Hi I'm currently pregnant with my first, due in a couple of months. I am trying to prepare for a long & complicated labour bc my body is awkward and knowing my luck things will go that way!
My partner will be with me during labour, I've been with him almost 10 years, trust him 100% which is why I don't know why I feel this way, anyway I'll carry on,
We have quite a large family and I imagine a lot of them will want to come and visit after on the postnatal ward, I know there's set visiting times on the ward which is fine. (I think it's open visiting for partners, 2 other visitors during visiting times) I will clarify with MW in a couple of weeks.
I'm getting a bit worried though bc my partner said outside of visiting times for relatives, he will just pick up the baby from the cot, carry her outside in the hospital corridors for family to meet her.
I don't want him to do this. I explained I might not be able to join him depending on how I'm feeling and tbh I don't want to go walking round in cold corridors with our baby. And I want to be there when family are meeting her it's a special moment.
I told him I don't want him just picking up the baby and taking her elsewhere. It's chaotic for a start. I said if I wake up from a nap, for example and the baby isn't there I might panic. I want the baby to stay in the cot but obviously can be taken out of the cot if someone visits us on the ward to hold etc.
He said I'm being unreasonable because it's his baby too.
We can't agree on this. Please feel free to tell me I'm being unreasonable and help me to see sense. Maybe it's just my protective instincts kicking in already? I know I won't feel this way when we go home. But in hospital it just seems right for me and baby to stay together? AIBU?