Everyone Still In Bed

@RoseNy it's not important and I apologised for misunderstanding.

Of course it isn't important it was a small comment I made you're the one that jumped in misread it then kept it going like honestly. I made a comment that the mum couldn't be young as in a very young mum due to the fact that she has a teenager. I never said it was the most important thing.

He’s lying in and does often, so he obviously realises it’s better than getting up early for him. He could use his brain and think ‘oh, maybe my partner would enjoy that too’. Or he could continue to be a selfish arse.

It’s hardly difficult to realise that most parents of early risers would like to sleep longer. It’s not just Mother’s Day that he needs to let OP sleep in, he should be doing his fair share the rest of the time. Yes, I’d tell him, but if he was a decent partner, he shouldn’t need telling.

I agree with this. Expecting someone to second guess what you want is setting them up to fail

Next time, if you want a lie in, tell DH

It's pretty depressing state of affairs when we have to remind men that mothers of young children might want a lie in on Mother's Day.

Well quite, but if you're going to point out her age, at least it has to be realistic

Because that's what's important here .....

@Whattodowithit88 I agree with this. Expecting someone to second guess what you want is setting them up to fail

Next time, if you want a lie in, tell DH

Well done on identifying the clearly the most important part of my initial comment. The value you add here is immense and we owe you a great debt.

Well quite, but if you're going to point out her age, at least it has to be realistic

No, not at all. I'm not sure why you got that from me pointing out that a woman who had a teenager is not considered a young mum.

Apologies, I presumed you were referring to the ages of the children.
Seems a little unnecessary to refer to the OPs age!

I think you need to be more direct to get what you want. Hand over baby to DH and direct him downstairs.

I didn't get a lie in either. I have been up since 5am with my poorly two year old, I got her some milk and a cup of tea for myself at 5.30.

I have just had breakfast and tea made for me this morning by my husband and two older children.

Happy mother's days to you.

No, not at all. I'm not sure why you got that from me pointing out that a woman who had a teenager is not considered a young mum.

Get rid of the husband, keep the precious girls.

YANBU. You should have handed baby to him and had a lie in.

Why are you doing all the mornings with baby?

I've been up since 5.45 with my 2 year old ! Made her and me breakfast at 7am - my DH woke up so made him tea too- no offer to do it for me of course 🙄 then he's been resting on the sofa as clearly exhausted ...
Teenager also still fast asleep.
Another normal Mother's Day for me !! It's certainly annoying but I feel so grateful to have my two previous girls (perhaps not so grateful for my useless DH but hey ho )

Pass him the baby, tell him you’re going back to bed.

He’s an unthoughtful asshole!!

I agree, but just as a point I don't think a parent of a teenager is a 'young' mum.

She also has an 11 month old.
Are you suggesting that it's her teenagers responsibility to organise the 11 month old as well as themselves?
Is the bar really that low for men that we expect children to pick up the slack when they can't be bothered?

Sorry but are you expecting an 11 month old to know it's Mother's Day and give the OP a lie in???

I'd have woken DH up at 6 and given him the baby OP! No one appreciates a martyr.

Sorry you’re disappointed OP and that a few people on here are being salty.

definitely have a conversation with your DH about sharing the wake ups. I have an 11 month old who wakes at 6ish and DP and I alternate who gets up with her on weekend days. Fairest way and means we both get a snooze on one day 😴

I'm really torn between 'he's not a mind reader' and 'you shouldn't have to say'.

Yanbu though.

I would have just said to him last night that you're assuming he'll get up as it's mother's day. As it is, I'd leave him to sleep for a bit and then go up and swap and take some time to yourself. Even if it's watching a show or reading a book or whatever, rather than sleeping. I'd actually prefer this as I'm a natural early riser.

You're bigger issue is that you/he think it's your job to get up with the baby every day. It's not. I don't know why people think this.

I agree, but just as a point I don't think a parent of a teenager is a 'young' mum.

It takes a special kind of gobshite to make a point of waking up before 8 on a Sunday morning just to go online and be an arsehole towards a young mum with a baby who just wanted some consideration and a bit of a rest on the one day of the year when society tries to show an appreciation to mothers.

Exhibiting a complete lack of empathy and a pathological inability to understand social norms is not the flex you think it is.

I have to say that this comment is spot on. This 'Is it too much to expect him to get up with his own child one day a year' stuff is precisely what leads to women bearing the whole burden all year.

Get your men doing their feckin' share ALL year!

YANBU. Your DH most definitely is.

Sorry that he's been so shit. You're not asking the Earth. Hope you manage to have a lovely day (I wouldn't, I'd be passive aggressive and snippy 😂)

YANBU I'm not sure why there are so many j witches on your thread 😂

"It's not even 8am" or "you're not his Mum"

Your DH should definitely have offered to give you a lie in this morning, you're the mother of his children. Go upstairs and plonk the baby on the bed and say your turn 😊

Then go and make yourself a cuppa and enjoy some peace.