To ask to stop your children ‘play’ screaming?

I really don’t understand the screaming thing. My dc were not allowed to scream unless they were in danger . One loud screen and it was straight inside, or home . My mother would have gone mad if we had screamed. Children these days seem to have no volume control.

Lovely. It's the parents who are at fault here.

I'm not sure there is a lot you can do about it, but personally when my three were younger, I wouldn't have them shrieking indoors or out, they can play without making a racket and disturbing others around them, I like to hear children playing happily but there is a limit. You have my sympathy.

I have an early memory of coming home from preschool and repeating word for word, to my Mum, what the teacher had told us.

"Outside in the playground, you can shout and scream if you want to. In the red room, you can talk to your friends. But in the quiet room, we have to be quiet."

And my Mum's response, very dismissively: "Scream? Why would you need to scream?"

Hopefully they do damage their voices, they may tell their kids to stfu then

I taught a young woman who, by Year 9, had damage to her vocal cords. You could hear that her voice wasn't right: it was much quieter and lower than it should have been. It sounded like she always had a sore throat. Her parents paid for her to get specialist help, but it was basically just tips about how to protect her voice.

Children who scream like that constantly are in danger of doing themselves permanent damage.

Same. I wasn’t allowed to scream. My kids weren’t allowed to scream. Who enjoys it? It’s a fucking nuisance

Main takeaway from this thread is there are so many shit parents. So shit in fact that they don't even understand how shit.

I'm fairly strict with my two, and I get compliments everywhere we go from restaurant staff, the older generation, shop staff etc.

They still have fun almost 100% of the time, they're just considerate while doing it.

@Meowandthen I completely agree with you. I've worked from home for 24 years. When my daughter was young and had her friends round to play in the garden, they never screamed or shrieked like little banshees - they were taught to play at normal volume and to have respect for our neighbours.

🙄 kids have always been loud, people never used to WFH and now they want everyone to change for them. I live very near 2 primary schools and you can always hear them playing out. OP is being laughably precious about 30 minutes of her day.

The slide might be scary for them. Have you seen the drop slides, I'd scream on those!

Even if it's scary the first time, it's certainly not scary enough for them to be put off going on for the 100th time. Each time screaming more loudly than the last.

People have always worked from hom. For example, I have for 18 years. It is not a new thing.

You need to open that mind a bit. Consider the ill, the elderly, shift workers.

What is also not new, is the concept of thinking of others. You could try it some time...

The slide might be scary for them. Have you seen the drop slides, I'd scream on those!

YANBU unreasonable op. I think the occasional excited squeal is fine but full on screaming is just out-of-control, inconsiderate yobbishness on the part of the parents.

I agree with this.

We have a primary school at the end of our road and I love hearing them in the playground at lunch time.

Hearing girls, mainly girls screaming at softplay is a completely different thing. No, the slide is not that scary, shut up

This is way too far the other way!

@DodoTired what's so wrong with you that you don't find screaming annoying? It's designed to be alarming for humans.

Tell me you haven’t read the thread without telling me you haven’t read it….

yup, totally annoying and horrible slack parenting, when mine were small l would not allow indescriminate screaming,...or they came in...there is no need
Why some parents don't explain to their offspring that not everyone wants to be disturbed by their screaming ....so stop it is beyond me....

I swear that the same people who complain about the noise of children outside are the same ones who bemoan that kids these days spend too much time on screens and don’t have the same freedom that they had as kids…

She is inside her house all doors shut, likely double if not triple glazing and brick walls. It is clear if she can't be on the phone it is beyond just playing out its this competitive noise making that girls in particular indulge in. I actually think its attention seeking and I remember a couple of girls in my daughters class being the same, I can recall telling some, unless it stopped I would be calling their parents to take them home as it wasn't fair on my neighbours (kids party) and yes they were from families that paid "less attention" to their kids and more to their phones or other matters

I'm with you, op. No need to scream. Personally, I'd tell them to bugger off.

Yes we screamed if something was wrong but we would have been dragged inside if we had been screaming for nothing in the garden as my parents wouldn't allow us to annoy the neighbours. There is no need for children to scream.

Screaming seems to be a new thing. It simply didn't occur to me to scream my head off when I was a kid. It just wasn't what anyone did.

But today? Well, it's thanks to yet more shitty, self-centred parenting!

(I always think the screaming kids are the ones who will grow up to be the most irritating, socially inept adults around.)

Soft play is not for screaming. It's for climbing and playing. I don't knowcwhy kids shriek in there.