Is this cheeky?

I don't understand why you paid her for a voucher? Especially something you didn't even want to do. Why did you even offer to do this? If I had a voucher I'd happily want my friend to use it!

@RogueFemale she's not been caught out, she agreed to go out with an aqutence not a friend and pay for an activity. That's what happened. A friend is a different matter because you go out with someone you like and care how money is split between friends. Friends use vouchers to take friend out. Can't get upset over an 'aquantence' when she agreed to go out

Yes, this.

@Isthischeek It doesn't really suggest that she's a nice person, at best maybe thoughtless, selfish, or even silly. I wouldn't invest much time/energy in this friendship. See how it goes, if you like, but don't get caught out again.

Bloody cheeky. I would be wary. It's mean of spirit - any kind of friend new or otherwise would have said 'I have these tickets that expire soon would be good if we could use them'

I won a weekend spa voucher once but didn't want to go on my own, so I asked if I could swap it for a two person day voucher. I took a friend, we had a great time and we both thoroughly enjoyed the freebie.

She's transactional - not friendship material.

If she is broke then I guess it makes sense, but if I was her I would've been more subtle, like "I'll get the tickets, just send the cash" then produce the vouchers on the sly, or at least casually at the desk. Not telling you about them as it makes it obvious she's got a profit out of the exchange which isn't what you want from a friendly meeting.

Why did you respond with,’’I could have bought my own’’ OP? She invited you specifically so she could use up the free tickets. She may not have got the opportunity to use them at all if you hadn’t have agreed to go with her If she didn’t want to go alone. A simple thank you would have sufficed. She is very cheeky expecting payment though, I wouldn’t bother with her again. She’s made £31.50 profit out of you for sod all.

She's not a decent person. Keep your distance

My understanding is that you thought she had paid and offered to pay her. THEN she told you it was a voucher, but still sent the bank details. So you paid knowing she had vouchers but still expected payment for something that was free?

Bit weird she didnt say hey I have these vouchers for x that I have to use by Sunday are you free? Also did you know the cost of the ticket or did she charge you for 2?

I cannot believe you sent the money!

I'd love to know how you got to the event. Please don't say you drove too!!

When people do this, their thought process is “I don’t want her to get something for free”, not “I don’t want to be out of pocket”.

It’s very telling because it speaks to how they see you, and whether you’re “disposable” to them (in that you’re not even worth £31.50, that she didn’t even have to pay out, to her).

Wow it’s like she used you to launder the money from the voucher

That's not how friends treat each other.

She used you to offload a ticket she didn’t even pay for and to make money from you.

You have been warned of the type of person she is.. if you continue this ‘friendship’ , be prepared to be exploited.

So cheeky!

I agree, I couldn’t be friends with someone like this.

but she didn't really use them on OP because OP paid her money, so OP essentially bought her own ticket and colleague made a profit!

While I can sort of see her POV, exactly as you've explained it OP - she thought you were happy to go to and pay for this activity anyway, so in your mind the money was already spent, so what did it matter to you if it went to the [activity place] directly or to her, if anything it would be nicer for it to go to a friend than a big corporation - personally I can't imagine ever doing the same to someone, even if the tickets weren't going to expire, but particularly if they were!

But nice of you to give her the benefit of the doubt if she's otherwise a decent person.

But she did have vouchers. Why would any decent person charge a work colleague for vouchers they got free from work? That’s bizarre and cheeky fucker behaviour. She’s profited from a friend and work colleague, that’s stingy and tight.

This- you basically said I’d rather pay! So she said ok.

That is very cheeky and would annoy me to be honest. Some people are like that but it's a trait I really dislike in people

She's definitely not behaved in the way you would expect a potential friend to behave.

Nope, she got the ticket free so you’re not paying her back for money she paid out. She’s basically made a profit out of you.

But that's just something you say to be polite: "You don't need to use your ticket for me, I don't mind paying".

To which every non-CF person in this situation would reply "Oh, don't be silly - it didn't cost me anything and it expires today, so it's just nice that it can be enjoyed instead of going to waste".

But what if she hasn't got nefarious intent but rather needs the money? There but for the grace of god and all that?

I'd assume she'd invited me because she wanted to spend time wirh me... like op I would expect to pay for my ticket, not have her pay. But the ticket was going spare!

The nice/normal/non-grabby thing to do would be to invite friend, say "i've already got the ticket, how about you buy coffee afterwards?"