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To be in this job and feel poor?

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fedippp · 20/03/2024 14:22

I trained for seven years, reasonably large student loan etc, to end up age 35 on 58k, and barely anything left at the end of the month!!! Mortgage is 1300 for a 2 bed semi, (up from 800 last year). Student loans are still hundreds a month. I have a car on finance as I couldn’t save house deposit and car deposit, need car for work. I eat beans on toast 3 nights a week. I feel like an idiot. I missed out on so much in my twenties to get into a decent job that I thought paid well and it seems to have been a waste of time! Does anyone else feel this way? I feel so disheartened.

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Scottishshortbread11877 · 04/04/2024 06:39

This has been published by the way, I saw it on Facebook today

Abovedeckdeck · 02/04/2024 00:23

shuggles · 01/04/2024 20:36

@Abovedeckdeck They used to moan that friends with no uni degree were earning more than them. After PHD, if they do a post doc their salary will only be around £40k after 7 years studying! This is in a profession that is very important to all of us.

"Only"? First of all, £40k is an excellent salary, although as a former postdoc, I understand that postdoc salaries need to be high to compensate for the 1 or 2 year short term contract (my current salary is lower than £40k, but at least my position is permanent).

Once this person moves into private industry, they will quickly discover that starting salaries are often below £30k, and they too will be bemused as to how someone can struggle on a whopping £58k.

40k is a good salary but after 7 years of studying, and having a doctorate, it doesn’t seem especially high as some of their friends are earning almost that salary now without a degree or any student debt 🤷🏼‍♀️.

I am confused by the second part of your post. The family member I was posting about has already worked in industry for 27K, with a masters degree. If they want to do a post doc, eg to stay in academia, the salary is around £40k. If they move into industry the salary is substantially higher so they’ll probably end up taking that route even though they would prefer the post doc.

Anyway, I understand the bit about being bemused at a single person struggling on £58k as I am on a low salary and have to support children 🤷🏼‍♀️.

shuggles · 01/04/2024 20:36

@Abovedeckdeck They used to moan that friends with no uni degree were earning more than them. After PHD, if they do a post doc their salary will only be around £40k after 7 years studying! This is in a profession that is very important to all of us.

"Only"? First of all, £40k is an excellent salary, although as a former postdoc, I understand that postdoc salaries need to be high to compensate for the 1 or 2 year short term contract (my current salary is lower than £40k, but at least my position is permanent).

Once this person moves into private industry, they will quickly discover that starting salaries are often below £30k, and they too will be bemused as to how someone can struggle on a whopping £58k.

Livelifelaughter · 01/04/2024 11:59

With the mortgage hike your current lifestyle isn't really sustainable. There's been times in my life where I have had to consider sudden salary drops such as because of redundancy, and one off service demands for my flat. The only way to deal with it is to be flexible and that means compromise, I have never bought a brand new car.. a friend of mine has a ledger and she earns over £100k but needs the money to pay her mortgage and have a better life style e. I get a decent enough salary more than you but I am also a lot older. I think when you are starting out it's really easy to think that you work and study hard and life is a breeze then you realise that the train driver on your commute is paid more than you but you still don't want to drive trains...

inabubble3 · 01/04/2024 11:11

People seem to be missing the point that a £500 increase in mortgage payment is huge

inabubble3 · 01/04/2024 11:10

Yup there’s two of us so more combined salary but 4 children. Luckily our mortgage didn’t increase much but even the bills , food etc is squeezing the budget. An 40 and feel worse off than when I was earning 12k when I was 20 .

Abovedeckdeck · 01/04/2024 11:06

You are on a high wage. You have managed to buy your own property and presumably have a fairly new car so you ARE doing well. There are lots of things you can do to improve income eg lodger, extra weekend job, look at changing car but, I agree, you shouldn’t really have to. I am surprised that you are struggling as a single person on that wage.
FWIW I am on an extremely low income less than 1/5 of yours and have 3 children to support.
However, I do see where you are coming from. One of my family members is doing a PHD and prior to this worked using their masters, they were on £27,000. They used to moan that friends with no uni degree were earning more than them. After PHD, if they do a post doc their salary will only be around £40k after 7 years studying! This is in a profession that is very important to all of us.

Xenia · 01/04/2024 10:39

My first salary £6250 trainee lawyer in London in 1983. I just applied the inflation calculator t that and that is £20,345. I think that was from the days not that long after people or their parents had to PAYE to be a trainee lawyer as you are a burden on a firm so we were on less than the secretaries even despite having a law degree and post grad. Those trainee lawyers today in London are on £43k in other words double in real terms what I was on (not that I think generational comparisons are particularly helpful as things change so much like 9% student loan "tax" and higher London rents for people in those kinds of jobs).

So in other words you are twice as well off in real terms today as a trainee lawyer in London as you were in 1983 BUT if you are in a much lower paid minimum wage trainee lawyer job - loads of young lawyers are - then you are on about the same that I was on in 1983.

hendoop · 31/03/2024 10:50

Student pan repayments
Pensions
Memberships of professional bodies for accreditations
Insurance for your professional role

These add up to
Then there's commute
Parking

Busybee44 · 31/03/2024 10:32

I dont get it, on 58k but struggling? have you got loads of other outgoings? can you move to a cheaper area??

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 31/03/2024 10:31

hendoop · 30/03/2024 18:25

I am on a lot less but 58k is not a lot and is the equivalent in the 90's of 25-30k, it is barely liveable in a single person household

Inflation is awful and everyone is struggling

I'm sorry but that's rubbish. DS2 is on 1500 a month after housing costs and manages fine.

And that's in the SE

shuggles · 30/03/2024 19:36

@hendoop I am on a lot less but 58k is not a lot and is the equivalent in the 90's of 25-30k

Which was a very high salary in the 90s...

hendoop · 30/03/2024 18:25

I am on a lot less but 58k is not a lot and is the equivalent in the 90's of 25-30k, it is barely liveable in a single person household

Inflation is awful and everyone is struggling

shuggles · 30/03/2024 18:08

ntmdino · 30/03/2024 02:00

I'd put them at "high" rather than "very high", but equally...neither of those are "colossal".

Can't disagree about the SUVs, though.

I think I forgot how many wealthy and privileged people exist on mumsnet.

ntmdino · 30/03/2024 02:00

shuggles · 29/03/2024 21:59

Yes, those are all very high salaries for those time points.

Have you lost your mind? Maybe if everyone didn't drive ugly SUVs, we would all have a lot more money in our pockets.

I'd put them at "high" rather than "very high", but equally...neither of those are "colossal".

Can't disagree about the SUVs, though.

shuggles · 29/03/2024 21:59

ntmdino · 28/03/2024 17:01

£58k isn't "colossal". In fact, the 2016 equivalent (which is what most people seem to compare to) was £44k. The equivalent from when the OP was at university (2009) would be £38k.

Those salaries are all seven years apart, which shows how shit things are right now.

Yes, those are all very high salaries for those time points.

Have you lost your mind? Maybe if everyone didn't drive ugly SUVs, we would all have a lot more money in our pockets.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 28/03/2024 22:34

Donsyb · 26/03/2024 11:08

OP doesn’t have kids though unless I’ve missed it? And whilst I wouldn’t describe their salary colossal, their issue is more her huge loans and poor budgeting skills (evidenced by the fact she’s spending over £200 per month on fuel).

Surely 200 per month on fuel depends on how much driving she needs to do. Fuel is expensive and if that’s her commute it is what it is and not something she can cut back on

ntmdino · 28/03/2024 22:07

longonee · 28/03/2024 21:56

@ntmdino what would £58k in 2016 be equivalent to in 2024?

£76k.

Check it out here:

https://www.bankofengland.co.uk/monetary-policy/inflation/inflation-calculator

It's really quite depressing. My starting salary was pretty low in 1998, £16k (as an unqualified, inexperienced IT tech). That's the equivalent of £29k now.

longonee · 28/03/2024 21:56

@ntmdino what would £58k in 2016 be equivalent to in 2024?

ntmdino · 28/03/2024 17:01

shuggles · 26/03/2024 01:18

@StreathamLocal2023 OP you sound like you could be an architect from what you’ve said (7 years, low salary etc).

Sorry, low salary?

Did you miss the part where she said her salary is a colossal 58k?

£58k isn't "colossal". In fact, the 2016 equivalent (which is what most people seem to compare to) was £44k. The equivalent from when the OP was at university (2009) would be £38k.

Those salaries are all seven years apart, which shows how shit things are right now.

RH1234 · 28/03/2024 16:42

I always find it interesting on how salary/income can make people be harsh on circumstances.

I have friends on £20k, they are in council accommodation, receive some income support, go on holidays and very happy.
I have other friends on like OP, earn £60k, but due to expenses on the job they are in, it is like they are on much less (fuel/travel) etc. and do feel like they are making do.

Me and my wife earn decent wages, but still have times we feel stressed because as we’ve earnt more our lifestyle expenses increased. One vet bill can be stressful (albeit a luxury stress so to speak).
I was asked recently about my income from a colleague who wanted to go self employed like me, as I earn easily more than double them, until they realise I spend £200 per week on fuel and £3-400 per week on train tickets.
Everything is perspective, i always think of the picture of the person walking wanting the bicycle someone’s riding, that person wants the old runabout car, that person wants the Ferrari, and so on.

OP, it’s ok to feel stressed, most people are currently. The only way to feel better financially though, is either another income stream (Someone mentioned lodger), or cut your cloth somewhere.

In regards to the NHS, getting rid of it is absolutely stupid! However it is not free, it’s a subsidised private health system. It’s free at the point of service, we all pay for it through taxation. Those that don’t pay (don’t or can’t work), still require the same support and that is the way it needs to stay. No one knows when they may have to stop working.

Parker231 · 28/03/2024 16:26

Xenia · 28/03/2024 14:23

Plenty of countries do not have an NHS. It is not the UK religion or our "culture" that we must support having an NHS. If we are going to have tons of old people and hardly any young ones it is a debate that needs to be had.

How do you propose health care is provided - the numbers requiring treatment is at an all time high and is unlikely to reduce. The majority of the population can’t afford anything additional to their budget let alone funding healthcare costs.

Xenia · 28/03/2024 14:23

Plenty of countries do not have an NHS. It is not the UK religion or our "culture" that we must support having an NHS. If we are going to have tons of old people and hardly any young ones it is a debate that needs to be had.

Zzey · 27/03/2024 21:47

Tooomanynames · 22/03/2024 05:38

Then work more hours or get a better paid job….

It's a well paid job in my eyes but I can't work any more hours otherwise I'd have to pay for childcare so I'd probably end up with even less!!

Parker231 · 27/03/2024 07:30

WhatDoIDoPeople · 26/03/2024 15:20

Definitely not suggesting we withdraw NHS care from the elderly! But NHS funding has to be part of the conversation. What do we want the state to continue to pay for and what is the most fair way of doing this?
More focus on contribution to society vs what you take out too. Not only monetary but recognising the value of roles in society; is everyone doing their bit or are some people running away with silver and running out on their bill.

How would you determine the value of someone’s role in society? Are you suggesting higher weighting for a higher level taxpayer v someone on a minimum wage v someone long term unemployed v a stay at home parent? A good society doesn’t work like that.