Wedding menu

I think you can get away with it as it is Italian. You are vegetarian and not vegan so cheese and eggs are allowed. I’m sure even the fussiest of meat eaters would be more than happy with a margarita pizza and garlic bread for example.

This is how I’ve fallen off the “no sugar” band wagon before - there’s been no non meat savoury food, or it’s been so bad as to be inedible, so I ate the pudding just to have something!

What point are you making? You want to use your own wedding to get your own back?

Do you honestly never have a meal without meat? We're talking about a bowl of pasta in tomato sauce, or a pizza with cheese and veg on it, not a pile of spouts stuffed inside an aubergine

I think if it’s Italian food like pizza and pasta people will often not even notice it’s veggie (as opposed to the Italian “main course” type things that are usually fish or meat)

I don’t think you need to serve them meat. Just have something nice and people probably won’t notice.

This might be true in some cases, but not all. It was our wedding, we were paying a lot of money for the food, so we tasted the veggie/vegan/gluten free/dairy free options and were indeed invested in offering excellent options. Again with the superiority! Your assumptions are incorrect

Well that doesn't sound 'loud and opinionated' to me. He didn't complain about the food. He just didn't eat it and went out to get something that he actually liked. And he didn't wave it around in front of anybody else and make a big fuss as you are only guessing at what he did. He didn't actually tell you!
What's wrong with that?

Yes if you want 🤷‍♀️

as a veggie of many years I can attend an event and if I’m not catered for discreetly not eat whatever it is. Usually there’ll be something, if only bread, pudding is nearly always veggie, and starters tend to be also*, so it’s rare that I can’t find anything.

*except for one work do where the starter was a vegetable tartlet, but they bizarrely brought a fish starter for the three or four vegetarians. Even then no drama, swapped it with some who did like/eat fish.

We're both veggie and had a veggie wedding. A few people commented but no-one was rude about it. We had lots of compliments on the food and whilst I know a few people nipped to KFC later in the evening, that's fine with me and I didn't have to compromise on my ethics

We had veggie only food at our wedding. It's entirely to be expected for an event hosted by vegetarians. Ultimately the person/people paying the bill are taking responsibility for any ethical choices connected with the purchase so if eg your parents were footing the bill for the meal then that's different but if you are paying then of course you can choose a menu that fits with your ethics. It's just one meal out of the 21 meals they eat in a week, they aren't going to get malnourished for lack of bacon.

Well you offer what people 'can' eat. Meat eaters can eat non-meat food. Especially as it's vegetarian and not vegan in this case!
OP, have it all vegetarian. But also, make sure it's clear on the invites so that those who feel very strongly can uninvite themselves.

if they're close enough to be invited surely they'll know you're veggie. And will be expecting this anyway.

Not quite the same but, we had an afternoon tea at our wedding and some older family members were not happy. but that's because they'd been to previous events with stingy portions, 2 small cakes and 3 finger sandwiches.

Our caterer was amazing, food was constantly replenished. Everyone ended up stuffed and happy!

I’ve always pondered this. Mainly because meat eaters would cater to vegetarians and it feels wrong the other way round somehow.

For the sake of a wedding, it’s fine to offer normal food with no meat, as long as it’s not vegan. Plenty of pasta etc is easily delicious to even meat heads. Just want to ensure people are fed and soak up the alcohol!

But if the caterers know that there are veggie guests then they can roast the potatoes in vegetable or sunflower oil. I don’t see it as a nice meal for meat eaters and everyone else can have left overs. That’s only if you see it as left overs. If you frame it as it’s meant like ‘’roast dinner for everyone, choice of meat or no meat’’ so it’s inclusive rather than exclusive it’s hardly left overs. I think people are thinking too deeply into it. It’s just a roast dinner 😂

Regardless, OP should just do as she pleases and let the moaners moan, it’s her day.

Of course not, because this thread absolutely has double standards, and a heavy attitude of superiority of vegetarianism over meat eating thrown in as well.

Going by the responses of 'Its your wedding do what you want to do', logic would mean as I am a meat eater I can offer only meat dishes at my wedding and that is perfectly acceptable? 🤔

And as an omnivore even if I was served goats cheese, my absolute bete noir and I cannot put it in my mouth without retching, I would simply leave it on the side of my plate and eat whatever else was available. And not moan.

Just as I would if served raw fish as part of sushi, or a slice of black pudding or haggis (currently v popular in cheffy circles if Masterchef is anything to go by).

I completely think you should have the vegetarian menu you want (probs wouldn't want fake meat but there are lots of good vegetarian options)

However, I don't get these comments putting down people who eat meat. Absolutely wouldn't be acceptable to do so about vegetarians so why are people being derogatory? I've read commens after comment calling people ignorant, demonstrating people think theyre infinitely superior and talking about not needing to eat meat (no one actually really needs to be vegetarian either but that's beside the point) etc when in reality no one has criticised Op's decision?

Have the meal you want. Some will like it, some won't. You wont satisfy everyone whatever you do.

Don’t we know it at buffets when all the veggie options get eaten by the meat eaters 😂

Issue with this as a veggie is it’s not unusual for roast potatoes etc to be cooked in animal fat.

i would not eat a roast dinner that wasn’t specifically veggie.

plus it’s a bit “here’s a nice meal for all you meat eaters, the veggies can have the leftovers”

not really in the ethos of the bride and groom, giving them half a meal.

I went to a wedding a couple of years ago that was vegan. The food was bloody amazing and not one person complained.

In your shoes, OP, I’d definitely serve a vegetarian menu but I would let guests know. Then the sort of halfwits who can’t bear a meatless meal can excuse themselves.

I’m an omnivore and wouldn’t think twice about an all veggie menu.

People don’t ‘need’ meat. All meat eaters often eat things that happen to be vegetarian, surely?

And who accepts hospitality and then moans about it? So rude!

The main thing is that the food is good, and plentiful enough, the atmosphere happy, celebratory and fun.

Serving vegetarian food is fine! I think you need to stop worrying about your guests making comments. Everyone has different preferences so you're never going to have everyone's perfect day - if any of your guests wants to find something to complain about they'll probably find something! Plan the day that the two of you want, veggie food is really nothing offensive.