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Relocation to USA

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zssta · 25/02/2024 12:18

I'm American and had a baby with a British man. After 3 years of being here I want to go back home ( currently uk) to my family as I've been suffering mentally without them near since giving birth. My babys dad doesn't Want to move and keeps threatening suicide if I leave him with the baby. The need to leave is also him due to having mental illness like depression, anxiety and anger unmanaged. It's too much for me to handle with a baby. My baby dad and have decided the relationship is too toxic for our baby so decided to end it. I want to take legal action so I can take my baby with me, he isn't going to consent on his own free will. What should I do??

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VanCleefArpels · 25/02/2024 12:27

Are you married and is he named on the birth certificate? If yes to either of these then he does have parental responsibility which allows him to take legal action to prevent you taking the baby overseas. If no then he can apply for PR which is an added level of complication/ expense. Whether or not he has the resources / resolve to do that only you can know.

Another thing to consider is your visa status and your ability to financially support yourself as a single person.

You need legal advice basically

Dancingtuna · 25/02/2024 12:20

Well you’ll need to go through the correct channels. It’s incredibly unlikely you’ll be able to leave with baby though considering the background here