Wedding menu

Sausage, bacon and egg for breakfast plus a piece of fruit, 2 or 3 pieces of fruit for lunch, chicken, steak, gammon, fish for dinner with peas and carrots. Fruit if I'm hungry before bed. I eat a lot of raspberries, oranges, apples, grapes, melon, strawberries, mango etc. sometimes I'll eat a yogurt for lunch too if hungry. I might eat a scoop of ice cream occasionally. I might eat 5 or 6 pieces of penne pasta with my dinner if DH is cooking it.

No, too bland. Surely any reasonable person would have offered me a good chunk of meat. How could you possibly have not put meat on the starter menu. It's like you don't even CARE about your guests 🙄🙄

No, I'm pointing out your flawed logic.

Of your only interest is the food you get fed rather than the union of two people who care about you, then honestly you're better of declining and letting them know the disdain you really feel.

@caringcarer are you serious? You only eat meat?

Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner
Snacks

No pasta, lentils, vegetables?

I find that incredible.

OP have a veggie menu, lovely! Enjoy your day.

My friends know I don't like vegetarian meals and eat mostly meat. My DH is vegetarian and we almost always cook 2 different meals. If you know a person eats mainly meat and you don't want to accommodate this I agree don't invite me. A lot of my DH friends are vegetarian and they offered me a meat option at their weddings. If they hadn't I'd have told DH he could go on his own.

Not petulant I just don't like much else except fruit.

Yes, veggie only, it won't kill them. It's your wedding.

We went to friends wedding, full menu was veggie (bride wasn't but husband was), wasn't an issue, was lovely to get to experience the veggie options in all honesty. It's your day, it's your menu. Anyone that moans... says more about them than you.

Wow I can't believe all the answers from meat-enthuiasts on here thinking it's unreasonable to expect a meat eater to go a few hours without meat.

Would you also expect a jewish wedding to serve bacon as an option for non-jewish guests?

Rejecting a wedding invitation because you can't eat meat for one meal is a remarkable stance really. It's almost comically petulant.

Then I probably wouldn't want you to come? Ps i am not a vegetarian but if my vegetarian friends want a vegetarian wedding then thats what theu should have

No guest should dictate what is served.

If you dont like it. Then im sure your absence wouldn't be missed. Who needs high maintainance people at their wedding

You seem to be trying to convince me to your opinion? I don't need convincing. I am giving my opinion based on my preferences, preferences that are not uncommon. OP is looking for varied opinions.

Of course it is a wedding and most people will be polite and say it is lovely, but that doesn't mean some/many will not enjoy it. Of course, as hosts, if the couples restrictive dietary choices are more important to them than all their guests enjoyment, they are paying so they get to make the choice.

There is a world of difference between "accessible" and enjoyable.

I would.

Serve what you want OP. As this thread proves, people will always moan no matter what. It's your day!

I've been to about 30 weddings, I've never once been served a meal that would have been my first choice were I picking it. As long as it's tasty and soaks up the booze I don't care!

Tbh it's a bit odd to not eat meat for ethical reasons and then pay hundreds of pounds for dead animals to celebrate your wedding

But also that at these meals where they serve meat, that none of the accompaniments they happily eat aren't the same ingredients used to make yummy vegetarian food. As if as soon as meat is there, potatoes, vegetables, pasta etc are somehow carnivore food and once the .eat is taken away they're pointless crap food that's basically inedible

Maybe they were being polite, maybe they were capable of enjoying a vegetarian meal.

Either way, there was no way that dh and I were going to feed everyone meat when we're vegetarian for ethical reasons.

shudder wedding chicken is about right @KomodoOhno

So would people on here really do this:
>long-term, close relationship with someone
>approve of their relationship, delighted they're getting married
>receive wedding invite, very happy to come
>find out the food will be vegetarian and become so offended you don't attend and break off all ties

Wah, waaaah! You didn't consider my need for ham at all meals!

would people really decline a wedding because it was vegetarian?

In my family we call it wedding chicken. As in please I pray it's not wedding chicken

It's a bit astonishing that some posters think that vegetarians being offered only meat and meat-eaters only being offered food without meat is the same thing.

Pages of this thread, and they still think it amounts to the same thing.

@imnewhere2024
We went to a civil partnership celebration last year - both he and she are vegetarian and fellow members of our sports club.
The food was totally vegetarian, which did not surprise me, and I was fine with it. And it was a chance to try stuff I wouldn't normally eat.
A few of the other club members who went said, (not to the couple, thank God), that the food was awful because there was no meat.
We know the couple a bit better than these other members, and the latter could well have not known that the former are vegetarian.
It's a dilemma isn't it?
I agree that when you are providing food, the choice of food is yours.
And I have no issue with vegetarians being unwilling/unable to contemplate serving meat because of their principles, (in fact I admire them for it). Just as meat eaters can refuse to eat vegetarian food.
In hindsight I think the couple might have been wise to say on the invites that the food would be vegetarian - giving people the option to decline?
Is making that clear a workable option for all events such as this?
There's no "right" answer is there?
But to answer your question, I would be totally happy to come to your wedding and eat completely vegetarian food. I would respect you for upholding your values.

I'd definitely think about Indian food and don't worry about it being gimmicky...

I didn't drink at a tee total wedding (although some guests did 🫣) and I wouldn't eat meat at a vegetarian wedding. But I think some people will be upset because vegetarian food makes people crazy for some reason. Identify who you have on the guest list that might not be open to new things (cousins, uncles, parents' pals etc) and approach them and ask them how strongly they feel about meat on the menu. You might save yourself a lot of trouble this way.