To expect my husband to support me?

I feel the same about my husband. I never feel like he has my back. He js a good man and a good husband but will take another person's side more than mine.

If i tell him something that's playing on my mind like work problems his answer is 'just leave' or 'why can't you just avoid this stuff'.

I often wonder if he is on the spectrum and has issues with seeing things from my view.

I completely understand how you feel. My partner makes fun of me if I hurt myself and it’s made me feel worried about the future if I’m very ill☹️. However I think it’s because he’s never ill himself and comes from a family who only talked about general day to day things and nothing including emotions. In 20 years he has never said he loves me but if I ask he’ll say ‘of course I do’. He’s kind in other ways and shows he cares so I wonder if you and I simply have men who are not very empathetic but don’t intend to be cruel?

I totally hear you OP! My ex always did this to me. It was intolerable. He did it to our DCs too! It didn’t matter if I was right it appeared he always took the other party’s side. I could never fathom the lack of loyalty, support or unity …

If you believe that I've got a bridge for sale. Airlines want to remove reclining seats because they can fit more rows in.

Staff are well trained about what to do if someone kicks off, and thats to firmly tell them the person in front is absolutely allowed to recline their seat.

This is the exact reason a lot of airlines are stopping replying seats or limiting how far they recline. They are sick of people taking no consideration when reclining and causing arguments. I agree there's no need to be aggressive but I'd not be amused if someone reclined a seat straight back into my legs. I mean I've never known a single.person recline a seat into me without first asking and I would always ask myself. It's just etiquette.

www.thesun.co.uk/travel/25219595/reclining-plane-seats-airline-scrap/

I do the same to my husband and he knows the reason why. He complains about the silliest things and can be very self entitled at times, he knows I won't support him with that and will either refuse to help him or will voice my opinion. Pushing your seat back without checking on an aeroplane is entitled. I wouldn't dream of it and I suffer from DVT. I'd always ask first and if they said no I'd respect that. If you want luxury upgrade. Sounds more to me like your hubby is keeping out of your drama.

Yes I agree. I would always ask before reclining a seat.
Maybe hubby didn't want to get involved and may have been embarrassed by the incident.

I'm really sorry you had to go through this. It sounds horrible. I have been on a fair few flights and have never experienced anyone asking to recline their seat!! Never see anyone doing this ever.
this woman does seem awful. You husband didn't need to start a row with them or anything but surely asking if you are ok is bare minimum? Could offered to swap seats to make sure you felt comfortable. I mean I would do this for a friend let alone a partner. Poor show on your husband part and I would also be upset and disappointed by this.

YABU people who recline their seat on a flight are the worst.

Unfortunately not... she ended up visibly upset, shaken and afraid to return to her seat

I’ve had countless people recline their seats on flights - never asking me which I think is rude (but I would have said ok if asked) …
However, you should expect back up from your husband !

By the sounds of it you can sort your own arguments out.

https://thepointsguy.com/news/laptop-destroyed-by-another-passenger-flight/

https://www.independent.co.uk/travel/news-and-advice/recline-seat-flight-plane-laptop-destroyed-broken-macbook-delta-a9368496.html

https://www.reddit.com/r/delta/comments/dwzw7y/anyone_ever_have_a_laptop_damaged_by_an/

YANBU

It’s not about asking for permission. It’s about asking to make sure they haven’t got a drink or a laptop on their table that you are going to spill or break when you push your seat back!!!

YANBU and I don't have friends or a partner if I know they don't have my back and I theirs. To me it is just a basic thing.

You can recline your seat whenever you like outside of meal times and take off. You don’t need to ask. If the person behind wants more space then they also need to recline their seat. Or that’s what the nice flight attendant told the person behind me who was kicking my seat when I told on them.

Apologies, I misread.

I said I have never been asked.

Europe’s most frequently flown airline is Ryanair- no reclining, nor easyJet (at least partially). So not weird at all.

not speeding up the journey to be on time

That's time travel you're looking for.

I'm getting these vibes from this thread.

If you ask a stranger who never paid for your plane ticket to recline and they say NO then what?

I fly often. Nobody ever asks me if it's OK for them to recline, and I never ask if it's OK for me to do so either. I do recline slowly and carefully whenever I do (i.e. I don't just slam the seat back) because I'm not an animal.

The tray tables are usually anchored to the armrests in front and not the back of the seat, so reclining shouldn't move the table. It will close a laptop screen a little or knock over a tall bottle, but this is part of why airline-provided cups are small. I don't leave drinks unattended on tray tables anyway because they're just one big bump away from ending up all over my lap; I prefer to avoid that possibility entirely.

To all those saying it's bad manners or etiquette to recline, fuck that. I paid for the seat and it has a recline button - it's my choice to use it if I want to. That also means I don't get snotty if and when the person in front of me reclines.

So you recline at any time without considering the person behind you? Whether they have a beverage on their tray or are working etc.