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What would you think should happen?

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FlamingoFloss · 26/02/2024 00:11

Dear MN’s, I need your help please.

Scenario- you arranged to collect someone from London meaning you knew in advance that you had to enter the congestion charge zone. This was pre-planned and so they asked for your car details so they could sort the congestion charge in advance and said it had been done by adding it to their congestion charge account ( no reason to doubt as they already have two cars set up). Fast forward and a fine for non payment of the congestion charge arrives because although the car has been added to the account it had not been added to autopay meaning it did not automatically get paid. You tell the person about the fine and they offer to go halves with you.

so this is the question and what I would like some help with please.

I am NOT being unreasonable to expect the person to to pay the whole fine as I believed the charge had been covered as promised

I am being unreasonable and it’s totally ok to go halves on the fine

Thank you

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FlamingoFloss · 27/02/2024 22:00

strawberry12345 · 27/02/2024 17:12

To be fair I had this when I added a new car to the account but not also to the autopay section. It’s a terrible website. I appealed and they cancelled the fine

I’ve appealed and appealed and rejected

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FlamingoFloss · 27/02/2024 21:59

stillawip · 27/02/2024 17:14

Sorry, I may be being thick, but isn’t the reason for you collecting them relevant here? Ie Was it to help you with something, or for her benefit?

Following an operation. Collecting them
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hospital

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 27/02/2024 17:15

'Hey CF former pal, can you transfer the other £45 please? It didn't come through on Friday. Cheers.'.

stillawip · 27/02/2024 17:14

Sorry, I may be being thick, but isn’t the reason for you collecting them relevant here? Ie Was it to help you with something, or for her benefit?

strawberry12345 · 27/02/2024 17:12

To be fair I had this when I added a new car to the account but not also to the autopay section. It’s a terrible website. I appealed and they cancelled the fine

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FlamingoFloss · 27/02/2024 17:09

TheSlantedOwl · 26/02/2024 23:00

Wow she’s thrown away a close friendship over £45. Has she ever shown signs of being a CF/less than ethical before?

Hmm..perhaps she comes across as a bit entitled

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nocompromisenecessary · 27/02/2024 08:05

Plenty I think!

Saying they'll go halves is like saying it's half your fault. Jokers.

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FlamingoFloss · 27/02/2024 07:48

nocompromisenecessary · 26/02/2024 23:21

Is their name Sam by any chance?

Are there more like this?? 😂

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Scorchio84 · 27/02/2024 02:14

MadamVastra · 26/02/2024 01:11

I would pay half but never let their face darken my door again 😂

this... it's the cost of finding out who they aactually are sadly

Tatonka · 27/02/2024 02:05

FlamingoFloss · 26/02/2024 00:16

My thoughts entirely unfortunately, they don’t see it that way as they believe they have done nothing wrong and the website should just autopay once the car has been added to the account

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Of course you are correct. My suggestion would be to ask them why you should be out of pocket, and let them know not to ask you about any other favours. Then don't bother having any kind of relationship with them

Bestyearever2024 · 27/02/2024 01:08

Definitely NOT a good friend

Also (imo) a liar and flaky as fuck

Jamazon1 · 27/02/2024 01:03

If your friend blued your relationship, she would pay up and accept whatever cock up was theirs to manage as your only commitment was to drive. They said they’d sort out the CC, so that’s what she has to do. Not your monkeys, not your circus.

Noseybookworm · 27/02/2024 00:54

Well it's cost you 45 quid but at least you now know that this 'friend' is not worth your time or attention. Block her and move on OP.

nocompromisenecessary · 26/02/2024 23:21

Is their name Sam by any chance?

Biggybigbiggles · 26/02/2024 23:17

Outrageous behaviour! She should pay the fine AND petrol!

TomeTome · 26/02/2024 23:06

Text her and ask for the remaining £45. If it doesn’t turn up pdq I’d be done with considering her any kind of friend. If you get ££s and an apology just take a break and try to forget it.

TheSlantedOwl · 26/02/2024 23:00

Wow she’s thrown away a close friendship over £45. Has she ever shown signs of being a CF/less than ethical before?

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FlamingoFloss · 26/02/2024 22:52

I paid the fine last week. She sent me half and then obviously thought about what I’d said about moral obligations and said she would send an additional £45 last Friday. Guess what?? Yup, it didn’t arrive. I feel so disappointed and can’t believe what I thought was a good friend would behave like this

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dottiedodah · 26/02/2024 13:57

I think they are being a CF TBH. You are doing them a favour ,maybe say to pay half but dont offer any favours like that again!

PotterHead1985 · 26/02/2024 13:25

I'm with others. They should pay but you know they won't so pay half, make sure you get proof of payment and then sack them off. I'd have no problem telling them why either.

Dotjones · 26/02/2024 12:13

Pay the fine then ghost them once you've received their half, you don't need people like that in your life. As the old saying goes, fuck me over once, shame on you, fuck me over twice, shame on me - so get out now.

ion08 · 26/02/2024 12:12

close enough to do a big favour

but then this arises

weird

hagchic · 26/02/2024 12:11

No good deed ever goes unpunished.

I would grudgingly pay half but never ever do them a favour again.

Herdinggoats · 26/02/2024 12:11

I’d pay the half and ask for the receipt so you know the debt has been cleared, but pull back a bit from the friendship and certainly never do any favours again.

Next time they ask for a favour just calmly explain that last time you helped them out they let you down making sure the charge was paid for your car and you didn’t appreciate having to pay half of their fine for them.

my priority though would be making sure that fine was resolved though

Spirallingdownwards · 26/02/2024 12:10

They pay the fine because they took responsibility for the charge.

If they hadn't you could have set it up yourself properly and asked them tk just transfer the money. As soon as they took responsibility directly ANY payment or fine for non payment is theirs (morally).

The lesson learned is to never rely on others which is too late now but you won't ever do the same again.

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