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Hen Do sharing rooms

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LMSLMS · 23/02/2024 20:44

I'm going on a hen do this weekend and one of my friends has been told she's sharing a room with someone she doesn't know, this would be fine however we've just found out it's double beds, how would other people feel about this, would you be comfortable?

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Peaceupatown · 24/02/2024 06:53

No chance - would rather pay for my own room

TidyDancer · 24/02/2024 06:46

Yeah I absolutely wouldn't be willing to do this. I don't even like sharing a twin room with a friend, let alone a double with a strange. I'll share a twin with my sister for a couple of nights if I have to but that's about it.

I'd let the organiser know it's a no in this case. OP, can you share with your friend instead?

Coconutter24 · 24/02/2024 06:39

How does your friend feel about this?

PuttingDownRoots · 24/02/2024 06:37

Double or king size/super king?

Double bed... no way. Thats a bit too intimate. Plus being slightly podgy.. bit over aware of taking up space.

Bigger bed, with own covers, a friend... have done before and would do.

Shared with stranger... again fine.

Shared bed with stranger... a bit uneasy.

Lightnose · 24/02/2024 06:23

I've learned, far too late in life, that life's better when we go for it, take a risk.

I'd previously have been the person who paid the extra and had my own room, but after being widowed and realising how expensive it is having to do that every time, I share with anyone who'll have me now. Men, women, friends, aquaintances, strangers. It's never been awful and the vast majority of times it's been a very positive experience, adding something good to my life.

FiveShelties · 24/02/2024 04:34

Why don't you share with her if you are friends?

Minimili · 24/02/2024 04:04

Starzinsky · 24/02/2024 00:06

Totally no.

I wouldn’t want to share a bed with a stranger and I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t want to share with me.

Apparently I sleep talk and my partner says I often say very random things that would probably unnerve or confuse someone who doesn’t know me. Some examples are:
”WILFRED… get that bag of coal away from me, I’ve just about had enough of you and your stupid eyes!” (I don’t know anyone called Wilfred)

”it’s all black and the wolves are coming…”

”I DID NOT WANT THAT ONE!” DP confused asked which one? What did I want?
“I WANT THE OTHER ONE!! Please please don’t get it again I don’t like it”

”shhh don’t wake my owl he doesn’t like that, I don’t want him to go because I just love him so much”
DP was getting ready for work and I was still asleep and apparently stroking the duvet and smiling when I said this.

Based on these examples (and this has just been in the last few weeks, there have been many more over the years) I think anyone sharing a bed with me wouldn’t get much sleep 😂.

DP used to think I was awake and joking because he said I say these things with utter conviction and sometimes he has to answer or I’ll carry on wittering until I’ve had a response. We’ve been together 10 years so he doesn’t bat an eyelid anymore but I don’t think a stranger wants to be shouted at or told it’s dark and wolves are coming so I would definitely think twice before I agreed to share a room with anyone!

Tilllly · 24/02/2024 02:49

I'd not like it but I'd do it as a one off for the hen

Pillows down the middle to avoid the roll together/ bum touches

Then hope I don't fart all night
💨 🌬️ 💨🌬️💨🌬️💨🌬️💨🌬️💨🌬️

garlictwist · 24/02/2024 02:42

I share double beds with my friends all the time when we go away but not sure about a stranger.

Forgottenmypasswordagain · 24/02/2024 02:39

caringcarer · 24/02/2024 02:36

I'd not like sharing a room with a stranger, let alone a bed. I'd pay the extra and have my own room or not go if not enough rooms available to get an extra one.

Same.

caringcarer · 24/02/2024 02:36

I'd not like sharing a room with a stranger, let alone a bed. I'd pay the extra and have my own room or not go if not enough rooms available to get an extra one.

andfinallyhereweare · 24/02/2024 02:25

Wouldn’t bother me

lto2019 · 24/02/2024 00:56

I wouldn't want to share a bed or a room with a stranger. I wouldn't want to share a bed or room with a friend. I wouldn't want to go on a hen do! I'm fun😀

DinnaeFashYersel · 24/02/2024 00:44

I wouldn't share a room, never mind a bed

thebestinterest · 24/02/2024 00:29

LMSLMS · 23/02/2024 20:44

I'm going on a hen do this weekend and one of my friends has been told she's sharing a room with someone she doesn't know, this would be fine however we've just found out it's double beds, how would other people feel about this, would you be comfortable?

Sharing a bed with a stranger? HELL NO

Starzinsky · 24/02/2024 00:06

Totally no.

MrsSucculent · 23/02/2024 23:01

Absolutely not. I’d rather sleep on the floor tbh. Or the sofa. I fart and snore so absolutely no way would I inflict that on anyone - friend or stranger!

momonpurpose · 23/02/2024 23:01

No I don't even like to share a room much less this.

WaltzingWaters · 23/02/2024 23:00

I’ve travelled for years, spending so many nights in crowded hostel rooms. And even I say no way to this. Two singles is maybe okay. But a double bed with someone you’ve never met is too much.

Ultravox · 23/02/2024 22:57

I wouldn’t mind this at all. I’d obviously prefer a bed to myself but for one night (and after a few drinks) I’d be fine with it

Tonto2001 · 23/02/2024 22:54

Nah, would this wouldn't bother me.
After I night out I could sleep on a chickens lip.
And to be fair, after some of the horrors I've woken up with years ago it could t be much worse than them 🤣🤣

User19798 · 23/02/2024 22:41

Even my kids won't share with me. Apparently I "get cuddly"when I sleep.

Hadjab · 23/02/2024 22:41

puzzledout · 23/02/2024 21:26

With someone you don't know?

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Yep, I’ve done it twice before. Once was in a men’s hostel in Milan with a random girl who was staying at the same hotel as me, which apparently had no record of around six bookings. Got there really late, via coach, so didn’t have much choice as to where to sleep. It was the 80s - yes, I was young and foolish!

cauliflowerqueen · 23/02/2024 22:40

I'd really rather not, but then I don't get the appeal of these overnight celebrations, anyway. One day/night out together is enough for me. I'd rather go back to my own bed at the end of the festivities.

Frangipanyoul8r · 23/02/2024 22:30

Sharing a bed with my own husband is bad enough.