Nephew is ruining holiday

rest-bite?

@MummaMummaJumma rest-bite

Why did you decide to holiday with this 'nightmare'?

Find an activity your dc will love and dn def won't... Find a reason to spend a day apart. It is everyone's holiday not the dn show.

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They are obviously not comfortable with the change of environment, sensory demands, different food etc and that must be absolutely awful for them.
I’d be going for a mix of helping where I could - do they have to do the activity? Could they opt out and have a quiet time with a willing adult while everyone else does something different?
But I’d also be making the most of the holiday for my family too, where possible.
Is the problem that their parents are denying signs of ND and have been for some time? Because forcing a child to continually do things to the point of meltdown is horrendous and if ND is a possibility then holidays need to be tailored to minimise that build up of stress (by the parents).

Is he an only child? I think it can sometimes be hard for onlies when they are thrust head first into an extended family life experience like a holiday, when they suddenly realise that they aren’t always the centre of attention, that other people, other children especially, have voices, choices and opinions, that they need to share time, resources, the tv remote etc etc .

If as you say he is also possibly ND then this must be extra painful for him, but he is not a toddler, a ten year old having a meltdown must be very upsetting to witness. I agree with the posters who have said you need to have some days apart for the sake of your own children who are having their holiday disrupted.

So a child who you knew wasn't having their needs met in day to day life is then catapulted into a strange loud, sensory overloaded environment?

I don't see how anyone expected different? That poor child needs support and instead is being expected to do what? Mask 24/7?

I’m embarrassed to say, this sounds a lot like my son when we went away when he was 2 and a half. Slightly out of character for him, but he was such a moany bum one particular holiday. However, I made sure that my little family planned time away/went out for dinner separately so it didn’t impact the other families we were with. I would definitely need some rest-bite away from kids that weren’t my own kicking off and so I was very mindful that I needed to consider others around me. Hope it improves OP.

Discovery Cove is incredibly strict so you may find when dealing with the fact they will just expect him to put it on he might be ok

are you in a villa with just one car because splitting up makes sense - we get on well as a family but we still split up for disbey

Never go on holiday with them again. For the sake of his parents, who I can guarantee are having a hard enough time without relatives judging and making “helpful” suggestions.

I reckon that's what is most frustrating for OP.

We can all cope with kids and their meltdowns. It's the adults who are supposed to address and contain it failing to do so that infuriates.

OP, be plain with DN's parents. They are ruining it for everyone by failing to deal.

Butlins isn’t for everyone unfortunately and this kid might just not like the vibe.

How old is he? This is crucial information.

Be grateful you're not his parent and enjoy your own kids

Well the age of the child would be helpful, it's hard. To comment otherwise

Some kids are just badly behaved not all.of them are ND ,and i say this as the parent of a severely autistic teenager with extremely challenging behaviour.

Head off on your own with ur kids, don't let him ruin their holiday ffs.

This is why I only really want to holiday with my own DC.

If DN is 6 or under I would probably be more understanding.

If he's 18+ he needs to get a grip 🤣

If he's your DN do you have to spend each day with him?

I'd be cheerfully saying, 'Have a fab day today, Sis. DH, the twins and I are off to do our own thing. Maybe catch you for an evening meal'.

I would not have 'the holiday of a lifetime' spoilt by a child that wasn't mine.

Disney is SO expensive. I couldn’t tolerate this.

tonight tell don’t ask and say tomorrow you are doing X with your kids and you’ll see them at dinner.

tomorrow at dinner say you had such a great time you are doing it again.
ignore any protests and just explain it’s incredibly expensive and everyone should enjoy it to the max and emphasise they are welcome to do some solo holidaying too.

Split the families up! Take yourself off on nice days out with your DC, screw the moany DN!

Can you have a day doing something away from nephew? Give you a break.

unless there is something underlying the behaviour it is down to his parents.

I would try to ignore as much as possible or just be super calem and factual when dealing with comments about cousins getting more.

Hmm think that's a bit of an early diagnosis without further information. His parents haven't been mentioned.