To feel a bit jealous about this woman and DH?

Honestly it sounds like she may have a crush on him but I don't think he's even aware. If he was I doubt the card would be on display.
I would tell him to be very careful and maybe mention it to HR because if things don't go her way she could cry victim especially with him being her boss

You can’t do that at my work. It would be seen as wrong. If you want to reach out to a colleague, you praise them via reward and recognition.

Ask him, a little bit of jealousy isn’t anything to be ashamed of, we all feel that way sometimes.

Yes, my antenna would be whirring too & I'd be advising DH to stay clear of her.

You could be honest and say Gosh, I haven't felt those feelings in a long time.

Totally understand the little flash of jealousy. It does sound harmless/innocent though and actually quite sweet! Glad you've gotten over it :-)

Both me and my DP would definitely be saying something to eachother if this was us!!

I think you’re reading way too much into it. Would you feel this way if she were older and less pretty? Is it literally just because she’s younger and attractive so you feel threatened?

I’m the only woman in our department now after wonderful job cuts last summer. One married colleague is classically good looking and I’m the youngest and not ugly, they use both me and him as the models for publicity. I got him a card and book last year when he became a professor because it was a nice thing to do, it doesn’t mean I fancy him because I don’t. I get fed up with the narrative about us having a thing for one another just because of the way we look tbh, it’s really boring.

If it’s all innocent then I’d be warning dh to tread carefully as she could be emotionally fragile. It could accidentally turn into one of those patient having a crush on their doctor/therapist scenarios, and they can get messy.

This would also have my antenna whirring - given that she's taken her emotions to him (save me!) then really honed in on his hobby (look! I listen to every word you say and understand you!), I'd say she's fishing.

Maybe he still thinks she's just a friend, but this is how defences start to get chipped away.

@pinkmushroom5 why is the card weird? Is it because he's told her about his hobby or is it because she's put effort into it and you think she's keen? I think the doodle of herself is the weird part

this from my experience. The genuinely nice blokes can be a bit blind to such things

Newsflash. Women can sometimes be friendly with men. Sometimes these men - shock horror - are married!

I don’t think there is anything to this at all.

Keep us updated

Sounds good op. She might just be one of those people who 'does' cards. I was before kids and life overload came along. 🤣
Meanwhile, there's a brilliant little independent card shop near me that occasionally turns up absolute gems that are just made for so and so... I have one in my collection now (but have forgotten to post it! 🫠)...
So I think the card could easily mean absolutely nothing. 👍

Exactly this, I always draw a bee, because that's my thing and people know me because of it! 🐝

Sounds like she has a crush.

I'm so intrigued by this doodle though.....

Also, I just want to tell a story about my ex. He was away (military) but me and two friends were crashing in his flat.

Anyway, the flat was full of cards from different women. Over friendly, gushing cards from women who clearly all felt they had a special bond with him. All displayed like trophies. My friends couldn't believe it.

It does sound like she's gone to rather a lot of effort to make it personal. Maybe she has a crush on him?

I feel like if he had anything to hide, he would have put it on his desk at work rather than displaying it at home?

I would probably comment something half joking to him like - that's a bit much, isn't it?

Obviously none of us can know for sure, but in my experience the card and the behaviour (the cliche sobbing to him but fine as dandy to everyone else) suggests that she wants something from him. I don't know what it is she wants. Something similar happened to me and my ex some years ago and well... it wasn't innocent.

I imagine that putting a doodle of herself on the card is "her thing" and how she signs cards generally

If there was anything going on he wouldn't be putting the card on the mantelpiece

I am similar to you OP in that I had a bad experience in a previous relationship & it did make me a bit more vigilant when I met my DP. A few questions:

How long have you been with DH?
Is he someone that attracts female attention generally? My ex was I guess classically good looking & I realise now that a lot of women had crushes on him. That’s not to say looks are the only driver of having a crush but makes it more likely! He also was quite insecure which is a bad combo.
How is your relationship with DH generally?

Me either.

That's not to say anything is going on. But her doing this + going crying to him? I would keep my eyes open. It all depends on how he is responding.

Have you mentioned it to him?