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Nephew is ruining holiday

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Meltdowmahem · 23/03/2024 15:33

NC for this

we’re on a trip or a lifetime. Meant to be the happiest place in the world but DN is ruining it for everyone.

meltdown after meltdown. Mainly about what to wear, what to eat, doesn’t want to wear suncream, cries and screams for an hour, finally agrees to put suncream on and then immediately run into the pool, gets burnt badly on shoulders, then screams and shouts about how awful the sunburn is.

constantly moans that cousins/siblings are getting more (they aren’t)

now we have an event that only DN can do due to age, but it requires them to wear a wetsuit, which they’re now wailing about, as if the rules will suddenly be changed due to their behaviour

I’m finding myself getting more and more frustrated, and fear I’ll just explode in a fit of anger and end up saying something I might later regret (not regret but for the sake of family harmony I should just keep my mouth shut)

DN has been a nightmare for years so to a certain extent I knew it would be potentially an issue but it’s just way worse than I anticipated.

any tips for keeping sane 😂😂

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HellonHeels · 23/03/2024 15:38

Do your own thing for a day or two, meet up in the evening.

For the suncream tantrums, remove yourself from it, go get in the pool at the opposite end. He's not your responsibility.

JayAlfredPrufrock · 23/03/2024 15:38

How old is he?

I have little patience with poor behaviour and would probably lose my cool.

Could you take him to one side and put the hard word on him?

FloofyBird · 23/03/2024 15:38

Actual meltdowns? So is he ND? Probably all too much for him.

roses2 · 23/03/2024 15:38

Is this Discovery Cove? Do you have to hang out together all the time or can you walk off and say we want to do y and we'll meet you xx in 2 hours??

Lauren83 · 23/03/2024 15:38

You may well find the issue isn't down to how he is being 'parented' sounds very much like my ND son and believe me I try everything

FlibbertyGibbitt · 23/03/2024 15:37

Florida ? It’s a hard holiday if it is, jet lag, the time difference etc. all makes everyone tired and grumpy, plus walking around parks in the heat 🤷‍♀️

Anameisaname · 23/03/2024 15:37

Not clear on age. But if he's a bit older can you divide up days so you are not with him all the time?
Kids club? Send him on some organised activity with one parent? Or take yourself off for a day trip by yourself or with DP

Meltdowmahem · 23/03/2024 15:37

Yes I do, I have 6 year old twins

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2chocolateoranges · 23/03/2024 15:37

This is the reason we don’t go on family holidays. Dh’s siblings all go on holiday together but it’s not for me, dh won’t go without me, for some reason so misses out,

i couldn’t spend that long time with some of his siblings.

we all parent so different and also when drinking is involved it’s not fun.

bobotothegogo · 23/03/2024 15:36

Breathe. Drink wine. Be thankful he's not yours.

Pepsimaxedout · 23/03/2024 15:34

Do you have kids of your own? You should know then that the problem isn't actually DN. It's how he's been parented.