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Would this annoy you?

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nosign · 09/03/2024 10:07

Husband gets you a gift for birthday. Handed in the packaging it came in the post.

No gift wrap / bag.

Just in the wrapping from the courier, not opened yet

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CatMadam · 09/03/2024 12:33

Berlinlover · 09/03/2024 10:24

You sound very ungrateful, it wouldn’t bother me at all.

She sent him a link to something she wanted and he just handed the package to her- she might as well have got it herself for all the effort he’s put into this! Not ungrateful in the slightest imo.

Testina · 09/03/2024 12:33

nosign · 09/03/2024 10:26

At a bare minimum you surely open it to check the contents are correct?

For a child’s toy from Santa that will want to be played with on Xmas day… absolutely.
For a grown arse adult that need have no drama on the very rare occasion that it’s wrong, damaged or broken… not so much!

Neither my husband nor I would see any point in wrapping something already known to the other person. Even without cost and environmental concerns, we’d both find it odd to hand you a gift wrapped item to see the wrapping in the bin in just one minute.

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 09/03/2024 12:30

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 09/03/2024 11:44

It wouldn't annoy me because I do the same thing..

Obviously we wrap the DC presents, but for each other we tend not to bother.

I will add though that I don't have to choose the my own gift, DH can do that himself!

Noseyoldcow · 09/03/2024 12:29

On the strength of this thread I've just asked my old man if he's got me a mothers days present. He said yes....... me! Which is just fine, Mother's Day is but one annual event (Valentines, Father's Day etc) concocted to make people spend money. What really counts is how we treat each other from day to day. No, he doesn't buy me crap for Mother's Day. But he'll often buy me things when he sees something he thinks I'll like, and he'll give them to me straight away, not waiting for conventional gift days.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 09/03/2024 12:24

I wouldn't mind but if you would then that's also fine and he should know this, remove the item and wrap it for you.

It's about doing what other person would want. If you do that - whatever it is - then you're golden.

Allfur · 09/03/2024 12:22

Lamplight, its not about the gifts on mothersday threads, usually meals etc

Allfur · 09/03/2024 12:21

We love a wrapped present in our household, it's part of the fun, but we also reuse paper

Lampslights · 09/03/2024 12:20

So much angst on this forum about birthdays, Xmas, Mother’s Day and it’s always about the bloody gifts.

Tempnamechng · 09/03/2024 12:19

It wouldn't bother me. We only really wrap gifts for people outside of the home (except for Christmas) so we often present gifts in an unceremonious carrier bag. I do keep gift bag that I reuse for gifting, but would never buy extra packaging to wrap something in for one of my household. It seems bonkers and wasteful.

LookItsMeAgain · 09/03/2024 12:18

So your DH didn't have to think of what to get you because you put together a very short list of things you'd like and emailed it to him. He then bought something from that list and got it delivered to him, and then he carries on and hands you over the item in the same packaging that it was sent to him in?

Yep that is lazy.

Mercurial123 · 09/03/2024 12:13

It's not a big deal.

SpringSprungALeak · 09/03/2024 12:12

Yes it would. You gave him a link. He didn't even bother to wrap it. You might as well have just bought it yourself.

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 09/03/2024 12:08

Yes. It's lazy and basically says 'you aren't worth making an effort for'.

Allfur · 09/03/2024 11:46

It's lazy and thoughtless, presentation is part of the effort, much like a meal

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 09/03/2024 11:44

It wouldn't annoy me because I do the same thing..

Obviously we wrap the DC presents, but for each other we tend not to bother.

Oldermum84 · 09/03/2024 11:35

Yes I would be annoyed.

Couldyounot · 09/03/2024 11:28

Shows a disinclination to put any particular effort in and that would grate rather. Guessing this isn't the first time this has happened?

WandaWonder · 09/03/2024 11:26

No why would it?

Stormbornform · 09/03/2024 11:25

Yes. Lack of effort.

Usernamesarenoteasy · 09/03/2024 11:19

Not at all. I've done it myself a few times!

yorkshireteapot9 · 09/03/2024 11:09

It's been since before the end of time that men simply cannot 'do' gift wrapping, remember birthdays and Christmas wouldn't happen without women. One or two excepted.

justaboutdonenow · 09/03/2024 11:05

No, it's just not important in the grand scheme of things.

Purplecatshopaholic · 09/03/2024 10:55

No. There’s far too much wasted on silly paper, cards, etc. I give my DP his gifts in the same manner - it’s the gift itself that counts. Just last week he got me a book he thought I would like as a special thank you gift, I was chuffed to bits, never thought to be minded that it was still in the Amazon wrapper, lol.

Wellhellooooodear · 09/03/2024 10:43

Yes it would. Its lazy

Yawnnn · 09/03/2024 10:39

If Amazon, when has it ever been wrong?

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