To say I'm dreading Easter Bank Holidays ?

Probably so that people don't advise going to the theatre.

Really sorry BeCoralKoala that sounds really hard 💐. I can understand why you are dreading the Bank Holiday. Maybe you will get a better response if you create a post of your own? Or find some good ideas here. I hope you are ok.

Just as an aside, you haven’t wasted the years you were with him. You had a good sustained relationship. It’s recently come to an end and you understandably feel shocked and bitter and angry atm. But those feelings will eventually change and subside and you will see that an unhappy ending doesn’t negate all the good times that you had together.

Turn wi-fi off. Don't understand what the problem is. Either they come out or you leave them with no WiFi. Good old board games.

You’re kind of in a prison of your own making though. They can “expect” you to be around all they like. Doesn’t mean you have to be. By mid teens I’m assuming they’re maybe 16 and 14. You used to be able to join the army at 16 so I think they’ll be ok while you go to the pub ( assuming no SEN). Just do what you want.

Your kids are mid teens, yet they are 'too young' to be left at home alone and can't cope when you go out?

Have they been treated like babies their whole lives? How on earth do they cope at school / sixth form? I moved out of my parents house at 16! They're plenty old enough. Stop letting them dictate your life and crack on.

We have a young child so we are hosting friends on Friday. Couldn’t you invite friends over for a takeaway and some drinks if the pub isn’t an option

4 days op:

One obligatory day out as family biking, visiting a local attraction, walking or hiking, and ending up in pub.

One day where you meet a friend for half a day and spend half the day pampering. And your dh stats at home and does chores/cooking/gardening.

One day where your dh gets to go out and meet his friends and you stay at home and catch up with chores/gardening/cooking. Maybe cook for everyone that might? And your teens invite friends over?

And one day where your dh and you sneak out for some alone time, to the cinema, or to lunch, then go for a walk and bring the teens a pizza or a takeaway back in the evening.

That covers all bases I think!

That sounds AMAZING.

If they're not old enough to be left all day fair enough, but are they old enough to be left for a few hours? Could you and your husband go out for lunch and a mooch round the shops? Or a nice walk? Or a coffee shop?

The two adults in the house don't have to spend the whole long weekend doing nothing, because the two teenagers in the house don't want to.

This is so weird. Why can’t you leave your teens alone? My 11 year old can be trusted home alone for a short while… Why does a day trip need to last 10 hours? You could go to a local forest or on a walk. A typical day out for us like this would be: lazy morning, out at 11, couple of hours in the fresh air, pub on the way home for a quick pint, back in time for a take away or movie night. I’d be making your teens go if it were me!

Why can’t you and your husband go for a local walk and pub trip or lunch for a couple of hours?

I'm struggling. Six weeks ago my partner of 17 years ended our relationship. I can honestly say I never saw it coming, he was perfect for me, so loving, so kind, my soul mate. He told me he didn't love me any more and had felt like this for a year. He completely shocked me. Since the day he told me he has ignored me other than when I go to him to try and talk (we have a house together which needs to be sorted out). I feel nothing but utter grief, I hate that I have wasted so many years of my life.

You sound like you don't enjoy doing anything very much OP. I'm not surprised you're bored! Are you sure you're not just a prisoner of your own mind?

I left DD15 from 7-7 today whilst I went to work.

She looked after poorly dog, revised for GCSEs, emptied the dishwasher and washed and dried the dog's bed from her being poorly first thing.

Why on earth can't they be alone or 'allow' you to go out?

Being in the house all weekend ≠ doing jobs all weekend though. If my kids left me alone I would watch so much telly in bed, read, exercise, craft, go out for lunch etc, basically do whatever I want.

Funny how pizza is always mentioned too.

It's hideously expensive for what it is?
Why don't the teens learn to cook a roast dinner or a nice spag bol, then they can help their mum out sometimes and get a decent meal.

Christ OP that's dreary, can you really not think of anything. We've teens, we're going to the cinema to see the Ghostbusters film, Godzilla is out too. We'll get a takeaway, play some board games/VR, there's a new mini golf place we want to try on the Monday. And they'll hibernate gaming for the rest. DH and I could go to the local pub for a couple hours if we fancied it.

How old are they? If they’re mid teens then they’re old enough to be left alone for the day (unless there are extenuating circumstances you’ve not mentioned) so if you’re choosing not to then that’s on you really… in the nicest way possible! I understand that you’d like to all go out together, but it’s hard if you don’t have shared interests. There must also be places you could go to for the ‘day’ that wouldn’t involve being gone for 10 hours?!

Can you not go out with your friends one day, DH another, drag the kids out for lunch or something another, then do something with DH on the 4th day? Surely if they are mid teens you can go out for a nice long lunch together and leave them at home?

Your DC would 'expect'.
Is this a joke?
I would also be happy to leave DH and go out for a few hours with friends. And vice versa,
All sounds a bit of an unhealthy mix in your house.

Oh my god, woman, go to the pub! Get your life back!

Im interested in why you specify a 'chain pub lunch' (shudder)

In your situation I would:

Have a fancy lunch/picnic out with DH one day depending on funds/weather

Walk with pub lunch/city and museum much with teens one day

Evening drink at the local with DH

Bit of gardening

Bit of housework/life admin

Bit of batch cooking

Bit of personal pampering

Virtual wine with a friend/video call one evening

Family movie/games night

Sort out my makeup and dressing table which I've been meaning to do for ages

Post some stuff To Vinted

See DPs at some point

No way would I be bored!!

Travelodge and premier inn can have really cheap deals mid week even in the hols . Is there one near you? Could sneak off with DH in the middle of the day, don't even have to spend a whole night or spend some time together there , then you have a few hours me time then so does DH.

Is this a joke, your going for a run your seeing family which some people don't have and your worried your going to be bored.

Relax, the day will come and go,what's wrong with spending some time at home anyway?
YABU.

There are four days in this BH weekend.

You have one night out, your DH has one night out, you have a big lunch/dinner party on Sunday and go to the pub with the adults thereafter.

The kids are dragged out by the scruff of their necks for a big walk or similar on one day, no excuses.

They do sound babied and spoiled - woman up, OP. You're the grown-up.