Wedding menu

in every single one of your updates youve made it very clear you dont want to serve meat so follow your heart.

@imnewhere2024 but DP is pretty adamant about it, literally said “there’s a McDonald’s over the road, let them go there is they have an issue” which TBf I think is the right attitude. I just don’t want to cause conflict

No, it's really not the right attitude. Actually your menu sounds fine, as a meat eater I often choose to eat vegetarian pasta so I wouldn't feel I was missing out. But ultimately you're hosting your guests, you should be catering to their needs and wants, and forcing people to eat veggie does smack of preaching your ideals.

As far as I know, most venues provide a vegetarian option for 'free' as an alternative to the meat option. I'd therefore go for a meat choice and still have the veggie option for anyone that wants/needs it.

I’m veggie but I wouldn’t insist on an entirely veggie wedding. It’s my choice not to eat meat and I don’t put that on others, plus FIL would have spent the whole thing rolling his eyes.

I would maybe offer multiple veggie options and only one meat. I have allergies and strong dislikes of mushroom and goats cheese but most veggie options seems to have one or both!

As long as it’s tasty I wouldn’t care.

We’re both vegetarian, all of our wedding food was vegetarian, it also catered to our sons allergies so for the first time in his life he could safely eat absolutely everything. The food was fab, guests were able to order on the day (it was very relaxed and in a bar) rather than picking in advance, so there were a few double ordering when they saw someone elses meal and as it was an early finish quite a few had doggy bags.

If I was vegetarian I wouldn't be buying my guests a meat dinner. I'd have a vegetarian menu.

What’s wrong with that? If it’s a decent roast dinner done well it can be nice. I’m not vegetarian but I have friends that are and eat meatless roasts because they love the roast potatoes and roast carrots etc.

To be honest I think it’s a bit petty in the first place to be grumbling about no meat for one day, when it will do absolutely no harm. I know people are on about choice and not wanting to push life choices on to guests, but literally it’s vegetarian, which meat eaters can also eat, for ONE day, and if the OP is vegetarian for ethical reasons then it’s selfish to expect them to provide meat for no good reason.

Your day, your choice.

Enjoy the day, and do it your way

@Youcannotbeseriousreally It's not "inflicting" anything on people to spend half a day not eating meat, and forcing vegetarians to eat meat - something they consider ethically wrong - is hardly comparable to asking non-vegetarians to not eat meat. One is asking people to compromise their ethics, one is not, surely you can see the difference.

Would you expect an Orthodox Jewish wedding to include pork in the interests of "choice"?!

You don’t need to serve meat. It’s your wedding, your choice.

Are people so dependant on meat that they couldn’t go one meal time without it???? Surely not.

They can grab a kebab on the way home 🤢

I would welcome the chance to try a different veggie dish. For me, eating out is about trying things I’ve never cooked at home

My cousin is a vegetarian (her now-husband eats veggie at home with her but not elsewhere) and their wedding was veggie. It was delicious and above all it was a true expression of them and their own personal approach to generosity which is what weddings should be. I'm veggie too so perhaps that's easy for me to say. but I certainly wouldn't pay my own money towards meat to be served. It's counter to my ethical principles. And it just isn't necessary to make a fantastic meal!

Serve what you want! I’d be happy with anything. Some people might moan but then I haven’t been to a wedding when at least a few people weren’t moaning about the food. Even really thoughtful couples who catered for everyone. I saw one person say during the dinner service she’d have the vegan option (she said it looked nicer than the meat one! She hadn’t ordered it so one person had no dinner or a hasty replacement). Anyway, I digress. You can’t please everyone so please yourself! It’s your day.

Don’t do this! “The veggies can fill up on veg, potatoes etc”! Welcome back to the 1960s.

I would fully expect a vegetarian menu and be more than happy with it. Go for it!

Completely agree. Wouldn't force my own personal choices on guests.

This, we had options

I had a vegan only wedding last year and everyone commented on how much they loved the food. Especially my meat and 2 veg loving older relatives who I thought wouldn't be so keen.

We did however pay extra to give everyone a choice of 4 mains (All vegan) and tried to go with dishes that could quite easily come without meat anyway.

The winners were a vegetable pie and a mushroom and truffle pasta dish. I think along as you try and cater nice vegetable dishes rather than give people fake meat/tofu you'll be fine. Starter and desert are easily vegetarian anyway.
And anyone commenting on the day is just downright rude.

I personally wouldn’t care (as long as there’s something other than risotto 🤮 🤮) However, be aware that some people can get funny about things like this. Are you willing to fall out with people about it?

I would just serve vegetarian as I said, but if you really feel like you want to please meat eaters, I think I’d opt for something pretty universal like a roast dinner of some kind, because the meat eaters can have meat but the veggies can fill up on veg, potatoes etc and it’s easy, you don’t have to worry about too many options. Then have a vegetarian dessert which most are anyway. Job done.

^ This

It's your wedding and you're paying for it so definitely go for veggie, anyone who cares about you two won't care if there's meat or not.