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Turning in a private road

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RoadyMcRoadUser · 04/03/2024 08:57

Preparing to get flamed for this…..There is a large private road literally next door to my kids primary school which is situated in a cul de sac. The public road gets massively congested in this cul de sac as you can imagine. I have sometimes had no choice but to turn my car in the private road. I have never parked there and doing the school run twice a day have never seen anyone else parked up there either. There’s a guy who lives in the road who will literally stand and glare at me if I turn the car round in his road on the school run. It’s like he comes out of his house specifically at school run times to observe this.
I know you aren’t “supposed” to put an inch of the nose of your car in a private road. But equally, there’s a part of me that thinks if you are that enraged by your private road being used by anyone other than the people that live there, then why would you buy a house directly next door to a school in a cul de sac with no other turning options? Am I being an arsehole? Or is this man overly precious?

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NotTheCase · 25/03/2024 08:56

Always best to check with the council. They have the definitive list of road that are unadopted (with a public right of way) OR are unadopted (no right of way).

if there is no right of way then legally you have no legal right to use it.

RMNofTikTok · 10/03/2024 16:44

Most primary schools are within walking distance of kids homes

I used to walk dd to school and then walk home to get the car to work

I used to love walking my daughter to school. Sadly the hill on the way back is too steep for my wheelchair. Not everyone has the option to walk.

RMNofTikTok · 10/03/2024 16:43

If you can’t drive and turn safely, then park 2 minutes walk away where you can drive and manoeuvre safely. If you’re doing a 3 point turn right next to a school there’s a huge risk of accidentally knocking down a child in busy times. Stop prioritising convenience over safety.

Ok, cool. I'll tell my physio I don't need my wheelchair and should walk to school then 🤪

Seriously, there are so many ableist comments on this thread it is ridiculous.

As it happens, I park in the disabled parking spots in the service yard. I have to do a 3 point turn coming out because some idiot always parks on double yellow lines to the left of the gate, meaning I can't turn left without damaging that car or the one parked across the road that also on double yellows. I have to turn right, towards a dead end. Because everyone is parked everywhere except for over drivers, I have to use a driveway to turn in the road. I cannot reverse out of the service yard as I have to drive over the pavement to get to it and would rather not risk running children over, I need full visibility.

I won't apologise for using other people's drive to keep children safe and my own car free of damage when people choose to park illegally.

DisabledDemon · 10/03/2024 14:37

Panda8998 · 08/03/2024 17:57

I lived in a private road adjacent to the back entrance of a school. My area has a 0.5 mile catchment area.

The entrance to the road is dual lane, but after two car lengths or so it filters to single lane at about when the houses start.

In the 2 lane section, parents park on one side of the road. Not lined up like you would usually park on a road, but like in a parking lot so 4-5 cars can fit there instead of 2. That lane being blocked is also on a fairly blind corner so if you don’t automatically clock it’s school pick up/drop off time and swing into the road you have to emergency brake. And yes parents also get their kids in and out of the car here which is extremely dangerous.

parents stop completely blocking the road, run round the back to open the door and let their kids out. Some let their kids walk to school from their alone, some just leave their care there for 10+ minutes blocking any residents who need to leave, or any ambulances etc that needed to get in.

Those are the most dangerous and disruptive activities, but I also see 3 point turns onto the main road, completely blocking the main road, dangerous child entry and exit, leaving younger children alone in the cars on main roads.

if it was just parking on the road safely fine, we live near a school, expected. But this behaviour is so selfish and dangerous. And it’s made so much worse that it’s a half mile catchment area, a ten minute walk. I know not everyone can walk, but there are hundreds of cars down small residential streets, and there are 2 entrances to the schools … this is only one.

If you can’t drive and turn safely, then park 2 minutes walk away where you can drive and manoeuvre safely. If you’re doing a 3 point turn right next to a school there’s a huge risk of accidentally knocking down a child in busy times. Stop prioritising convenience over safety.

This sounds very like a primary school close to me. In recent years, it has been enlarged extensively but has not provided any more parking on site. This means that parents park on the roads approaching it. On one road in particular, this reduces the road to a single carriageway, which is incredibly dangerous as it's actually a hill leading up to a blind corner and people park right up to the bend in the road.

There is an area about a minute's walk from the school where parents could park (and some do) but most of them are determined to park on the closest roads, regardless of the danger (the other road is a main route into our local town). OK, sometimes it's raining - what's the matter, are they afraid their children will melt?

Ninniwig · 10/03/2024 06:38

Why not leave for school ten minutes earlier, you’d probably be able to park. Would you like it if I turned around on your driveway every day? If you only had one parking space outside your house would you have the same attitude if people used that every day? You’re being entitled.

Panda8998 · 08/03/2024 17:57

I lived in a private road adjacent to the back entrance of a school. My area has a 0.5 mile catchment area.

The entrance to the road is dual lane, but after two car lengths or so it filters to single lane at about when the houses start.

In the 2 lane section, parents park on one side of the road. Not lined up like you would usually park on a road, but like in a parking lot so 4-5 cars can fit there instead of 2. That lane being blocked is also on a fairly blind corner so if you don’t automatically clock it’s school pick up/drop off time and swing into the road you have to emergency brake. And yes parents also get their kids in and out of the car here which is extremely dangerous.

parents stop completely blocking the road, run round the back to open the door and let their kids out. Some let their kids walk to school from their alone, some just leave their care there for 10+ minutes blocking any residents who need to leave, or any ambulances etc that needed to get in.

Those are the most dangerous and disruptive activities, but I also see 3 point turns onto the main road, completely blocking the main road, dangerous child entry and exit, leaving younger children alone in the cars on main roads.

if it was just parking on the road safely fine, we live near a school, expected. But this behaviour is so selfish and dangerous. And it’s made so much worse that it’s a half mile catchment area, a ten minute walk. I know not everyone can walk, but there are hundreds of cars down small residential streets, and there are 2 entrances to the schools … this is only one.

If you can’t drive and turn safely, then park 2 minutes walk away where you can drive and manoeuvre safely. If you’re doing a 3 point turn right next to a school there’s a huge risk of accidentally knocking down a child in busy times. Stop prioritising convenience over safety.

MsFaversham · 08/03/2024 16:53

Surely it depends on whether it has only private right of way or has public right of way. If the latter you can drive on it/

Cheesyfootballs01 · 08/03/2024 16:52

I live on a private road and the residents have to pay for the roads upkeep- so I can sympathise with people getting pissed off with entitled parents using it to turn around….

Oh and we have had people park right by the “Private Road - no parking “ sign many times…. Then they get stroppy when asked to move…. 🤷🏻‍♀️

MiltonNorthern · 08/03/2024 16:49

midgetastic · 04/03/2024 09:08

Most primary schools are within walking distance of kids homes

I used to walk dd to school and then walk home to get the car to work

It was quicker than managing the school traffic - but I wouldn't drive illegally

That's a very sweeping statement! My kid's primary school was 35 minutes walk away and as I had to get to school for 9am after the school run I'm not sure how I could have walked there and back before picking up my car and driving to school. Not all people are you.

eastegg · 08/03/2024 16:47

ConsistentlyElectrifiedElves · 04/03/2024 14:23

This.

OP - would you mind if someone drove on to your driveway, or used your driveway to turn around?

Driving on private property is, ultimately, no different from driving on someone else's driveway.

It would piss me off too.

Except that ‘private road’ does not necessarily mean that no-one is allowed to drive on it. It means it hasn’t been adopted by the council. Pps upthread have posted links about it. It’s not necessarily the same as a private driveway at all.

I appreciate that parents at school pick up and drop off can be a complete nightmare. I personally cannot stand the entitled pavement parkers, driveway blockers, bus stop parkers and sling-their-child-out-in-the-middle-of-the-road twats, but I think many posters are projecting all that onto the OP when she may well have done nothing wrong at all. Having said all that, if I were the OP I would avoid the cul de sac where the school is altogether.

gmor6787 · 08/03/2024 15:22

People like OP think they are so entitled. I live at the end of a private road, which has CCTV camera on. It’s not just one car a day that turns its many. I also get people using it as a toilet. I own this road so wear and tear has to be rectified by me. Park further away and walk you lazy, arrogant woman.

JohnSt1 · 08/03/2024 05:16

People turn in my driveway all the time when the gates are open -an hour or two every day. I honestly never thought about it. I like to see Mister Obnoxious Expert Driving Man getting pissed off when someone is turning and holds up the traffic. 😀

Vevevoom · 08/03/2024 04:18

There’s no justification for you using the drive/ private road. It must be frustrating for the owner to see many people just don’t care about infringing on someone else’s space. Quite selfish really.

DisabledDemon · 07/03/2024 20:41

If you use this private road to turn frequently, you may be considered a nuisance. Although the owners of the road cannot fine you for this, they can sue and if the court finds against you, it can be rather expensive.

MarieChantal1 · 07/03/2024 19:56

Dibbydoos · 07/03/2024 18:45

Don't you get it? Private roads are maintained by the owner. You are OOO @RoadyMcRoadUser .

I live on a private road. We have no street lights, no kerbside bin collection no reduction in council tax and you people want to use our road. Do one!

Make me.

fetchacloth · 07/03/2024 19:06

I can imagine that it's incredibly frustrating living near a school, but as other posters have said, if it bothers one so much, why leave near a school?
I definitely wouldn't for this reason.

Dibbydoos · 07/03/2024 18:45

Don't you get it? Private roads are maintained by the owner. You are OOO @RoadyMcRoadUser .

I live on a private road. We have no street lights, no kerbside bin collection no reduction in council tax and you people want to use our road. Do one!

Daisyblue77 · 07/03/2024 18:01

You are being entitled and unreasonable. Park somewhere else and walk

Frances0911 · 07/03/2024 17:41

A private road usually has to be maintained collectively by the people who live on it, possibly by means of a setvice charge.

So every time you drive your car on their road, you are adding to the wear and tear of the tarmac, of which they will be paying for themselves when the road needs to be resurfaced or pot holes filled in.

Dacadactyl · 07/03/2024 17:25

Just give him a wave and drive off.

He needs a new hobby.

Boredandbitter · 07/03/2024 17:21

I think you should opark your car away from the private road where you contribute nothing to its upkeep and walk your lazy arse to the school gates.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 07/03/2024 14:32

To be fair to him, we have people often cutting across our driveway on foot, and that pisses me off no end.
Mainly because it sets off my ring camera notifications, but also it's very entitled to think you can just take a stroll on someone's property to save a few seconds on your journey.
I could save a few minutes when dropping off my children by walking in their front door, through their kitchen and out the back door, but I don't.
There really is nothing as ignorant as some parents that drive the school run.

PuttingDownRoots · 07/03/2024 14:16

vivainsomnia · 07/03/2024 08:49

I experienced the same when my kids were at nursery. Right next to it was a large driveway leading to flats quite far behind the entrance. Yet a guy would stand there every morning from 7:30 to make sure people didn't park there for 5 minutes or turned around abusing parents who did.

It didn't impact on residents at all, didn't block the passage but he seemed to get a kick at making parents already stressed trying to get to work on time even more stressed. Some people are just like that,plenty of time and energy to enjoy making the life of those who don't difficult.

Could a fire engine get up there if 3 or 4 patents parked at the same time? Or an ambulance? Who decided you weren't a nuisance and the resident was?

This is what a lot of the patents don't get... singularly, its not a problem. Collectively, they are.

nanamoo · 07/03/2024 12:41

Notastripper · 04/03/2024 09:57

The problem with school run drivers are they're like bloody sheep. You do it then everyone else copies. Would you be happy with all these drivers using your drive?

But park bloody further from school. Clearly where you're parking isn't suitable.
I can't believe there isn't somewhere further away to park. It sounds like you're all making this cul de sac unsafe for all the school children. If you're all anything like the ones who drive directly outside my DCs school, there'll be parking over drives, driving off quickly without checking mirrors, road rage and revving. Beeping and swearing, mounting kerbs without checking for children. Their lives are farrrrr too important to care about the safety of others. Then DC get run over.

I've been the Mum that had to drive DC to a different village school too. It was rammed with cars directly outside. I parked further away and walked in with my DC. It teaches them not to be so inconsiderate.

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It's like that at the school near me. At drop off and pick up times it's a nightmare to try get anywhere. The road outside the school goes down to 1 lane with traffic from 1 side having priority. The parents park right on the giveway markings so you can't even see what's coming along the road. Then at the other side, the park with their front/back wheels just mm's off the zigzags and continue right to the crossing island, so no vehicles can get by them. It's also a major bus route too which then holds up the bus. Not to mention the way they abandon their cars (can't even say they are parked due to how they've left their cars) with 1 end sticking out into the road, over driveways and other junctions. Then to make it worse, they've added a lollipop person to the mix and she causes more problems because of where she is in the middle of the 1 way stretch of road. You can't see around the traffic and parked cars to see if they way through is clear or not. So it ends up being like a Mexican stand off with the cars that have the priority trying to get through but can't because cars from the other side have tried to get through and got stopped by the lollipop lady. Without all the extra traffic and parked cars, you can easily see if it's clear or not but It's got that bad that the police get called most days because the traffic is at a standstill and nobody can move. Some of them are parked up from 2pm so they can get parked as close to the school as possible.

MarieChantal1 · 07/03/2024 08:52

He needs to get a life.

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