Big Hairy Beard

I wish I were a girlie
Just like my dear papa!

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Yes, along with high heels, suspendies, and a bra.

i have a form of pogonophobia, this would be my worst nightmare
im not scared so not a phobia
it just turns my stomach if i see a man with one
i physically gag and feel repulsed and has been know to do it right in front if i walk past a man with one
its a naturally response for me i cant control it
my dad(early 60s)has always had to be clean shaving becasue ive been like it since birth apparently

my ex partner(ive only ever had the one long term partner of 22 years) having even a bit wasn't happening
he understood and never went 2 days with out shaving

watching films and tv is even difficult for me

back to your post as you said you don't like it and its been ignored that shows no respect for your feelings and i wouldnt been dismissed so easily

My mum fucking hates beards cos her alcoholic violent ex husband had one (not my dad, her 2nd husband). My stepdad has never been anything but clean shaven as a result

I've had to go through this, except it wasn't groomed. He just looked like a homeless version of ZZ top.
It was a shame because I still love him, but was feeling like he didn't give a shit about looking nice for me. His response was that he never criticised my appearance. This was true, but I always kept myself clean and took care of my appearance.
Exactly this. My ex husband grew a beard years ago, when we were still together.
I'd never gone out with (or even kissed!) a man with any kind of facial hair besides short sideburns. Because it didn't appeal to me in the slightest.
This beard was dreadful. Not trimmed or tidied up in any way, shape or fashion, it was about five different colours, and quite frankly, it looked like it had things living in it. And it put at least ten years on him, looks-wise.
I have asthma and l couldn't go near it, the look of it made me wheeze. It just looked so scruffy and dusty.
My fault, of course, for being 'ridiculous'. According to him.
If l'd wanted Grizzly Adams l'd have married him. I didn't.

Looks alarmingly like my DH! 😩😩

Yes, along with a red checked flannel shirt

I think beards are one of those things you find attractive or you don't and if the beard has arrived on the scene post initial attraction then you'll have to tell him.
I'm completely with you btw.

Did you know this would be the outcome when he started ?

Men who think they look like this -

vikings.fandom.com/wiki/Travis_Fimmel

Usually look like this -

https://www.comedy.co.uk/tv/catweazle/shop/5831/thecompletee_series/

I was always a clean shaven gal and probably still am. Started casually seeing someone with a beard and I loved it would just sit and stroke his face and beard and it suited him and I found it really hot. Its definitely not something I would normally go for at all

My DH ha s had a beard for 30 of the 34 years we've been together.
I love it especially when he kisses and snuggles my neck and his beard tickles ...ooh
I love bearded men!

Is having a beard a necessary part of being a lumberjack?! 😆

It's not just about the cleanliness and feel of it etc, it's also that's a man looks completely different with a beard. OP might not have looked twice at the bloke if he'd had a beard when they first met. If a woman doesn't like beards then she's not likely to be eyeing up a man who has one.

I enjoy looking at beards of all description on men, I find them fascinating.
I also like beards on older men as my Dad had one so they remind me of him.

But no way do I want to be snogging a man with a beard -yuck. I guess the Dad thing probably explains why I don’t find them sexually attractive, but I just hate the physical sensation. DH had one for a while during lockdown so I gave it a go but we both agreed it wasn’t working.

I think I would be tempted to get out the family photos and moon over the beardless DH of old. Maybe a little overboard with the praising of how handsome, how smoooooth, how sexy he looked.
No mention of the beard at all . Just a few well-placed sighs.

Agree to embrace the growth... Let your pubes overgrow until David Bellamy would get lost in there.... See how he appreciates that.

It's dirty if unwashed. Any body part or body hair is. But if it is washed regularly then in terms of cleanliness, fine.
I can't speak for OPs aesthetic tastes as I quite like beards. Not ones with bits of egg or twigs in though.

There's a reason why beard rhymes with weird.

Unless he's a cavemen or has a medical condition or scars that require a beard or even some kind of job (lumberjack) where a beard is necessary than I would absolutely not be able to stay with him.

It's totally okay not to like it but never to dictate how they should look.. we hate it when men dictate how we look. But OP you seem sensible and just want to learn to love it. Could he soften it with conditioner somehow?

He puts his face near other body parts I mentioned which I don't shave though.

have you thought about making friends with the beard?

@pickledandpuzzled, that did make me laugh. Picturing the OP trying to tempt it with dog chews and squeaky toys…

I concur.

Shame my DH is apparently twinned with OP's, however! 😩

I like small beards those caveman beards are horrible.

I don't understand the comparison to a man demanding a woman shave her leg hair. Legs aren't generally involved in kissing and aren't often in contact with a face. I wouldn't sign up to rub my face against DHs hairy legs.