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DD’s godmother (my sister) only gave £15 for her 21st

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ScarletWitchM · 18/03/2024 20:38

Not to sound massively ungrateful for any gift - but it was my DD’s 21st birthday yesterday and she is not at all spoilt so she was not as bothered as me… but her Aunt (my DSIS) & Godmother only gave her a cheap card and £15 as her gift.
Godmother (my DSIS) is not hard up at all & used to be really close to DD when she was little but she moved away a few years ago and has had less contact with us all since then.
It’s not that I don’t appreciate her gesture, but it feels really thoughtless and tight, but AIBU as it’s irked me?!

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Mischance · 18/03/2024 20:50

£15 sounds fine from someone she rarely sees.

Orangeandnavy · 18/03/2024 20:48

What do you do for her children? Did she maybe get something more for her 18th? 21 is a bit irrelevant really.
My nephews and nieces all got 50 for their 16ths and 100 for 18ths. I don’t send anything for 21.

vodkaredbullgirl · 18/03/2024 20:47

Is your dd ungrateful or just you?

Meowandthen · 18/03/2024 20:45

It sounds very much like you “don’t appreciate the gesture” as you are stamping your foot.

If your daughter is not bothered, it’s not something to have a hissy fit about. You come across poorly.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 18/03/2024 20:43

Did you tell her when she agreed to be a godmother that high value gifts were expected? Or did you just assume that she would know?

21st birthday is nothing special for a lot of people these days - 18 is the big one. A card and £15 as a gift might not be the most generous gift ever but it's certainly not something that you're entitled to be pissed off about.

Hopefully your dd is more grateful and less grabby than you are! Your dsis wasn't under obligation to give your dd anything at all!!

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