I have never really cared whether I die, is this normal?

*Babla, I don’t usually nitpick about other people’s comments. But you do seem to be disapproving of what you read here, with no good reason.

People are speaking very honestly here, about a subject they rarely get a chance to discuss. Their comments are valid and they should not be discouraged from expressing them. If you don’t like this, why not just read something else?
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If you don't usually nitpick why do it now. The fact is my comments are not disapproving they simply disagree. You are doing to me exactly what you accuse me of, you are discouraging me from commenting because I feel differently, you are disapproving of me speaking honestly. I am allowed an opinion

Babla, I don’t usually nitpick about other people’s comments. But you do seem to be disapproving of what you read here, with no good reason.

People are speaking very honestly here, about a subject they rarely get a chance to discuss. Their comments are valid and they should not be discouraged from expressing them. If you don’t like this, why not just read something else?
Edited for typo.

That's a real shame. It must be difficult to be on a thread that talks about something that scares and upsets you.

There's a genuine peace that comes with accepting the inevitable.

No one is asking you to.

Why is everyone on here so aggressive, I know they aren't asking me to I was just trying to explain how I feel

I completely don’t relate to these messages. I love life with a passion. That’s not to say I’m afraid of death, but I absolutely love life and being alive and feel lucky every day. The world is so beautiful, I have an amazing wonderful child, there are so many beautiful places I haven’t yet visited. I look forward to the passing of the seasons, spending time with my family, feeling the sun on my skin, mundane days at work filled with office gossip and boring emails. Getting to spend all my time with my other half, planning for the future together, routine weekends doing the shopping and DIY, special weekends going on trips. Every moment of life is special and wonderful in its own way and I hope I have years and years more of it.

No one is asking you to.

This isn’t about wanting or not wanting to die. It’s about not being scared of it and not being upset at the prospect. They’re two entirely different things.

I understand that.. just find it hard to not be scared or upset thinking about it

This isn’t about wanting or not wanting to die. It’s about not being scared of it and not being upset at the prospect. They’re two entirely different things.

If your happy you don't want to die.
I would imagine people who want to die are depressed or unhappy.
That's my take on it.

*I don't know if you are aware, but you're coming across as if you're telling us off?

Maybe this isn't the thread for you if you're struggling to understand how people feel the way they do, and also not willing to try?*

Well I'm sorry but I'm not trying to tell anyone off. I don't see why I can't be on the thread just because I disagree

I'm not scared about dying, but hoping I am not going to too soon. Also hoping for a "good" death or rather not a sh*tty one. Elderly neighbour was found feet up in her armchair in front of the TV with a half drunk glass of whisky beside her, looking peaceful - that's how I would like to go!

I also don't want to go too soon because of my DS and want to go after my parents. I think the most painful part is those that are left behind. But I hope I am missed a bit and loved.

When I was younger doing voluntary work, I was paired with a very unpleasant older woman because I was the newby. She was snobby/cold/demanding/ungrateful and liked to put people "in their place". Week after week I really tried to get her to warm up and was very patient with her, to no avail, she treated me more like a servant than a volunteer. She wasn't disabled or in any great pain but obviously probably had lots of aches and niggles. She often reminisced (and boasted) and I got the impression she hadn't changed much. One week I went back and she had died and no-one seemed the least bit bothered (I have to say I wasn't), in fact it was more like relief, and she was never mentioned again. She had an impact because I still think about her occasionally and how sad it must be for no-one to really care that you've been on this planet and now you aren't.

Thank you. I still have fertile years left ahead of me, so we'll keep trying. It's just such a grind at times. Whatever happens, as long as DH and I have each other, that's all that matters.

I used to be scared of death, not anymore, I have suffered with depression since my teens though and I’m now 32.

I have an ok life and don’t always feel depressed, in fact I haven’t felt actively depressed for a while in the but for the past few years I’ve felt the same about death regardless of mood. I won’t do anything to actively harm myself, no plans of suicide etc, but at the same time I often think about something coming along and taking my life that I’m not anticipating and am out of control of, like an accident or illness, and think how good it would be to no longer be here and have no worries or awareness.

I’m aware how that sounds but life is just boring. I don’t feel much happiness about it or the future. I’m just going along 🤣 I don’t even think it could be changed. I’ve had happy times and still felt the same.

that’s why we should try to be in the moment as much as possible

Yes! The Stoics' memento mori carried many meanings for them - duty, legacy, motivation and more - but was also very much about valuing each day that we have.

Happiness is not an entitlement - Also this. It's perfectly normal to feel sad, bored, pissed off, lonely, uncomfortable, and the whole range of feelings both enjoyable and miserable.

I'd say Stoics Unite, only Boris Johnson's an expert on the texts and I ain't uniting with him 😂

And I'm sorry @VolvoFan

I'm not bothered, either, and have never been terrified of ceasing to exist as some/most people seem to be. Same as above, I'd rather not go through a lot of pain at the time but I realise it is fairly normal to do so.

I'm an atheist to my core. No expectations of any sort of 'life' after death: I'm excited enough that my atoms will eventually form parts of astonishing things throughout the Universe! The being that I am, however, will be gone. It 's been a blast 🙂

Not discussing this, just wanted to wave at the other mortality realists out there!

I don't know if you are aware, but you're coming across as if you're telling us off?

Maybe this isn't the thread for you if you're struggling to understand how people feel the way they do, and also not willing to try?

Funnily I don't feel I've done anything or achieved anything and it looks like I probably won't. That's the reason I'd quite happily go in my sleep any night they'll have me, it all seems so pointless.

I feel exactly the same.

i would never take my own life but only because of the additional pain it would cause the people I care about. If I had a pill that would make it look like natural causes, I would take it today.

Very very much NOT how I feel. I don't ever want to die, I hope by the time my time comes dying will be optional. I don't like the thought of not being with my husband, and as I don't believe in an afterlife, then I would not be with him. The very thought pains me greatly.

Not being bothered about dying and wanting to die are two completely different things. Do I want to die tomorrow? No. Does it bother me if it were to happen? Only because of what it would do to OH and DD(and others at various levels).
I definitely know that I don't want to live to a good old age. Ideally I'd see DD grown,settled and safe.

Those of us who feel this way don’t need to be pitied or shamed or “fixed” thanks very much.

Not trying to pity shame or fix anyone just commenting on someone's life being a series of okayish moments

@Minaldwyn 💐💐 that’s so young.

I'm 60 almost and have several life limiting illnesses and I’m also limited mobility and that will likely get worse.

I’m waiting now for a referral for possible MS or Parkinson’s. If death came tomorrow I wouldn’t care for me, but for my dh, dcs and family especially my mum. I’ve had over 20 years of daily ill health.

I'm not depressed (I’m an half glass full) and would never take my own life.

But this week as I’m put on bedrest and steroids again I think death would be a blessed relief. For me but not for anyone else.

I will sign up for dignitas if I get A Parkinson’s or MS diagnosis. I don’t want to be my dad or MIL.

When I was in hospital for pneumonia I didn’t care for myself surviving at all. But the happiness of my loved ones when I came out stopped me in my tracks. But they know how I feel and hopefully will support me in any decisions I make going forward.

Yes, that paragraph resonates with me too but what I take from it is that everything is a fleeting moment. The bad stuff, the good stuff. Most of us I imagine are just bumbling along in a fairly neutral state most of the time with our days punctuated by highs and lows. Happiness is not an entitlement- it’s a feeling that comes and goes just like all the other feelings. So that’s why we should try to be in the moment as much as possible- but our modern lives can make that very hard to do.

Those of us who feel this way don’t need to be pitied or shamed or “fixed” thanks very much.

This reminds me of the threads about people who don’t like summer and are assumed to be “wrong” because the “i love summer” people are “right” and how dare we prefer winter just cause they don’t.

FTR i have a great life with loads of joy, i enjoy spending time with my kids and they really need me, I’m not depressed, things are good. Not fearing death and being ok about it all is ok too though.