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Fullofideas1988 · 23/02/2024 18:22

Company I work for give us an allowance per year to spend on a holiday through them or one of our partners. Has to be a holiday, can't be changed for anything else.

Last yeah it was spent on a weekend away for me and DH as we had a significant anniversary.

This year I need to spend the money by the end of this month but can be on a break after this date. Dh doesn't want to use it on a weekend away, or a family holiday as he thinks the youngest would be a handful (that's a whole different thread, youngest is nearly 2 so still in nappies, naps etc)

Someone at work jokingly said why don't I use the money to take a few days away just myself. I laughed it off at first but then thought about it and the idea is growing on me. Since having DC (8 and 2) I haven't had a break away, whereas DH has had countless weekends away with his friends for football games or just because, I've had a few trips away with work but that's it.

But it feels selfish to spend a not small amount of money on 2 or 3 nights away somewhere just for me - although the thought of uninterrupted sleep and being able tonjust go for a walk by myself also sounds amazing!

Mentioned it to DH and he said do what I want as long as he's not on shift so can be here for school and nursery runs

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TubeScreamer · 23/02/2024 22:12

Same here!

TruthorDie · 23/02/2024 21:47

nc42day · 23/02/2024 18:26

You wouldn't see me for dust.

Same. I would be off and gone!

BigDogEnergy · 23/02/2024 21:46

Do it!

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ShirleyPhallus · 23/02/2024 21:42

I really really don’t know why you wouldn’t?! And why you haven’t already!

pictoosh · 23/02/2024 21:40

Sounds awesome and you should absolutely do it.

delaysdelays · 23/02/2024 21:39

It's insane you even have to ask/question it!

Please read your post back out loud and slowly to yourself.

Watchthedoormat · 23/02/2024 21:39

You are very fortunate.
Go you lucky lady

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 23/02/2024 21:34

A paid for break with no kids AND OH is supportive and not moaning?

MN dream

clpsmum · 23/02/2024 20:24

Do it

TheseLegsDefinitelyUsedToBeLonger · 23/02/2024 20:10

EveryOtherNameTaken · 23/02/2024 18:29

💨

Best. Comment. Ever.

nutbrownhare15 · 23/02/2024 19:13

Definitely do it and as you say very good all round for each family member for DH to be the default for a few days

Americano75 · 23/02/2024 18:56

Damn, do it!

rubyredknowsitall · 23/02/2024 18:50

Jeeze, do you really need to check with mumsnet for validation that treating yourself isn't a crime?

Even if it's 'selfish' so what? Being selfless all the time is being a doormat - it's important to look after yourself

Createausername1970 · 23/02/2024 18:46

Do it. If he goes away in his own at other times, then it's a no brainer.

If you are apprehensive about being away from your children or worrying about getting back quickly in an emergency, then pick a nice town not too far away that has good amenities, and book the best hotel with a spa or similar. Just being away and have time to yourself is the break, it doesn't have to be a long way off.

puzzledout · 23/02/2024 18:45

Where can you go OP, give MN a list of your wants and we will help you choose!

Dominoeffecter · 23/02/2024 18:44

Omg no question, do it

Fullofideas1988 · 23/02/2024 18:43

Thanks everyone

I guess it the mums guilt of taking time for myself which I never do

But I definitely need the break and just being able to relax for a few days would do me the world of good

And probably good for DH to be the default parent for a few days!

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Janetsmug · 23/02/2024 18:42

Oh please go OP, some of us need to live vicariously through you! Sounds like heaven to me having nothing to do and no one to worry about but yourself Envy

LizFromMotherland · 23/02/2024 18:40

This is like asking Mumsnet if you're unreasonable to think the sky is blue 🤣🤣

You've described a scenario that's all pros and no cons so the answer is obvious.

Enjoy!

Ouchmyarse · 23/02/2024 18:40

I’d already be out the door, mate 😂

foodtoorder · 23/02/2024 18:40

Do it, sounds like a perfect way of having a girls weekend!

bridgetreilly · 23/02/2024 18:39

Yes, do it! Spa break? City break? Have a great time.

ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 23/02/2024 18:37

Absolutely, do it.

ThisHonestQuail · 23/02/2024 18:35

Absolutely! Why wouldn’t you do it?!

ICouldHaveCheckedFirst · 23/02/2024 18:34

Go!
You'll come back refreshed, so everyone will benefit.
You need the 'me' time, especially if you are hesitating.

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