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A wedding question

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askingaquestionaboutthis · 24/03/2024 08:34

Hi,

Partner of 9 years has finally (😂) started to make some noises about us getting married. He has floated the idea of a beach wedding in somewhere abroad (initial idea is Santorini) with just nearest and dearest (parents and bridesmaids etc) and our children there, followed by a party back home to celebrate where we can invite wider family and friends. He seems to think this would work out cheaper than a UK wedding. What are people's thoughts on the financial aspect of abroad versus home, and also just general pros and cons of each I might not have considered?

Thank you!

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PuttingDownRoots · 24/03/2024 08:40

Depends if you pay for your guests!

If you want to actually save money, have a quiet ceremony as outlined in UK... then a party to celebrate a few days later.

Revelatio · 24/03/2024 08:40

What do you want to do, and can you afford it? It would be silly to have a wedding abroad if you want to get married at home with all your family and friends there, and it would be silly to get married here if you really wanted a wedding in Santorini.

I would make a list of your priorities and plan accordingly.

Celticnewyear · 24/03/2024 08:39

Mumoftwo1312 · 24/03/2024 08:36

Cheaper for you, more expensive for the guests

Agreed, I would only do this if you’re not going to get annoyed at people who can’t afford to come or if you’re prepared to pay their costs.

mnahmnah · 24/03/2024 08:39

Just having those people at a UK venue would be cheapest, then everyone to an evening party

Isthisreasonable · 24/03/2024 08:38

Mumoftwo1312 · 24/03/2024 08:36

Cheaper for you, more expensive for the guests

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Mumoftwo1312 · 24/03/2024 08:36

Cheaper for you, more expensive for the guests