Can school do this? - managed move

It's clear you don't know the first thing about ADHD if you think it's as easy as not allowing them to forget stuff. It doesn't work like that. You can prompt and remind constantly, write notes, have planners, take stuff to school yourself etc.. but unless there is someone with them constantly an opportunity will arise somewhere during the school day for them to forget.

Dc forget where they are meant to be, which corridor to use, where their timetable is to check, where their locker is, which books to get from the locker if they happen to find it or remember the key. It's a constant struggle. Before diagnosis they had constant late marks. Since diagnosis and support is in place they are thriving.

Genuine ADHD is very real and destroys lives. You don't get high level child DLA for nothing. It's certainly not a matter of allowing them to forget which is a staggeringly naive comment.

You clearly have no idea about how some academies operate. They make a massive Thing of discipline because it is so much easier than providing motivating teaching and they move to suspension, exclusion and, yes, managed moves with ludicrous speed if they perceive that a child with learning difficulties might dent their statistics. I think you may be the one with blinkers.

The school are clearly trying to support your child. Surely a 'managed move' is there to help her settle into the new school, help the new school understand her needs so they can put support in place for her etc. Would you prefer her to just rock up at the new school Monday morning and let them deal with her issues blind?

Schools are becoming so focussed on some things that they seem to forgo the teaching and learning - and I work in education.

I'm all for infirm and it being worn properly but I don't believe a student will learn less because their skirt is rolled up or blazer sleeves are rolled up (because they insist pupils wear them when it's 25° 🙄)

I've becoming even less sure of their tactics since I've seen so many pictures of our outstanding local independent school with amazing results that still offers 100% scholarships for bright academic pupils with pupils with extremely short skirts.

If these schools can excel without measuring skirt length why can't others?

With regards managed move. If a school has a place and has offered it then I'd move her. If they are accepting her place then there's no reason for the other school to dictate how the move comes about, managed moves are for moving pupils who need a fresh start elsewhere (sometimes because of risk of exclusion) where a place wouldn't or can't be offered under normal in year acceptance. If a school has a place the current school has no jurisdiction on you accepting it or taking it up.

OP says her daughter is in tears every single day and is unable to sleep and has meltdowns trying to get into school. Is that true of five children in each of your classes, and is it typical teenage behaviour?

The sheer intolerance of disability on this thread is so depressing.

I agree with PP who said that the school are probably trying the managed move angle so that their figures don't show another pupil choosing to leave the school, especially if this is happening a lot.
I feel lucky that the school DS attends, while strict about uniform, equipment and respect also has great support with ADHD and SEN requirements. It is a fine line between making DC feel overwhelmed with too many things to remember and not wanting their forgetfulness to impact lessons.
And to be honest, when they start work, there will be consequences for forgetting and losing equipment or uniform, so this can't just be ignored.

Tell me you know nothing about ADHD without saying you know nothing about ADHD.

It sounds very much as if the school should have applied for an EHC needs assessment long ago, and in failing to do so it has failed OP's daughter. In those circumstances I'm not sure how much I would listen to them.

This unfortunately is the sneery reality of today wokeness when you can be anonymous behind a screen. People do look down on those with additional needs like adhd but pretend they don't.

I do wonder how there is so much bullying of my disabled son in the village Cubs if the adults are so woke nowadays and Be Kind. It's a front.

Even NT struggle in strict academies. Did I hear that 44% of kids are unhappy nowadays? There must be hard core majority still that you beat ADHD out a kid. Or grind it out of them.

Suspending for a skirt is harsh. But add in missing lessons, not being coy when she is told off etc the school probably just want rid of your square peg as they are a round hole school. The sad part is that no one wants to help her more than they want rid of her. Over 40% of the prison population has AHDH I think. Shame that they was helped before they completely went off the rails.

Back chatting teachers disrupts the whole class, don't minimalist this. Stick to the rules and school is fine. Backchatting and messing around ruined my DD's school experience, she's autistic and needs a quiet ordered atmosphere, she ended up being taught separately (more teaching herself) because other students misbehaved so much, their parents didn't realise that their kids backchatting the teacher was so disruptive to others either.

She did pretty well due to me teaching her rather than school!

The Department for Education's guidance on managed moves here - https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/64ef773513ae1500116e30db/Suspension_and_permanent_exclusion_guidance_september_23.pdf - emphasis that managed moves can only be done on a voluntary basis and require parental consent. If there is evidence of schools pressurising parents to agree to a managed move, Ofsted must take this into account and the guidance expressly says the school is likely to be found to be inadequate as a result. I wonder if your daughter's school is aware of this?

If you have written evidence of what the school has been doing, I suggest you send it to Ofsted.

Can you help her with some strategies to manage her ADHD? A visual list of all she needs for school in the morning? Helping her spend 2 minutes the night before getting her bag ready?
What other areas does she struggle in? Look with her strategies to help manage these difficulties.

Won't solve the current school issue but will help her develop her self management skills!

Even if it is, OP is simply doing an in year transfer. Her current school can't insist that this now becomes a managed move simply on their say so.

impulsivity is not an excuse for abusive behaviour.

you can be ADHD and not abuse everybody.

managed moves are not light things, your daughter has been awful and you need to support her to make better decisions, rather than blaming the school or teachers.

you have no idea have you? for some parents getting their child through the school gate at all is a huge achievement.. presumably you've never had to dealmwoth a panicking child lying on the floor sovbing, pulling you back as you try to get them into school... feeling absolute guilt about having sent them at all.

and then being judged and them being punished because they were wearing the wrong socks or they don't have a glue stick or the water bottle was forgotten.... walk a mile in someone else's shoes

They can't insist on this if the child is leaving anyway.

A suspension is supposed to be close to the last resort, but some academy schools use ludicrously rigid discipline policies which don't take neurodiversity or learning difficulties into account, and which mean that children can escalate to suspension far too quickly for relatively minor issues.

If the new school has a place then it has to admit your daughter. They are not allowed to refuse. The current school is talking rubbish, and I am frankly wondering whether they ae worrying about the fact that they may be liable for disability discrimination, given that they do not appear to have been making reasonable adjustments for or helping your daughter, and have been punishing her for the effects of disability.

My old school year left school over 50 years ago, we used to roll our skirts up, wear make up and constantly forget our gym and cookery stuff, so nothing changes! No sanctions were ever imposed at what was a rather strict girls’ grammar school though just a mild telling off. We all turned out alright.