Bit of backstory, my husband and eldest daughter (not his biologically but been her dad since she was 6) they had always a great relationship and she would of went to him over me when at school. She's now almost 20 and things are a shitshow at home. She's extremely rude, ungrateful, filthy and lives like a pig. She works but pays nothing towards her keep and we take her to and from work etc... she's very explosive and self centered but isn't that most "daughters".
Anyway, we are getting on better as I'm not around as much due to having to travel countries to care for my very ill mum.
Last night it all kicked off again over how she leaves our bathroom in our bedroom. She dyed her hair and it was everywhere and cut it too, she was in middle of cleaning it before I went up to bed but the hubby lost it. I don't blame him However in her defense she was actually cleaning it before he came in.
It all exploded from there. He called her a twat, she hurled abuse back and basically he said she needs to leave or he will have to. It's been boiling Over for a few years to be fair.
I don't want to give up on my daughter, she's vulnerable in a way but I feel I probably molly coddle her. She can't afford to move out just yet and I don't think she's ready to but I don't know how long I can keep the peace for at home.
I love my husband, he's an incredible man and supports us in everyday possible. I feel like I'm going to have to effectively chose a side but how do u pick between your daughter or husband...
Feeling low and lost