Wedding menu

why is it acceptable to eat meat at the wedding of vegetarians

Why is it acceptable to drink alcohol at the wedding of someone teetotal?

It's just quite normal to give choices, rather than it being your own choice. However I agree with @Oohhyeah that it's a personal choice whatever you want to do at your own wedding.

But I put my opinion on people when I chose vegan chocolate torte (because it's the best) instead of jam Roly poly. Or when we didn't pick any seafood dishes because neither of us eat them. The whole process of picking a handful of items off a menu, or even or picking a restaurant or caters, is imposing their opinion on their voluntary guests. You'd be putting your opinion on people listing one or two meat meals because you'd be choosing two meats which were least offensive to you / most organic / free range / whatever your requirements were

ooo I like the name Geo 😀

We yes, clearly Geo and I are giving opinions too. What an odd post.

Excellent. But their opinion is being put on people when their opinion is no meat, therefore no one has meat. Which is fine if that's what they want to do. People won't die not eating meat for one meal. And it's a personal preference as the bride and groom. I personally wouldn't do it, and that would be my choice.

I don’t think OP is putting her opinion on anyone.
I doubt they’ll have ‘meat is murder’ posters up.
As sleeping noted no one would expect to eat pork at the wedding of a Jewish couple so why is it acceptable to eat meat at the wedding of vegetarians.

Some people are vegetarians, of course, for reasons other than ethical so may think otherwise.

Some couples may not both be vegetarian so again it would not be surprising to have a meat option.

OP posted, reading between the lines, for reassurance that the majority would not be fussed about the lack of meat at their wedding and it seems she got that.

I’m also organising my wedding at the moment . Most are meet eaters but we have a few vegetarian, I don’t expect them to eat meat so have alternatives for them . I feel it’s unfair to expect others to eat what they don’t accept or like . Personally I would get an alternative menu for those who prefer meat .

@Geotheanum @SleepingStandingUp The OP has posted on a public forum asking for opinions. People are giving opinions. Shock horror. My opinion is as valid as anyone else's. As a vegetarian I wouldn't put my choices on people. That's my opinion. OPs opinion is to put their choices on people. Great, whatever works for them.

@imnewhere2024 I think a vegetarian wedding is totally acceptable and I'm a meat eater. But then, DH and I enjoy vegetarian food as well.

I would just suggest that you have 2-3 options (like most weddings), so that people still choose.

And definitely a vegan option.

But you’ve already noted you would offer meat to meat eaters at your wedding.
OP has stated they don’t want to.

The standard menu you note, is a standard menu which will have lots of options for all dietary requirements.
It doesn’t mean OP has to offer those if her and her dh are morally against animals being killed for food on their wedding day.

Especially as the standard menu will have other options inline with their ethics.

A vegetarian restaurant would have a normal menu of vegetarian food. I went for Tapas last night, it was a normal menu even though it was just little plates of food and not like most restaurants. Mowgli has a normal menu even though it's all Indian food and Wetherspoons has a normal menu even though it's primarily English food. Normal menu denotes what's normal for that situation and we're talking about the wedding of two people who don't eat meat for ethical reasons. If it was taste or health or cost, I'd say throw in a meat dish but I don't expect my Jewish friend to cook me pork, or my Hindu friend to cook me meat on the days she doesn't eat it and I wouldn't expect two ethical vegetarians to pay to serve dead animal at their own wedding

No its to cater for meat eating guests, with the bride and groom choosing vegetarian for themselves (as a vegetarian myself).

Because there's more to life than dead animal although I've subsequently seen that you have a very restricted diet. Most people don't eat meat three times a day.

Not for a vegetarian couple though.
Those standard menues are to cater for a meat eating couple that has vegetarian and vegan guests.

You said you wouldn't go if it was dry, how have I misinterpreted that?

But op isn't suggesting carrots, carrots or carrots. In an Italian restaurant the vegetarian option may well include a vegetable lasagne, a ton of different vegetable pasta, cheese and tomato pizza, bruscetta, different vegetable starters. It's going to be a bit pasta / pizza laden whether there's meat in it or not.

Can I just say @SleepingStandingUp( speaking as a vegetarian ) I admire your resilience here!!!
Especially as you aren’t a veggie!!

Because its quite clearly a normal menu offering meat and vegetarian/vegan. Have a Google of any wedding venue in your area, that's how their menu would look.

I mean, vegetarians do enjoy protein. And an actual meal.

Why is it automatically an abnormal menu if there's no meat on it?

As a vegetarian myself, I wouldn't push my choices on to people. I'd just offer a normal menu letting people choose if they wanted vegetarian.

Most OMNIvores have some meals without meat. No vegetarians have any breaks with meat. Can you see the difference in the scenarios? Today I have bacon and sausage for breakfast but a cheese and onion sandwich for lunch and cheesy pasta bake for tea. I survived.

I didn't mean have Indian food but...given how delicious non-meat Indian food is....

Well neither of those starters would suit my preferences, I hate tomatoes soup with a passion and just can't eat pate unless it's mushroom which would obviously be a solid no for your wedding. So how awful that you didn't cater for every dietary request going. Aubergines are also quite contentious veg to stick all your vegetarian and vegan friends with. But as those are good preferences I'd have eaten the bread, picked around the aubergine and not had expected to be the central priority, especially among someone to go against their personal beliefs.

If you went to a Jewish wedding would you expect them to serve Pork?

Fabulous! Chuck in an Indian vegan wedding and it's literally the most delicious food you could think of. And I'm a meat eater. The quality and taste of the food should mean than meat eaters aren't missing meat. My Indian family would never entertain serving meat and why should they. So why should you? Congrats and have a wonderful wedding!