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To be pissed at my name being laughed at constantly

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NotAmazonAlexa · 27/03/2024 19:43

So I'll let you guess my name.....

Today I had a hospital procedure and every member of staff laughed at my name. I was asked if it really was my name and what the weather forecast is for tomorrow.

On the form I had to fill out first it asked what you would like to be called so I put my nickname to hopefully avoid this but that didn't work. I didn't say anything as I didn't want to make it awkward and wanted the procedure over with as soon as possible.

Not the first time this has happened, at a different hospital last month one nurse couldn't stop laughing and asking me questions..

I'm in my late 40's, used to love my name but it's becoming a nightmare.

Fuck you Amazon

OP posts:
DilysPrice · 31/03/2024 11:33

wulzcat23 · 31/03/2024 08:59

It’s a Welsh thing too although less common nowadays. Years ago common for boys to be called Lewis Lewis or William Williams!

Yes I've got a Thomas Thomas in the Welsh part of my family tree.

DianaTaverner · 31/03/2024 11:31

MyDearOliveDuck · 30/03/2024 17:43

My surname means a very rude word in one of the Asian languages (not sure which one) and I hate being asked for it by Asians. I tend to just give my first name or even my maiden name. My daughters were told this by an Asian taxi driver years ago. He thought it was very funny.

Surely in that situation you'd go to the effort of Googling and find out which particular language it's a problem in? "Asian" covers 60% of the world's population, whereas even if it was Mandarin that's only about 15%.

Coffeewinecake · 31/03/2024 11:30

@NotAmazonAlexa I am a medical professional and I am shocked to hear that you have had this experience. I can’t imagine any of my colleagues commenting, let alone laughing. I would definitely complain, totally inappropriate behaviour and it is belittling at a time when you are vulnerable.

T1Dmama · 31/03/2024 11:23

Eastre · 31/03/2024 10:43

You want to try being in my position, my name is so “hilarious” that I’m actually changing it legally. I’ve had hassle everywhere I’ve gone for years and nobody believes it’s my real name.

outing but - Annabelle Lecter. Obviously I’ve gone by Belle for years

Which part will you change?
It is unfortunate when parents name their children without much insight!

At school I had a teacher called Sue Spender! (She was a miss so hadn’t married into that surname)
My brother went to school with a Jamie James… and my dad went to school with a Robin Hood!

You hear of people with the surname Davison naming their kid Harley and you just think what morons the parents are… there was a post on mumsnet not long ago where a woman was asking if she was wrong for not wanting to call her unborn son Ted Bundy! (Theodore) because her husband and inlaws were pressuring her too! I do hope she held her ground and refused to call the poor kid that!

T1Dmama · 31/03/2024 11:13

You’ve not actually said what your name is… I don’t believe for a moment that Alexa on its own would generate so many jokes?!…
Now that your procedure is done and hopefully a success I would be lodging a complaint and saying how unprofessional you felt it was if staff to mock your name in such a childish and belittling manor!
I would absolutely call people out on it.. just a simple ‘oh… because I’ve never heard that one before!’ Would turn the joke back on them and make them feel very daft and unoriginal !!

T1Dmama · 31/03/2024 11:00

ToxicChristmas · 27/03/2024 19:45

Karen?

Edit: missed the amazon bit! Alexa then!

I have a friend called Karen and she absolutely hates it now. People constantly smirk and ask if she is one.

Edited

The Karen meme has got boring.
just another way of society shutting down women with an opinion!

‘okay Karen’
’stop being a Karen’ etc …

Beautiful3 · 31/03/2024 10:48

I don't have an Alexa so honestly didn't make that connection. I actually had to read the thread to find out! Alexa is a lovely name. Lots of cars/technology/trainers etc are named after people/gods. I'm suprised people do that to you, because the name was around a long time before amazon's product.

Eastre · 31/03/2024 10:43

You want to try being in my position, my name is so “hilarious” that I’m actually changing it legally. I’ve had hassle everywhere I’ve gone for years and nobody believes it’s my real name.

outing but - Annabelle Lecter. Obviously I’ve gone by Belle for years

Jessieshome · 31/03/2024 10:38

Alexa is a lovely name. That is incredibly moronic of the hospital staff. I would make a proper complaint, it's completely unprofessional and unacceptable behaviour.

Busybee44 · 31/03/2024 10:29

If it is Alexa, I'd just say Alexis to stop the jokes

TealPoet · 31/03/2024 10:01

It’s horrible to laugh at anyone’s name. Professional people should know and do better. They aren’t five year olds in a playground 😰

MrsWimpy · 31/03/2024 09:18

DD has a classmate called Alexa. In lockdown when they were all online learning , every time the teacher said her name about 20 devices went off asking what she wanted 🫣

wulzcat23 · 31/03/2024 09:04

Bojosgirl · 30/03/2024 20:52

I thought Karen and my name is Karen. My 10 yr old grandson thinks it’s a load of rubbish about Karens and I’m the nicest person he knows. That’ll do for me 🤷‍♀️

I always think of the scary Disney film Watcher in the Woods as the ghostly girl was called Karen. Still my favourite film (even though it has aged poorly)!

Funnily enough the pariah name from a few years ago was Sharon, which rhymes with Karen. Did Darren ever get a bad rap…?!

Optimisticpessimist1 · 31/03/2024 09:04

It sucks as I've always loved the name for a baby name but it's totally off the cards now. But you are not being unreasonable. Like you say fuck Amazon 🤦🏼‍♀️

wulzcat23 · 31/03/2024 08:59

Mayana1 · 31/03/2024 05:53

Yes, this! I worked with Mohamed Mohamed. Some parents, really. But he is Arabic, so obviously in a different culture this is probably not unusual.

It’s a Welsh thing too although less common nowadays. Years ago common for boys to be called Lewis Lewis or William Williams!

amusedbush · 31/03/2024 08:57

Retiredfromearlyyears · 30/03/2024 19:30

Could've been Siri! 😆 🤣

Siri is a name though, and laughing at it is just as rude as laughing at Alexa.

There is a very popular creator on Tiktok called Siiri Parks.

amusedbush · 31/03/2024 08:52

I think it's a beautiful name and it's a shame it's now synonymous with the Amazon speaker. I was obsessed with Alexa Chung in my late teens/early 20s and Mulberry recently re-launched their bag named after her.

Selfishly, I'm a bit nervous about my name (Jessica) being ruined the same way Karen has. I've noticed a trend on social media where my name is being used as the Millennial version of a "Karen", and I saw a Tiktok where someone was stopping people in the street to ask them the bitchiest name, and most people immediately said Jessica Easter Sad

SeaBreezeDewberryMusk · 31/03/2024 08:50

MaybeDonkey · 30/03/2024 20:35

Ocean Ramsey seems to manage just fine.
Patience is a very traditional name from the 1600s no less, not that it should matter, ridiculing names is not OK regardless.

Parents registering their babies with stupid and ridiculous ‘names’ is not OK either.

ChatLike · 31/03/2024 08:24

I am cringeing at all the people saying, could be worse eg Siri, Google etc with laughing emojis. Do they really think they are being original or funny? 🤯

ChatLike · 31/03/2024 08:18

I don’t even associate Alexa with Amazon. I think of Alexa Chung if anything. It’s a great name. The staff were unprofessional.

And I would cringe so much at anyone who found this funny. Probably the same ones on MN who snort their tea out at banal comments and are easily amused. The only person I can imagine doing this irl is my dad and he is a socially incompetent idiot.

Julianne65 · 31/03/2024 08:16

I don’t understand why they would laugh. It’s a lovely name. I don’t even think of Amazon when I think of the name Alexa. I think of Alexa Chung who is really
cool!

GoldEagle · 31/03/2024 08:06

How flaming unprofessional not to mention rude of the medical staff, but a sad indication of falling standards in every section of society.

Rottweilermummy · 31/03/2024 06:11

I know an Alexa too, would never occur to other people I worked with to make fun of her name or anyone else's, and certainly not a patient. maybe next time member of staff comes up to you start laughing at their name

Mayana1 · 31/03/2024 05:53

SweetDreamsAreMadeOf · 30/03/2024 23:14

I used to work with a Thomas Thomas (i.e. first name and surname)...I was desperate to ask him if his parents had ever indicated why! Seriously who does that to their kid!?

We also used to have a someone that worked at one of our suppliers that was named Mark Moist (which is unfortunate enough in itself), but because of the way the company email system was set up it appeared in Outlook as 'Moist, Mark', cue lots of jokes (not to his face), about having a moist mark in our inboxes...

You could have it worse 🤣

Yes, this! I worked with Mohamed Mohamed. Some parents, really. But he is Arabic, so obviously in a different culture this is probably not unusual.

useitorlose · 31/03/2024 05:18

I'm a teacher and we once had Alexa and Siri in the same class (international school).