For feeling left out

I’d be asking my manager if I’ve done something - but try not to over think it, I can understand why you’re upset

I agree. This is rubbish. Also, at Easter everyone should get chocolate not a rubbish card. It's cheap and divisive. Just thank everyone ffs.

For the sake of your own self respect you need to take this on the chin OP. Look deep to find out why other people’s opinions bother you so much, particularly those of your boss. It will help to try to be less sensitive in your working environment.

I feel that your boss is a manipulative piece of crap. You can't put staff into two distinct groups like that without making half feel smug/relieved and the other half feeling frightened/distraught.

They know exactly what they're doing by making it obvious to everyone which members are safe for the next year.

Next time you get your shitty piece of "thank you" that cost nothing and isn't even edible, put it in recycle. The only bit of paper you need from them is your payslip.

What is it with the pathetic Managers and Directors of today? Where do they get off? Why has this even become a thing? Exalting favourite members of staff to then gaslighting others. It enrages me to know people have to endure this daily shit when we are all doing the best we can. It's going on everyday at my job.
It's a tool they use to say that you are not worthy, or you're invisible to us. Our pathetic OM is being bullied and victimised by her Senior and she's constantly posting reviews because she's being told to. I have zero respect for either of them.

As an adult this shouldn't bother you this much, it's an extremely childish reaction.

Just ask your manager, say you're worried director isn't happy with your performance and see what they say. Maybe he still has yours as uou weren't there at the right moment?

yeah but you don't seem to have been bothered when other people have been left out previously
only when it affects you

I agree with the poster who said it's a crap system, either thank everyone for their work or just the one or two who have really gone above and beyond to achieve something specific that month/year/quarter. Recognising 50-90% of your workforce is a) pointless and b) bound to lead to issues like this

Good question!

In all honesty, I’d say you’ve reached the point where all your efforts and hard work have become standard for you, so you could be performing 180% better than someone who got an award this year, but that person showed improvement which is the reason for the award.

This happens often I’m afraid. If you are genuinely consistently going above and beyond and have not been approached for progression, then you need to seriously look at other opportunities elsewhere - it needs to be now as you will let this rot in you, it will make you feel increasingly down on yourself which means you won’t be as confident as going for other things.

Look to get out now.

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Just let it go!

You didn't get one this year, others did.
Be happy for them.

I think they're just giving it to other people too, and it's nothing you've done.

You don't want to come across as one of those school swots that always gets the best part in the school play.

If you keep winning it every year, it just looks bad on them, like the director has a favourite. Then other people won't work hard, knowing you'll always get the award.

Let others shine!

How do you think others felt when they were left out? Did you challenge the system then?

Have other people been left out in years where you got one, and they've got one now?

I with you OP, as daft as I know it is I think I'd feel the same. I work in a small team and if my manager acknowledged my hard work each year for three years on the trot, then this year it was only me and the work whingebag that didn't get one I'd be (secretly) wondering why too.

It sounds like you work hard and that appreciation is motivation for you so it's hard to not receive that reassurance this time.

I wouldn't be worrying if I'd upset him though, (if the reason is that you have) if he's that petty his praise isn't worth the shitty card it's written on.

"Of course teacher still likes you! But you've had three turns, so it's someone else's turn now. Off you go and sit on the carpet."

So much angst!

You’re over invested and over sensitive. Stop giving this your time, it’s really not worth it. Scrabbling around trying to figure out reasons will make you paranoid for no real reason.

Christ star of the (week) year for grown ups is ridiculous.

It sounds like a fucking shit system. Either thank everyone or no one with the little cards.

Oh good grief its sounds very primary school like.

In the nicest possible way, he isn’t giving you a second thought now. You certainly have not ‘upset’ him by that benign comment! He didn’t give much thought to those ‘awards’ either and would be surprised if he knew how affected you were. I don’t think any of you are that important to him personally. He has moved on and so should you.

Please try not to get too sad about this. Sounds like you are a great worker.