think in a shared custody situation one parent traveling can be very, very different from both one or both parents traveling in an "intact" family. In a 50/50 custody split each parent has 28 weeks per year without their child regardless of if they're sitting at home twiddling their homes or traveling. OP hasn't provided any ways parent A's travel schedule is effecting time they would otherwise be together. Of course it's possible parent A is traveling during their custody periods but we don't have any info to support that.

Presumably parent A is travelling when the teen is scheduled to be with parent B.
Is it only acceptable for parent A to be sat at home alone during this time?